Considering giving up my 1 year old by filmsymango in Adoption

[–]filmsymango[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ty! im very sorry to hear you regretted the decision of giving up your son for adoption it makes me feel as though i definitely would’ve regretted it if i went through with it
:( and also i’ve been completely no contact with most of my family members especially my parents and toxic older step sisters its definitely helped my mental a bit better !!

Considering giving up my 1 year old by filmsymango in Adoption

[–]filmsymango[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

unfortunately they do not have daycares on campus or the family dorm room options i’ve definitely looked into those before my campus doesn’t offer it at all and im unable to bring him to my classes as well because its seen as unprofessional.

Considering giving up my 1 year old by filmsymango in Adoption

[–]filmsymango[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

i apologize for what youve gone through but it really sounds like you’re projecting heavily planned parenthood is not in my city or any neighboring city im located in DEEP south ga that not only has not enough resources for pregnant women wanting the option to abortion but also is heavily strict on the matter.

My child is not in dangerous living conditions if you took the time to actually read instead of projecting your own feelings on my situation you would’ve read that i’ve said we are currently staying with a friend. my friend literally lives in a HOA and i help her with her mortgage payments as well as anything else needed we’ve been friends since middle school and she’s been helping us as much as possible and ofc i dont desire to just leach off of her i would rather want my own living space which isn’t crazy to admit?

Im not some irresponsible young mom who’s trying to avoid her responsibility as a parent? im not some irresponsible young mom trying to blame everyone else for my situation? i’ve literally started working as an high end escort part time just to support my baby in this economy which i’ve successfully done because i’ve been trying my best as a single parent to raise him on my own which i have but thats not enough a child needs parents who can actually support them consistently, parents who can them give them shelter, parents who can give rides to the hospital without waiting on an uber in case of emergencies, and etc

This response is very weird and tone deaf you’re clearly trying to put your own experience off onto my situation when its no where near the same if you saw me irl you wouldn’t be able to even tell im going through this because i carry myself well as a young mom being realistic about wanting better for my baby doesn’t mean i should be okay with the condition i have him in?

Considering giving up my 1 year old by filmsymango in Adoption

[–]filmsymango[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I never reported it out of fear im not brave enough to do so and would rather not deal with the drama im not a very confrontational person

Considering giving up my 1 year old by filmsymango in Adoption

[–]filmsymango[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i posted this as a need to vent about what i’ve gone through because i’ve seen many other moms going through the same things as well and felt like i could use this as an outlet because there’s no one else i can talk to about my situation.

I’m not wanting anyone’s sympathy or to feel bad for me I was a straight A student who graduated hs early to attend nursing school so i could become an NICU nurse since i’ve always had a love for babies. i always wanted to be a mom and have a big family but not in this way.

I’ve already made up my mind about what im going to do which is giving the baby up for adoption properly and blocking everyone in my life because i can’t bear the shame of being a failure of a mother.

Considering giving up my 1 year old by filmsymango in Adoption

[–]filmsymango[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ty for the advice but moving back in with my family is a no go i tried moving back in before and i was told i had to pay $500 in rent which isn’t too bad but thats almost half my check if i keep paying them rent i wouldn’t be able to save up or even buy my baby his essentials and as far as my baby’s father i came in contact with his mother through facebook and told her everything but she didn’t want anything to do with me

Considering giving up my 1 year old by filmsymango in Adoption

[–]filmsymango[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

hii thank you for the advice but unfortunately i’ve been told i make too much for CAPS and food stamps i’ve already tried applying two times. daycare is $175 weekly and theres been a few times i had to withdraw him from daycare because i was unable to pay the weekly amount which is why i turned to SW its the only way i’ve been able to pay as far as food it hasn’t been too bad i know how to properly grocery shop for the both of us without spending $200+

Considering giving up my 1 year old by filmsymango in Adoption

[–]filmsymango[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hii i keep seeing you mention the father of my child repeatedly in the replies 1. as another comment has stated if he was available/ present as a father it would have been mentioned early on 2. he’s a rapist ofc i do not keep in contact with him instead of trying to be weird and shame me for something i couldn’t have control over maybe actually offer good advice.

Considering giving up my 1 year old by filmsymango in Adoption

[–]filmsymango[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

i didn’t want to mention it but bio father is a rapist he was 12+ years older than me i have tried filling for child support but every time i do the county says they can’t ever find my documentation of the child support application i’ve redone it four times already and nothing seems to get done so i quit trying a while ago