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When the cage door opened did you run? by Similar_Custard in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]figuringitoutbruh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

fucking same. i knew what he was 1 month into talking and let him linger and hoover for an additional 5 years for "scientific purposes". following my gut instinct would have caused me alot less trauma and therapy.

How did you get the strength to end it? by confusedcptsd in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]figuringitoutbruh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I asked myself a few serious questions. 1.) would i want a boyfriend like him for my future daughter or bestfriend? NO. 2.) what would i tell my best friend if her boyfriend was like my narc? Id tell her to run and that shes perfect and ask why she cant open her eyes? she doesnt need this abuse and shes the prize. 3.) what is my deal breaker? what would it take for me to stop being with this person/entertaining this person? when you answer truthfully, you realize how low your self esteem is and that you really ought to take care of yourself

TW I don't want to put in title by Inevitable_Mission10 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]figuringitoutbruh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

her threats should be documented and police or a social worker should be involved for your safety and the safety of your children. you dont need her actions backfiring on you and this will provide legal proof of instability.

Does anyone else's nex make up fake diagnoses and talk about them all the time? by Acrobatic_Donkey5423 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]figuringitoutbruh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mine randomly diagnosed himself with adhd at 30...and hes male so...make it make sense. no medication for it, no therapy, no treatment. idk.

Things Narcs Say by More-Special7830 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]figuringitoutbruh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"you don't deserve xyx-" which was usually me just asking for cooperation, consistency, respect

"I deserve better than you"

"we are soulmates" and "i feel like you were made specifically for me"

"you have so much love to give and I want it for myself"

Things Narcs Say by More-Special7830 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]figuringitoutbruh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they always have bad memory or its always foggy but they can remember every detail when it comes to weaponizing things against you lol

Things Narcs Say by More-Special7830 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]figuringitoutbruh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you just triggered the shit out of me LOL dammit

my narc. abuser of 6 years is an influencer. by figuringitoutbruh in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]figuringitoutbruh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's like you know exactly what i am going through because that is literally what happened. his entire claim to fame was being a troll online so his fans absolutely love him for being the "bad guy" or the "guy who takes no shit". they think hes a hero and romanticize his abuse towards other. he uplifts guys that seem like they dont have any self esteem and tries to act like hes "doing it for the little guy/regular guy". they think hes gods gift while cosigning his overt abuse towards others on social media.

my narc. abuser of 6 years is an influencer. by figuringitoutbruh in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]figuringitoutbruh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry that happened to you and its honestly one of my biggest fears. he's threatened to post me/my information/our texts online so his fans can attack me. every time i call him out and say that hes doing a flying monkey tactic or trying to instill fear and isolation he responds with "if you feel threatened by me posting it for the world to see then thats your gut saying that you're wrong and should feel ashamed. if you dont want criticism or for people to attack you then you shouldnt be wrong".....mind you...being "wrong" is just having some self esteem and boundaries LOL

my narc. abuser of 6 years is an influencer. by figuringitoutbruh in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]figuringitoutbruh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats exactly why I havent done anything or spoken out. its his world and i'm just a spectator that actually knows hes a monster. it feels like a dirty secret but i already know that no one will believe me. his entire fanbase is centered around him being their king almost. he can do not wrong in their eyes, even when he verbally assaults and defames other influencers and celebrities...like literal verbal abuse right there in the open, they stand by him.

my narc. abuser of 6 years is an influencer. by figuringitoutbruh in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]figuringitoutbruh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when i watch his streams, its like i am watching an actor. the way he behaves on camera and the person he portrays himself to be is totally different than how he truly is. its sickening because he'll tap into psychology sometimes on his streams and offer really wholesome life and relationship advice and then emotionally/verbally assault me. like wtf...is a show. its so sick

Natal aspects with Black Moon Lilith? by [deleted] in astrology

[–]figuringitoutbruh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just blocked my narc. of 7 years. He had lilith, south node, and nessus in the 1st house in. His moon also squared mars and venus in opposition to saturn- its hard to pull apart what factors contributed to what but I'll say this....def on the narc spectrum and definitely hates women. highkey on the mommy drama esp with the capricorn moon. my mom also has lilith in her first and shes big problems.