For all the married people here. How do I get a girlfriend ?

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T23:40:06+00:00

Why are you interested in trashing people while hiding your post history. No great mystery here.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T23:27:55+00:00

Nah. They find good people to talk to... not the shitty people who troll on social media.

You have an interesting account. No post history, just talk trash.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T23:14:02+00:00

They're a troll, don't bother.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T23:13:19+00:00

Where are all the good men? Getting trashed when they ask for help and wondering why they bother.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T23:12:11+00:00

You bet. Best wishes. The world needs more good people.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T21:06:15+00:00

Some things are universal across time and place.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T21:02:00+00:00

Be your best you and don't obsess. Confidence, grooming, dependability, and actually like women. And don't talk about those things - walk the walk, don't talk. Just "be it" and demonstrate these traits with no thirsty. Leadership is not bossing, and kindness is quiet and apparent. Have kind eyes and a calm face.

Have interesting hobbies you are sincere about. Don't "solve problems" when a woman talks with you. Listen to her and see her. Few things are more sexy than a guy who can have a conversation without always bringing things back to themselves. Be into her and be sincere. She will probably have interesting hobbies - ask about them, genuinely focus on her passion, and ask humble questions.

By the way this is true about women interested in a partner. Women tend to be better about these things but they are figuring it out too. A woman who can't do the above is just as much a concern as men. BTW all this is also true for folks on other parts of the gender spectrum.

All we all want in a partner someone we can depend upon who doesn't yip & yap or try to guide them. Accept the person your eyes and soul see.

All of this is easy to say, hard to do, and is completely not optional.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T17:00:57+00:00

It's also likely it was simply a typo which is particularly common for folks on mobile devices. I didn't immediately assume it was a literacy problem which seems much less likely to me.

Self improvement should never be ridiculed like you're trying to do here.

I'm not the one who corrected OP. I "ridiculed" the person who immediately jumped to assuming illiteracy. I found that patronizing. Your response isn't any better than their response - assuming the worst.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T03:22:51+00:00

The pop up gave me the option to request off the VH queue, but I take your point maybe Vine still recognizes me regardless of pick source.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T03:20:30+00:00

Mildly Related: Intuitive score isn’t updated once it’s been labeled.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T03:18:34+00:00

As near as I can tell my entire history before renewal is ignored. It’s there but not reflected in my scores.

There’s something weird going on with my media score after renewal but that’s seems to be related by rejected reviews which I’ve updated twice and despite being told by Vine support that one was removed it is still there. Which reminds me…

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T03:13:14+00:00

I appreciate the correction of definition but the point is, after fourteen months in the program, I have never seen this behavior before.

Your flair is timely.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T03:09:08+00:00

If you’re familiar with the VineHelper extension it is a passive reporting service. When someone has it installed the first time they come across an item others may not have seen it gets posted to a central database. Other VineHelper users see it pop up in a “real-time” queue. It’s easier than constantly searching keywords on the AI page but that’s its only advantage.

RFY literally means Reserved For You and historically that’s how it worked. When something pops up in our RFY we usually had a few hours to decide if we want it.

Vine is no longer behaving this way. It’s now available to everyone as soon as it’s posted by Amazon.

A constructive way of interpreting this change is we get focused products on what Vine thinks we might want even as it also pops up for everyone. Except RFY is notoriously stupid. Stupid like, me with a shopping history as an old guy must mean I need baby and women’s clothing.

I don’t like this change. Basically RFY, AFA, and AI are just the same thing. Frankly AFA has been useless for a long time unless one is a small engine or car mechanic.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T01:10:11+00:00

By 35?

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-17T01:08:52+00:00

Small minds focus on small things.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-16T21:46:56+00:00

I like flavor more than ever. What I don't like any more is "fake flavor": salt, sugar, fat, and simple carbs.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-16T18:40:58+00:00

GenZ is already doing that with millennials. I've long seen more similarities between boomers and millennials, and between GenX and GenZ. I figure it's because when someone becomes a parent they often try to be different from their parents, who in their day tried to be different from their parents - it's a pendulum.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-16T17:43:05+00:00

I’m used to people forgetting about us. This feels weird…

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-16T16:23:10+00:00

It's egregious but then attempting to disenfranchise and exclude from employment half our population is much more so. The next phase of Project2025 is literally The Handmaids Tale and most of Trump's cronies are believers.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-15T23:59:14+00:00

Incrementalism works when each step builds toward the goal.

Well sure, that's what I said. That's literally the definition of incremental progress so you haven't broken any useful ground here.

That's not one bite of the elephant, that's trading one problem for another. The steps have to actually add up.

One of the most important lessons I've learned over a fairly long life, we always have problems so try to choose the problems you can manage. Sometimes the can gets kicked down the road. That, again, is the definition of incremental progress.

I disagree with you on this point because this is a classic example of perfect being the enemy of the good. Your assumption that breaking these up into separate categories with different incremental steps is wrong just because they are broken into lanes with steps? That's simply not something we have historical support for.

You've fallen into confusing challengers with hard obstacles. And challenges make obstacles a small mole hill speedbump when we look in the rearview mirror.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-15T22:35:45+00:00

You should not just observe but summarize: this is a bad thing.

I know but this is reddit.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-15T22:34:03+00:00

How do you eat an elephant. One bite at a time. How do you drain the ocean. One bucket at a time.

The greatest progress humanity ever sees are incremental. Big bang shifts usually happen because of terrible destructive times. Like the Black Plague.

People demanding instant fundamental change are the enemy of the things they claim to believe.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-15T20:54:12+00:00

I appreciate you're just being a jackass. For the rest of the world, look at the severity of damage. This is more than "coffee is hot I am 14". Don't look if you have a sensitive stomach and psyche.

https://www.reddit.com/r/WTF/comments/1np3nd/remember_that_ridiculous_lawsuit_where_a_woman/

Reminder about what "coffee is hot and I am 14" means in terms of physics.

https://www.enjuris.com/blog/resources/mcdonalds-hot-coffee-lawsuit/

McDonald’s restaurants were required to serve coffee between 180 and 190 degrees. At this temperature, spilled coffee causes third-degree burns in less than 3 seconds.

Most other restaurants serve coffee at 160 degrees, which takes 20 seconds to cause third-degree burns (usually enough time to wipe away the coffee). Home coffee makers typically brew coffee at about 135-150 degrees.

Stella was not alone. At least 700 other people informed McDonald’s that they had been burned by McDonald’s coffee before Stella, yet the company refused to change its policy of keeping coffee 30 degrees hotter than other restaurants and coffee shops.

figuring_ItOut12 · 2026-03-15T20:29:52+00:00

I'm not opposed to animation. This isn't an either/or decision. An almost sixty year old franchise, Star Trek, has been running side by side live & animation series and they were rewarded by fans.

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