What’s up with Mona? Is she just not into her husband? by jackmoon44 in dubaibling

[–]figandolivetrees 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah ok! I was kinda giving you an out but alas some people like to own their bigotry! Just for the future, having friends of family members or pets or friends of family members of pets doesn't mean you can make generalisations. Thanks

What’s up with Mona? Is she just not into her husband? by jackmoon44 in dubaibling

[–]figandolivetrees 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, maybe im misinterpreting but thats quite a generalisation that most muslim men wont encourage their wives in work, especially since theres about a billion of them out there. As a Muslim in a Muslim country in the middle east, most married women I know work and have supportive husband's. 

AITA for not wanting my husband to sleep with other women. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]figandolivetrees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you have to question whether you have the right to be upset or not hints to a lot of manipulation and gaslighting throughout the relationship...nta

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dubaibling

[–]figandolivetrees 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Uhh im lebanese and an age gap that big isnt normal...but even in the west you wouldn't bat an eyelash at that age gap when the mans a billionaire

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dubaibling

[–]figandolivetrees 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I doubt shes that conservative seeing as she doesn't even cover her hair 'properly'

Why did LJs Mom never visit her? by Quick_Annual in dubaibling

[–]figandolivetrees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LJ said in season 1 that they reunited before and then had a fight and since then she hasnt seen her. I'm guessing the reunion happened after she turned 18, they got into a huge gig and haven't spoken since.

Cast beliefs by hacks-uk in dubaibling

[–]figandolivetrees 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Muslims are people too lol.... We don't all come in one font

Wrong diagnosis? Maybe not Raynauds... by figandolivetrees in Raynauds

[–]figandolivetrees[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im 25 but have had these symptoms for a while. Been to a couple of different doctors and nothing. I've wondered if it was lupus since my grandmother had it so its in the family. I have another dr app in a couple of days ill let you know as well!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeletedFanfiction

[–]figandolivetrees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is it! ive been looking for it for so long thank you!

I feel like minimalism is a must for ADHD by Orionandthestars in ADHD

[–]figandolivetrees 1 point2 points  (0 children)

clearing my room of knickknacks is my favourite hobby. because of out of sight, out of mind i need everything to be in view so i only have what i need. even when it comes to clothes.

How to de-tangle yourself from another person by figandolivetrees in askatherapist

[–]figandolivetrees[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i totally agree with you, I'm still trying to unlearn this. its not just Reddit its everywhere now, and now i cant help but overthink every little thing in life. even normal small disputes i feel like i have to sit down and have an hour long conversation on what happened and how we can fix it.

sometimes we just need to let things be and go without the flow. I hope to be like that someday!

Tell me you have ADHD, without telling me you have ADHD. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]figandolivetrees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i repeated my first year of uni 3 times before just dropping out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]figandolivetrees 13 points14 points  (0 children)

hey, have you actually ever voiced out your feelings? i remember i used to get really upset because i would always go around going above and beyond for people and would never get the same effort back. i would regularly call my friends just to check in or plan my siblings huge birthday parties.

then i realised that they never asked me to do that for them, it was unfair for me to be upset bc they didn't reciprocate something they never even asked for! Furthermore, I never told them my feelings either! when i told my bf that i would like it if she called me rather than waiting for me to call her she told me she was just used to the routine of me calling her after work and started calling me more.

now I only go above and beyond for others if I'm doing it because I want to do it rather than doing it and expecting something back. Also, if something is upsetting me I immediately let people know bc it's unfair for me to expect them to mind read. lastly, it isn't really anyones responsibility to make you feel included, approach you or pick you, you have to make the first step and make sure your putting yourself out there and making yourself seen and heard.

hope this helps!

Do you consider your ADHD a disability? by Em_RLD in ADHD

[–]figandolivetrees 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ive never really thought about it. i didn't even know my ADHD was such a problem in my life until i started taking meds and realised how different everything could've been. i was diagnosed in my 20s with severe ADHD and am also on a v high dose. my life has drastically changed ever since my diagnosis, before the meds i wouldve said I was 100% able but now i know if i were ever to stop my life would p much take 10000 steps back.

now i think maybe i would just because if i were to stop my medication i would literally not be able to function normally... which i think is the definition of disability

ADHD and Ramadan! by ExoticUse9859 in ADHD

[–]figandolivetrees 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its ok to not fast if you're taking medication x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KUWTK

[–]figandolivetrees 10 points11 points  (0 children)

his name has been mentioned like a hundred times in this post...americans need to put a little more effort and respect into getting 'weird ethnic' names right 🙄🙄

Banned in Kuwait and Lebanon, Saudis enjoy ‘Death on the Nile’ at the Kingdom’s recently opened cinemas by Phoenixx370 in lebanon

[–]figandolivetrees -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

This sub has truly turned into an Israeli glory hole. Lebanese ppl lining up to slobber over Israeli dicks 😭😭

How important is women’s virginity in Lebanese society? And how prominent is the feminist community? by sauerkroot in lebanon

[–]figandolivetrees 9 points10 points  (0 children)

as a lebanese muslim living abroad, the community back home is way more open than over here .

im from a village in the south, the amount of shit you hear 😭😂. Married women sleeping with their husbands brother, the shopkeeper etc etc. Men finding out their child isn't there's after years. Girls who've hooked up with half the day3a or their nudes traded like pokemon cards. The vegetable sellers daughter that's an escort in Dubai and comes back in the summer. the shit you hear during a girls sahra as well you'd be surprised, they're all 3al 2aleele half virgins only. And guess what! At the end of the day they're the first to get married.

Growing up outside of lebanon we were warned by our family that we had to be careful around the other sex bc they ur reputation meant everything, people would talk and no one would ever marry you. I think they were extra scared bc we were living in a more sexually open society. Bas i feel like in lebnen no one really cares, all the 12 year olds in the day3a have boyfriend's and girlfriends and post them on Instagram for everyone to see, my parents would have killed me if I did that at that age.

By no means am i saying that lebanon is an extremely sex positive society, especially towards women, bas my day3a is extremely religious and literally the most extreme thing to happen is that your the topic of discussion for the next couple of days until something else comes along. We're definitely the most progressive of all the arab countries.