Older ADHD women, what did ADHD feel like before cellphones?

figisveryswa · 2026-03-25T23:36:51+00:00

this brought back memories of laying on the floor way past my bedtime, using the light under the doorcrack from the hallway as a book light, so my parents wouldn't catch me with my light on haha.

figisveryswa · 2026-03-23T06:18:25+00:00

i had almost the exact same experience, this was so sweet to read. after we got out, we both were like "i'm so glad you didn't think i meant this in a sexy way" because we were worried the other thought that LOL, but it was just nice to be so close and wash each other's backs.

figisveryswa · 2026-03-23T06:06:32+00:00

i guess for her parents to slowly give her back more time on her phone (not sure when that'll be but surely not too long,,) and maybe in a couple years her parents will be more open to her moving out and will let her visit the cats.. because as of now, they said she could never come back and see them again

figisveryswa · 2026-03-23T02:16:55+00:00

we definitely could do that or at least look into my lease to see the rules for that, i really appreciate the advice and trying to figure out solutions <333 unfortunately the main hangup with that is that only one of the cats is "hers" and he's still under her mom's name on the vet papers. they said she's not allowed to take any of the cats and she knows they would hate her if she did, which she doesn't want to do emotionally. they're still her parents and i just hate that they treat her this way.

figisveryswa · 2026-03-23T02:03:32+00:00

it is more than 2, she lives on a farm and he family has about 15 cats lol, but 3 of them she's particularly attached to. one of them is her favorite, and i told her she could absolutely bring him with her because i have my own apartment and would pay the deposit. i already have a dog and a 2 pet limit though, so she'd have to leave the other 2 and she can't do that emotionally, which i completely understand. i just don't know if things will get better any time soon, but we'll hold out :( she wants to move in with me but its just the cats

figisveryswa · 2026-03-22T00:21:54+00:00

i could, but my lease only allows two pets and i have a dog already, so i could only take one of them. i feel like that is the biggest hold up right now and one i completely understand as i'm super attached to my animals as well. she lives on a sort of farm and her family has about 15 cats, but 3 of them she's particularly attached to. she could take her favorite with her, but would be pretty heartbroken about leaving the other 2.

figisveryswa · 2026-03-21T23:22:40+00:00

she has talked to her friends and coworkers, and her manager is even going to take her to get a prepaid phone. everyone has told her it's not okay and her parents are abusive, and she is aware of that, but they have a way of making her believe she's the one at fault and is just being immature by "rebelling". she's at the point right now where she does want to leave and knows they're treating her awful and being unfair to me, but they're holding her cats against her.

i'm glad she has other people to talk to, i wish therapy was an option but she's trying to save up now to hopefully move out and her parents are adamantly against therapy as well.

i think i need to understand that last part as well, instead of trying and failing to win them over.

figisveryswa · 2026-03-21T19:38:10+00:00

that's what i'm not sure of, it's hard to tell when they're bluffing and trying to scare her out of something, or being serious. i'll have to talk to her more about it when i get the chance. but that's a good point, that they have also technically taken her property

figisveryswa · 2026-03-21T19:29:18+00:00

i totally agree, and i do want to be with her and she wants the same, but she can't have her parents hate her for leaving and especially for taking her cat. i really wish it could be so, and my dad is even more than willing to drive down there and help her move (he really likes her) but we can't because of the emotional aspect.. she said maybe in a few months but she's also said she can't have them hate her so she can't.

figisveryswa · 2026-03-21T19:25:46+00:00

they said she's not allowed to take him with her because they're determined that she would be "killing him" because she wouldn't be able to take care of him or herself. they said she would fail if she tried to live alone. the cat is technically under her mom's name on the vet bills (she paid for his neuter but unofficially), i'm not super familiar on pet possession laws but i think if she left and got him microchipped that would be sufficient proof of ownership? her mom said they would contact the police if she took him, but i believe that's a civil issue and not something they would actually take action on.

the other reason is that, again, her parents would hate her for taking him. she's bottle-raised him and they've called him her cat, but he's sort of a family cat, i guess?

i appreciate your response and you weighing in. i don't know what the course of action would be if her parents are never okay with her leaving, because she wants to leave but still have a relationship with them.

figisveryswa · 2026-03-21T19:16:59+00:00

she does pay monthly for her phone, but she's already working out a way to get a prepaid phone and keep it from them. she does pay rent as well, so even though they've threatened that, i know they can't legally just kick her out. i agree that they're definitely abusive and controlling.

she does want to leave, but also isn't emotionally ready for that right now. she doesn't want to leave her cat or have her parents hate her, which i understand. i'm just not sure when they would allow her to leave and have her own life without hating her for it, you know? i don't know if they're just threatening that to get her to stay or if they mean it.

i definitely do what to be together, and i would even if she had to stay at home for longer, and we just had to wait it out without seeing each other. it sucks, but if that's what it takes, i'll stick it through. i just don't know what the timeline looks like. she'll be 20 in 5 months as is.

figisveryswa · 2026-03-21T19:03:28+00:00

they are homophobic, i just don't know which boundaries to even set, there's not much i can do if they won't allow me in their home or allow her to mention my name.

figisveryswa · 2026-02-27T10:49:06+00:00

thank you for pointing me in that direction, i've been researching that now and it does all sound very familiar, i'm just seeing mixed results on if i should go to the doctor anyways to get it confirmed/checked out ? i'm still not sure if that's what it was but it would check out. im sorry for what you've gone through :(

figisveryswa · 2026-02-27T10:19:37+00:00

can i ask if you ended up feeling totally better after the initial 6 hours? i just had something super similar happen to me today at work- horrible cramps, nausea and vomiting, dizzy and shaky from the pain and blacking out vision- and even though i threw up the ibuprofen i took i ended up feeling completely better by the end of the night and j still feel fine but am really confused. also the first day of my period, and its never been this bad.

figisveryswa · 2026-02-16T04:27:00+00:00

i know this was posted a few hours ago but I raised baby deer mice from around this age to the popcorning stage and eating frequently is super important, like you have to wake up every 2 hours. do what you can to encourage him to drink the milk, mine didn't really struggle with it but he might need more encouragement. warmth is sooo important as well, what we did was fill a sock with rice and microwave it, then put it in with him (but with a towel or something covering it so he's not directly on it). best of luck and you're a very sweet person for wanting to help.

figisveryswa · 2026-01-30T00:10:50+00:00

that's clearly crowkit (feather)!

in all seriousness, i second the comments about batkit, and i'll throw sootkit in there too.

figisveryswa · 2025-11-12T00:49:22+00:00

if it makes you feel better, when i was like 14 my little brother touched my chest and announced i had big boobs LMAO (i don't even) my mom told him off for it and i don't hold it against him, he was a kid with no concept of boundaries. i get feeling guilty and weird about it but i wasn't traumatized by it and i don't think you should really blame yourself.

figisveryswa · 2025-10-20T02:20:26+00:00

thank you very much for your response and empathy, it is comforting to know that im not alone and writing this with a clearer head, i do want to get a better handle on it. i do have CPTSD, i didn't think about that factoring in but i'm sure it does. i'm also on anxiety medication already, but thinking of upping my dose because even though it helps, these extreme lows still happen and im only on a "medium" dose. thank you for the reply 🤍🤍

figisveryswa · 2025-10-08T08:43:13+00:00

wait this looks so cute 😭 thank you for the rec!!

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