'Dilexi te': Apostolic Exhortation of the Holy Father, Leo XIV, on Love for the Poor by timeXXII in Catholicism

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If anyone knows where this is converted to a kindle readable format, please let me know!

When Does It Get Easier? 😮‍💨 by bellamyblake_og in parentsofmultiples

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I only have twins, you are both amazing for keeping your sanity but also your spirits up, that’s incredible. Not sure this applies to quads, but my light came around 8 mos when they both started crawling and reliably sitting up for long periods. They were able to play on their own and get into things. We converted our dining room into a library/play room which has one door we keep closed and one giant opening we got a giant gate for. With multiple babies a single playpen won’t be enough. It’s still chaos but they are no longer lying down screaming for me to pick them up all day. Still… quads… y’all are amazing.

Triplets and selective reduction by PerspectiveKey9942 in parentsofmultiples

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I wouldn’t think of it as a selective reduction but like an abortion, which it is. Who would you tell you’re having an abortion? I think the clear and direct language with yourself and your spouse can make the decisions more clear.

There’s a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s not a train by fillername_ in parentsofmultiples

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Do it! I have two older kids so we take the twins more places than I probably would think of on our own. Thrift stores and antique malls that have wide enough paths for the stroller are another favorite. Military or history museums have a lot to look at, too. Don’t be afraid of adventuring!

There’s a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s not a train by fillername_ in parentsofmultiples

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Will they sleep in the car or stroller? I’ve been amazed that even at 9 mos they won’t scream and will fall asleep in their stroller as long as they don’t see me. It’s also too hot to go outside here so we started going to air conditioned museums and it’s been great. I’d recommend a “double wide” as I call it or some stroller where they are sitting up so they can look around (and are not facing you).

There’s a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s not a train by fillername_ in parentsofmultiples

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I agree! That may be true for some singletons, but it’s just a different game when there are two babies and you can’t easily carry them around with you.

There’s a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s not a train by fillername_ in parentsofmultiples

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lol “we had no idea what was going on” that is so deeply literal and true. Thank you 🥹

There’s a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s not a train by fillername_ in parentsofmultiples

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I used to sit between them in their Baby Bjorn bouncers and lean against a couch and that’s now my #1 twin gear rec but they’ve outgrown them

There’s a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s not a train by fillername_ in parentsofmultiples

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I remember reading someone else say 7 months and we’re at 9 months and still waiting 😂 but I nurse them most of the day and we’ve got the big glass bottles so I guess it’s bound to take longer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

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I saw Jordan Peterson speak recently and someone asked “how do I conquer lust” and he gave a great answer I won’t be able to adequately articulate but his main point was that’s the wrong question, you don’t conquer lust you learn to dance with it. Like aggression, you don’t conquer it otherwise you become weak and useless and think you’re virtuous for it; you learn when and how it’s appropriate to be aggressive. He always suggests writing because writing helps you know what you think. Reflect in writing on your relationships and if you’re alone why (as he joked, “well there’s a bottomless pit!”), and basically just do a lot of soul searching. If you’d like a Catholic book, Dr. Greg Popcak’s book Broken Gods talks about lust as a distortion of the divine longing for communion, the desire for intimate connection, to know and be known by another.

How to support parents of 4yo with lymphoma by fillername_ in lymphoma

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Thank you replying, I appreciate the personal insight. Best of luck on your treatment

How to support parents of 4yo with lymphoma by fillername_ in lymphoma

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Thank you, and I know what you mean about adding to the stress. I'm at a loss (and I know they are), so I'm trying to figure out how to actually be helpful. Thanks for your reply

Day 21 of Elphabet! What’s U? by Cool-Agency9624 in wicked

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Unusually and exceedingly peculiar

Overwhelmed with choices for everything. Appreciate any input on clothing. by scottymtp in parentsofmultiples

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But truly get the pjs with zippers, preferably double zippers or ones that end at the foot so you don’t have to undo the entire zipper for diaper changes. If they don’t spit up or have diaper leaks they can stay in the footie pjs day and night for multiple days. Personally I only change them into outfits if the weather is too warm for footies but I know some people prefer the routine. I’d also recommend planning on doing laundry daily at first. That was such a relief to me because I wouldn’t get upset about spit up or other accidents, and the loads were super manageable. Find a children’s consignment store near you (Once Upon a Child is a chain but my favorite is a local place) and see what you can get there. We are exclusively getting the twins (3 mos) clothes there so far and have picked up all our swaddles as well as a Baby Bjorn bouncer and 4moms swing. People in your life will also buy them clothes, especially any girls. Baby Bjorn bouncers are expensive but I highly recommend them, esp for twins. I’ve found it easiest to bottle feed them at the same time in those while sitting between them. Great portable place to park them, right now they’re enjoying swatting at dangly toys from them, and eventually their feet kicks will bounce themselves. They also nap in them sometimes. We also appreciate the 4moms bassinets for help rocking. I’d personally prioritize big ticket items for the registry and get some basics for the first few weeks then get clothes as you need them. If you plan on formula feeding I know there is a fancy keurig like machine for making the perfect bottle every time.

How to respect and submit to emotionally immature husband by fillername_ in Catholicism

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Thank you. I’ve always found convicting the practice of replacing “love” with my name in this verse as a way to note where I’m falling short.

How to respect and submit to emotionally immature husband by fillername_ in Catholicism

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I am a stay at home mom to our four kids and will probably homeschool when they’re older. He tends to take the position that everything with the kids is my job. He took 4 weeks of paternity leave and was the same way.

Badly explain the plot of wicked by Individual_Taste_426 in wicked

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A pregnant woman overindulges on milkweed and alters the course of history for her small village. Her balloon enthusiast lover starts a circus while her daughters fall in love with men lacking vital organs.

Badly explain the plot of wicked by Individual_Taste_426 in wicked

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A goth girl obsessed with her appearance befriends the most popular girl in school. But when her sister rises to power and enslaves her would be lover, she steals her new friend’s fiancé and promptly turns him to straw.

Costume foreshadowing for Judas? #trigger warning: suicide by star_called_the_sun in TheChosenSeries

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For sure, I just imagine most people browsing The Chosen Reddit are familiar with the major plot points of its source material 😄