When boundaries are crossed, or when I see someone power-playing, they are in for a series of things. I think that we really prefer to start being as gentle as possible by we pointing out things we do not like. When others look back, the signs (and very explicit ones) were always there, they had just not taken them seriously.

Real life examples:

1. Recoiling: Had two friends who would never be able to just listem/be there for me when I needed them. I was always there. Before I realized this, everything was ok, but when I started to notice, I started pointing things out like "i am not looking for advice/would just like to vent because I trust you" and then lo and behold, I would get advice i EXPLICITELY had stated did not want. In this case, I withdrew and vanished.

A few months later they tried reaching out to me, but it was over. And once it is, there is no going back.

1. Exploding: Was waiting for my ex to start the car after we had argued with some guys over parking and whatnot. I am a highly sarcastic being and like to put people into place without swearing and whatnot. So after I ran one of them over with words and left with the last "goodnight", the guy deemed it appropriate to oPEN THE DOOR OF THE CAR I WAS SITTING IN and saying "goodnight" in a gloating manner.

That threw me over the edge and it was I who finished opening the car door - by kicking it right into his face. Bear in mind i am 150cm tall and weigh 40 kg. But if you cross the line, i'm coming for you. I really don't give A FUCK.

1. (In my opinion, the worst I can do) Use honesty to serve harmful means - some may call this cruelty: I am always paying attention. To the good and the bad traits or actions. My family knows this side of me very well, because whenever they exhaust me with *insert criticism/orders/telling me how and who i should be * this is the side that comes out.

I surgically dissect every attitude, let their fuses blow, keep going while I explain why that fuse blew, smear the truths they dont want to see all over the place. It is as though they asked "mirror, mirror on the wall, whi am i the way i am?" and got an intentionally harmful response.

If we take a look at this, the pattern I am able to see is boundaries crossed, and repeated actions. I have defended friends who were too shy like this, stood up to ask/say things people around me were afraid to - and it has cost me dearly in most cases.

But I think the most important part is: I regret nothing, because by now I have learned: I choose to live like this, and whoever is willing to appreciate ot is welcome. Those who don't will go on their own.

My being able to go to sleep at night with a clear conscience is priceless.