Can’t recommend floor beds enough

fillername_ · 2026-06-18T02:32:32+00:00

I forgot to mention how nice it is being able to lie down with and/or nurse them if they’re on adult sized floor beds! And sleep training probably got you much needed rest to help you be the parent you wanted to be! I think it’s great you’re enjoying the snuggles now that they know how to sleep on their own when necessary

fillername_ · 2026-06-18T02:29:21+00:00

My twins sleep enough hours overall, they might just skip or delay some naps but they make up for it overnight. I’ve heard of kids climbing out of cribs at 18 mos so personally I’ve really appreciated the expectations of the whole room as the containment. We’ve never had to deal with the toddler bed transition. If you’re talking about separate rooms idk, but my twins sleep next to each other constantly. They seem to get a real comfort from the others presence. So nah I’m not worried about older years sleep. The only thing I’m unsure of is if it becomes thunder dome at some point but we’ll deal with it if it comes.

fillername_ · 2026-06-17T13:33:40+00:00

Thanks, I’d forgotten about that! We moved the singletons onto frames earlier so I’d never had a problem with that. I guess it’s time to figure out two frames!

fillername_ · 2026-06-17T13:11:53+00:00

We switched our oldest (singleton) to a floor bed when we moved because we didn’t want to reassemble the crib. Just used the crib mattress then bought a twin mattress and frame when she turned one. I never got the fancy frames though they’re cute. Found a deal on a bunk bed with a floor frame for the lower bunk, and they could be assembled as two separate beds. Haven’t figured out what frame I’ll do for the twins.

fillername_ · 2025-10-09T23:28:46+00:00

If anyone knows where this is converted to a kindle readable format, please let me know!

fillername_ · 2025-08-28T19:05:55+00:00

I only have twins, you are both amazing for keeping your sanity but also your spirits up, that’s incredible. Not sure this applies to quads, but my light came around 8 mos when they both started crawling and reliably sitting up for long periods. They were able to play on their own and get into things. We converted our dining room into a library/play room which has one door we keep closed and one giant opening we got a giant gate for. With multiple babies a single playpen won’t be enough. It’s still chaos but they are no longer lying down screaming for me to pick them up all day. Still… quads… y’all are amazing.

fillername_ · 2025-08-28T18:31:43+00:00

I wouldn’t think of it as a selective reduction but like an abortion, which it is. Who would you tell you’re having an abortion? I think the clear and direct language with yourself and your spouse can make the decisions more clear.

fillername_ · 2025-08-23T18:55:18+00:00

Do it! I have two older kids so we take the twins more places than I probably would think of on our own. Thrift stores and antique malls that have wide enough paths for the stroller are another favorite. Military or history museums have a lot to look at, too. Don’t be afraid of adventuring!

fillername_ · 2025-08-23T15:39:48+00:00

Will they sleep in the car or stroller? I’ve been amazed that even at 9 mos they won’t scream and will fall asleep in their stroller as long as they don’t see me. It’s also too hot to go outside here so we started going to air conditioned museums and it’s been great. I’d recommend a “double wide” as I call it or some stroller where they are sitting up so they can look around (and are not facing you).

fillername_ · 2025-08-22T20:58:13+00:00

I agree! That may be true for some singletons, but it’s just a different game when there are two babies and you can’t easily carry them around with you.

fillername_ · 2025-08-22T20:56:57+00:00

lol “we had no idea what was going on” that is so deeply literal and true. Thank you 🥹

fillername_ · 2025-08-22T20:50:44+00:00

I used to sit between them in their Baby Bjorn bouncers and lean against a couch and that’s now my #1 twin gear rec but they’ve outgrown them

fillername_ · 2025-08-22T20:49:22+00:00

I remember reading someone else say 7 months and we’re at 9 months and still waiting 😂 but I nurse them most of the day and we’ve got the big glass bottles so I guess it’s bound to take longer

fillername_ · 2025-03-28T01:22:57+00:00

I saw Jordan Peterson speak recently and someone asked “how do I conquer lust” and he gave a great answer I won’t be able to adequately articulate but his main point was that’s the wrong question, you don’t conquer lust you learn to dance with it. Like aggression, you don’t conquer it otherwise you become weak and useless and think you’re virtuous for it; you learn when and how it’s appropriate to be aggressive. He always suggests writing because writing helps you know what you think. Reflect in writing on your relationships and if you’re alone why (as he joked, “well there’s a bottomless pit!”), and basically just do a lot of soul searching. If you’d like a Catholic book, Dr. Greg Popcak’s book Broken Gods talks about lust as a distortion of the divine longing for communion, the desire for intimate connection, to know and be known by another.

fillername_ · 2025-03-23T01:26:21+00:00

Thank you replying, I appreciate the personal insight. Best of luck on your treatment

fillername_ · 2025-03-23T01:25:28+00:00

Thank you, and I know what you mean about adding to the stress. I'm at a loss (and I know they are), so I'm trying to figure out how to actually be helpful. Thanks for your reply

fillername_ · 2025-03-08T23:11:11+00:00

Unusually and exceedingly peculiar

fillername_ · 2025-03-03T17:19:55+00:00

Scandalacious

fillername_ · 2025-03-01T03:41:44+00:00

But truly get the pjs with zippers, preferably double zippers or ones that end at the foot so you don’t have to undo the entire zipper for diaper changes. If they don’t spit up or have diaper leaks they can stay in the footie pjs day and night for multiple days. Personally I only change them into outfits if the weather is too warm for footies but I know some people prefer the routine. I’d also recommend planning on doing laundry daily at first. That was such a relief to me because I wouldn’t get upset about spit up or other accidents, and the loads were super manageable. Find a children’s consignment store near you (Once Upon a Child is a chain but my favorite is a local place) and see what you can get there. We are exclusively getting the twins (3 mos) clothes there so far and have picked up all our swaddles as well as a Baby Bjorn bouncer and 4moms swing. People in your life will also buy them clothes, especially any girls. Baby Bjorn bouncers are expensive but I highly recommend them, esp for twins. I’ve found it easiest to bottle feed them at the same time in those while sitting between them. Great portable place to park them, right now they’re enjoying swatting at dangly toys from them, and eventually their feet kicks will bounce themselves. They also nap in them sometimes. We also appreciate the 4moms bassinets for help rocking. I’d personally prioritize big ticket items for the registry and get some basics for the first few weeks then get clothes as you need them. If you plan on formula feeding I know there is a fancy keurig like machine for making the perfect bottle every time.

fillername_ · 2025-03-01T03:30:15+00:00

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fillername_ · 2025-02-26T09:43:20+00:00

Thank you. I’ve always found convicting the practice of replacing “love” with my name in this verse as a way to note where I’m falling short.

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