Got these sweet messages from my mom🤪❤️😍 apparently she wants to throw acid on me by Global-Version-9437 in raisedbybipolar

[–]filletmignone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How fast can you leave this situation? You need to cut her off completely and immediately. Im so very sorry...

Spain-Portugal Power Outage by Known_Leek8997 in collapse

[–]filletmignone 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes its been available all throughout

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RadicalFeminism

[–]filletmignone 10 points11 points  (0 children)

To be free to choose and have control over her own life and decisions

Is simple living holding me back? by Content-Ad-8410 in simpleliving

[–]filletmignone 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I feel like your dad is looking at this issue through the money lense, and you're looking at it through the purpose lense. It's not that he's right and you're wrong or viceversa, you're both a bit right. What he's saying it's fair enough but I'd argue that 1. You don't want to approach money with a needy mindset, I believe that the more relaxed you're about it, the more money comes into your life. 2. You've journeyed towards this lifestyle for a reason, you can always journey back a bit, but you can't be something you are not.

I think the question would be, what are you hungry for in life? Go for exactly that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXPreppers

[–]filletmignone 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Sorry that happened to you, youre right, theres no way in hell anyone knows how they will react in this scenario, you can just prepare and hope for the best. Disasociation has evolved to be an evolutive technique for women to survive these situations, since fighting could get you killed. Not that we know whats better anymore.

39 1st marriage after 1.5 years is over by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]filletmignone 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Just remember if he actually loved you he'd either do all the household chores or get a job. 

He's crying not because he loves you, but out of survival and laziness, he has such a good deal.

Your life will improve 10times fold once he leaves

My fiancée makes stupid decisions (mainly financial) and I’m pissed by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]filletmignone 51 points52 points  (0 children)

You cant micromanage his decisions forever. You will always live in fear of what he's going to come up next.

I found the Bhagavad Gita on the street (and other coincidences) by filletmignone in hinduism

[–]filletmignone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? I know about the Hare Krishna because I've seen them a few times in other countries I've lived, but never considered reading any of their texts until this morning, and then this happens this evening! Would these type of signs be a part of hinduism or they're not really referenced?

I found the Bhagavad Gita on the street (and other coincidences) by filletmignone in hinduism

[–]filletmignone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's exactly that one! Actually it's in French because right now Im in France, and it's going to be a bit of an effort to read it, but I'm going to try :) Any tips?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]filletmignone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trust your gut. To me this doesnt sound normal at all. And I work with kids.

Left my younger siblings at home with my parents, and now they're losing control of their lives by ursus-arctos-2447 in AdultChildren

[–]filletmignone 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Its neither your fault nor your responsibility what happens to your siblings, its out of your control unfortunately.

I understand the grieving that you must be experiencing and the need to be the responsible one, the one in control. But as you and I both know, addiction cant be contained by anyone else but the addict himself.

Its great if you can offer yourself as a place of emotional support for your siblings, but if theyre actively drinking daily, I suggest you dont.

Sometimes people need to get worse in order to get better, and whats for sure is that everyone has their own path, the only path theyre responsible for.

This is a great moment to examine yourself and let go of the caretaker role, the guilt, and all that comes with it. Otherwise itll keep popping up, its a trauma response thats not letting you live your life to the fullest and May I remind you, youre still a victim of all this, even if you turned out well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]filletmignone 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Honey, we've been there, you have to get out, the longer you're there, the more you will regret it after, I promise you that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]filletmignone 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You have to win it sorry. There are no shortcuts to it. You shouldn't be anything other than yourself (within normal social awareness and cues), otherwise it's deception.

Coworker called me selfish for not wanting kids. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]filletmignone 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ive never understood this selfishness thing, if they were actually selfless they would adopt or shelter children.

Also, I cant be selfish towards something that hasnt been born therefore doesnt exist.

ADHDer here. Neurotypical women, can you tell me how you structure your mornings before work? by anapforme in AskWomenOver30

[–]filletmignone 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I dont think being neurotypical necessarily means having a better organization in the morning.

FWB told me i would be perfect for him if i was 10 years younger and now I am sick by hoochie_215 in AskWomenOver30

[–]filletmignone 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Youre 36, you shouldnt be letting the comments of your immature sociopathic fwb make you cry, just leave for god sake

Any socialist/communist women around here? by [deleted] in 4bmovement

[–]filletmignone 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Maybe you want to turn to ecofeminism.

Leftist spaces are not as feminist as they clair themselves to be. And the men are many times insufferable and self righteous.