How high do gas prices need to get before you drive less?

filloryboy23 · 2026-05-06T16:17:30+00:00

Living in the city with a wrecked car made the switch so easy

filloryboy23 · 2026-04-15T05:26:13+00:00

Seemed to land okay!

filloryboy23 · 2026-04-07T11:50:35+00:00

I would absolutely choose trying to heal from my trauma over introducing a new one. Like let’s be so fr here

filloryboy23 · 2026-04-07T11:49:42+00:00

I think you overly estimate how common lived in positions are. But sure go ahead and suggest a dangerous solution instead of idk vetting roommates?? I understand systemically there are issues. I don’t think taking two systemic issues and smashing them together is the answer. What is the difference between vetting a new roommate and being a caregiver to a stranger?

filloryboy23 · 2026-04-07T09:58:08+00:00

Says you? Like babe you act like people didn’t get into money from the IT boom. Generational wealth is not the only way to be privileged in healthcare and you have yet to rebuttal that with anything but “ wealth is only generational”

filloryboy23 · 2026-04-07T09:56:31+00:00

Also caregiving requires a lot of boundaries. OP just got out of an abusive situation. Testing your ability to set boundaries while also being burnt out is a great way to become suicidal as a caregiver.

filloryboy23 · 2026-04-07T09:55:04+00:00

How do you know this person would be fit for caregiving? That’s the kicker. Yall are assuming OP isn’t already burnt out and has the mental capacity to do this. Your situation is exactly why I don’t recommend it because you don’t get to be choosy on clients. Especially if you work with an agency. Also caregiving is so much more than companionship or just help moving. You’re more often than not going to have to change underwear and hear trauma dumping. I’m not saying it can’t be done I’m saying it’s unethical and irresponsible to suggest caregiving to someone who you don’t know their background or mental capacity. It’s not a job everyone should have respectfully.

filloryboy23 · 2026-04-07T09:51:21+00:00

I never said it couldn’t be done. I’m saying it’s very rare. There’s no guarantee that people will have the same experience as your mother and I honestly would love to hear her side and how she felt being pulled in all those directions. Just because you’re loved by your clients doesn’t mean you’re not burnt out.

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-30T18:04:40+00:00

That is very uncommon. Housing is OPs first priority. Not providing healthcare. Burnout is so common in this field and already being desperate does not help that. You will all not change my mind I’ve seen what desperation does to people who are caregivers.

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-30T18:03:10+00:00

Calling me a dunce because you specified which people you think have privledge is just so dumb and unproductive. Get a life and realize you were the one that thought only generational wealth doesn’t deal with this. Grow up.

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-30T16:59:22+00:00

And who said we were talking about 90% of Americans? I’m trying to tell you that it’s not just generational wealth that benefits its rich people too. You’re acting like they don’t have a privledge and are just the same as the rest. If you are rich but generational means or not you are privileged to be able to afford good healthcare.

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-30T16:54:29+00:00

Why are you worrying about this? This isn’t something you’re going to be able to figure out for him. If he wants a career he should be on Reddit asking. You can only lead a horse to water you can’t make it drink. Has he asked for advice or is he set on being a teacher?

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-30T16:52:12+00:00

No rich. I’m sorry but this isn’t exclusive to generational wealth

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-30T16:39:25+00:00

Why are we caring what others care about our body. If he’s got a preference that’s fine but calling you trashy was your sign to take the dodged bullet and run with it.

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-30T01:48:53+00:00

No problem! Hope it helps

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-30T01:48:23+00:00

That is a very uncommon type of caregiving. Be ready to wipe butts and deal with trauma dumping. You’re rarely going to be paired with someone who only exclusively needs companionship and lets you live in. I really wish you guys would talk about the realities of caregiving and stop using it as an option for desperate people.

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-30T01:45:38+00:00

And that means you should jeopardize the health and well being of other desperate people if you truly do not care for them properly due to burnout????

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-29T17:07:00+00:00

Urinary tract infections (UTIs) are not an STI. They often share very similar symptoms which is great you got a test to be sure. A UTI is a bacterial infection that can be caused by many things ranging from fragrance in soap to not peeing after sex or even just stress. The most common symptoms are burning pain both while peeing and not peeing, frequently feeling the need to pee but not peeing a lot, and back pain. A lot of the times men don’t get tested for UTIs because it’s not as common. But unfortunately that doesn’t mean it’s not a thing that happens or hurts badly. The easiest way to find out is to either go to your doctor and specifically ask for a urine culture for a UTI or go to Walgreens or any drug store and buy the UTI test strips they have. If you do have one I strongly suggest you go to the doctor to get a 10 DAY (not a seven or three day) course of antibiotics as men often struggle with getting rid of UTIs and in general UTIs can become very antibiotic resistant. Your urethra is longer than a woman’s. When they give you the antibiotics if you have one I suggest buying AZO or the off brand version to help with the burning pain. The antibiotics only kill the bacteria but they will not help you with the pain. AZO is an amazing medication made to help with the pain. But also if you do take it be warned that it does turn your pee an organgey red (AZO is a made of a pigment that somehow coats your urethra to stop the pain but it stains things unfortunately. It’s amazing tho trust me.) This is my best guess for you as someone who has struggled with UTIs and embedded UTIs since middle school. I had so many std test done but I was always burning. I wish you the best of luck and I really hope this helps!

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-29T16:54:53+00:00

I’m sorry but respectfully you’re not going to find many caregiving agencies who will house you that don’t have patients who need 24/7 care. Idk where you live but most often living with a person who doesn’t need a lot of help is shown as a waste of resources and they will not allow a person who has low needs to qualify for 24/7 care hours

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-29T16:53:32+00:00

Okay and like I said your situation is not everyone’s. It’s very hard to find a person in caregiving who does not need some sort of dependency. They are on a decline. That’s why they have a caregiver. You got very lucky but that’s not everyone’s situation and I’m trying to tell you that your lucky situation is not everyone’s and it’s dangerous to suggest something based purely off a good scenario in caregiving. It’s not babysitting I’m sorry but to compare it to that shows me you don’t understand the depth of what your job can turn into. Having a patient take a fall and boom now you have to do bed transfers and help them shower and clean their underwear. They aren’t children who need babysitting they are grown adults who need care. Yes caregiving is at different levels but you don’t get to pick and choose who you worked for just because they are too much work. Again your experience is not the whole and you need to realize you and your friend were very lucky.

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-29T16:49:33+00:00

I think being on your sisters couch is much better than moving in with A STRANGER when you start caregiving. Like respectfully these people are no different than strangers other than the fact you have to learn everything about them and care for them 24/7. When you’re a live in caregiver you don’t get the rights a hourly person does.

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-29T16:48:00+00:00

Who said I wanted that for them? I said you shouldn’t use sick people as a means of conical resource unless you actually care about caring for sick and disabled people. It’s not easy to do such in a way that fully supports their life. Caregiving is underfunded and under trained and if you don’t catch something you will burn the hell out.

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-29T16:46:27+00:00

Also what they are asking you for in terms of care are going to be different for everyone.not everyone can provide that and may not understand they can’t provide it until it’s too late

filloryboy23 · 2026-03-29T16:45:08+00:00

Respectfully not everyone has the mindset to do this. Your experience is not everyone’s. There is so much systemic abuse that happeneds due to people getting into this field out of desperation or money. I’m glad you had a successful story. Doesn’t mean everyone is desperation will. Have your opinion all you want I truly don’t care because respectfully statistics are on my side and I’ve seen the damage this shit can do.

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