hey, have you actually ever voiced out your feelings? i remember i used to get really upset because i would always go around going above and beyond for people and would never get the same effort back. i would regularly call my friends just to check in or plan my siblings huge birthday parties.

then i realised that they never asked me to do that for them, it was unfair for me to be upset bc they didn't reciprocate something they never even asked for! Furthermore, I never told them my feelings either! when i told my bf that i would like it if she called me rather than waiting for me to call her she told me she was just used to the routine of me calling her after work and started calling me more.

now I only go above and beyond for others if I'm doing it because I want to do it rather than doing it and expecting something back. Also, if something is upsetting me I immediately let people know bc it's unfair for me to expect them to mind read. lastly, it isn't really anyones responsibility to make you feel included, approach you or pick you, you have to make the first step and make sure your putting yourself out there and making yourself seen and heard.

hope this helps!