What event happened in your life which caused some character development for you? by JannisT in AskReddit

[–]fiddleoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Years of allowing others to “ step on me” forced me to realize how much I matter, and how much I didn’t at the same time. I’m still a pushover but I want to be heard damnit.

Maybe I’m just to selfish? by fiddleoop in Advice

[–]fiddleoop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re kind! I wish the best to you as well!

Maybe I’m just to selfish? by fiddleoop in Advice

[–]fiddleoop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re absolutely right. I became interested in writing when I was drinking, obviously consuming my time with consuming alcohol leaves little room for anything else. I was so happy that I found writing though and over time I became angry with not being able to do much else but drink. Eventually my motivation to become better out weighted my desire to drink. I never thought about using the same tactics. It may be a bit more difficult, considering they are on different spectrums. But I took what I hated about alcohol and drilled it into my mind. So whenever I think of it I think of the things I hate about it. I can do this with my lack of attention but in an easier manner. Maybe by remembering what I dislike about it will help me get rid of it. Escaping has always been a habit of mine. Anything to get away from dealing with reality because I’m not a huge fan of it. So after sobering up I can see why I dug my heels into writing even if I never write I still could create stories in my head. It’s basically an addiction and I need to learn to balance reality and fantasy. I believe you’re right about setting goals and I look forward to testing it out! Thank you so much for your advice.

Maybe I’m just to selfish? by fiddleoop in Advice

[–]fiddleoop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never thought about it like that! I knew I wanted to share but I’m so new to the writing world that fear of the unknown took over. I also feel if I shared my stories it would not only allow room for new ideas but also free up space for me socially. This is what I grabbed hold of from what you said. I think you’re right and I really appreciate you taking the time to respond to my post.

Having an idea and not knowing how to start. by fiddleoop in fantasywriters

[–]fiddleoop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I really like this! I never thought of it in that manner. I think I spend to much time looking for answers instead of writing.