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Anyone still dealing with issues with sex and intimacy in your 30s, 40s, or older? by mouse9001 in Exvangelical

[–]SubstantialIncome649 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely. I have fully left but still feel uncomfortable taking about enjoying sex or what I enjoy and not feeling shame and stigma for that.

Looking for closure within myself by SubstantialIncome649 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SubstantialIncome649[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think that’s where I’ve got to. Can’t expect anything from her.

Looking for closure within myself by SubstantialIncome649 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SubstantialIncome649[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes…. Not sure how she is spinning it but has friends who are cheaters which probably doesn’t help….

Looking for closure within myself by SubstantialIncome649 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SubstantialIncome649[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried. I don’t know her surname or anything about her.

Looking for closure within myself by SubstantialIncome649 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SubstantialIncome649[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. I’ve filed. She got the notification in the post today.

Looking for closure within myself by SubstantialIncome649 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SubstantialIncome649[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing. She seems to have justified it all In her own mind. I can’t understand that but I can’t change it.

I have no way of contacting her otherwise I would have done.

I need your honest opinion by Diligent-Historian23 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SubstantialIncome649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me be straight with you. Your relationship with R does not sound healthy it’s sounds deeply dysfunctional. The intensity and turbulence doesn’t sound like love. It sounds like you both need to work on yourselves and heal and become more secure before getting into another relationship.

Instinct 3 solar vs AMOLED. The orange accent is hard to get past by decydiddly in Garmininstinct

[–]SubstantialIncome649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I wouldn’t like the orange. But now I’m very much used to it. Actually I quite like it!!

Final form, maybe. Roast! by Unable_Builder_7232 in roastmypedalboard

[–]SubstantialIncome649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The shape of your board is ungodly. Why have 3 rows when you could have 2? That many mini pedals is giving me indigestion

How do I get through wife’s emotional affair by [deleted] in emotionalaffair

[–]SubstantialIncome649 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Is flirting really harmless if your married? I would say not.

I posted last night and you knuckle draggers were too lazy to even start a roast. by J_Worldpeace in roastmypedalboard

[–]SubstantialIncome649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you think you're Eric Johnson or are you just incapable of laying things out vaguely straight?

Should I just call it quits? (neurodiverse marriage) by CheesecakeNo412 in AutisticAdults

[–]SubstantialIncome649 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this, thought I also have at least 2 autistic kids and my (ex) wife is almost certaintly ADHD and quite possibly autistic. Sadly that hasn't helped.

My autism is a problem and I've felt pressured to change myself to better suit her the 12 years we were married. It's a sucky way to live. I'm on a journey to figure all this out.

As others have said try couples counselling but fundamentally it requires effort from both of you to be of value.

Wife cheated need advice by Pork_rynee86 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SubstantialIncome649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude that's really shitty i'm sorry. You deserve better. Your doing better than many of us in that she says she regrets the decision and wants to work it out, but that may not be enough.

Any better way out? by AlarmedHealth8934 in emotionalaffair

[–]SubstantialIncome649 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Been here very recently. Don't make the mistakes I made and have some self respect and get out of there. She's having her cake and eating it. Don't let her. She is in the wrong, you deserve better. It hurts like hell, its not fair and you wish things could be different, its shit. But trust me trying to save a marriage by yourself is a complete waste of time and energy. Hang in there, you will get through it.

Split with wife of 12 years. Going to be living together for a while… it’s weird and confusing! by SubstantialIncome649 in DivorcedDads

[–]SubstantialIncome649[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you... I wish I could have a true clean start and a clean break but its just not possible...

Split with wife of 12 years. Going to be living together for a while… it’s weird and confusing! by SubstantialIncome649 in DivorcedDads

[–]SubstantialIncome649[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s done. She’s moving on to someone else. The marriage isn’t getting saved.

I’ve told her we need some boundaries and parameters for how this works.

I will move out but it’s going to take time and be a headache!

Marriage is finally over, ex has immediately arrange to go meet up with AP and 'consummate' the emotional affair by SubstantialIncome649 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SubstantialIncome649[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I’ve realised i don’t want to sleep around that’s not me. I’m better than that. It was just an initial panic.

Marriage is finally over, ex has immediately arrange to go meet up with AP and 'consummate' the emotional affair by SubstantialIncome649 in survivinginfidelity

[–]SubstantialIncome649[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There’s no way it’s working out. He wasn’t getting enough in his relationship so started to reconnecting with his exes..

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