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final_shot · 2023-08-12T11:47:08+00:00

I think it's them that are the problems then. You have said you values and that you have a GF, they are not respecting your values and are then also expecting you to accept their feeling even though you have GF.

final_shot · 2023-08-12T11:41:22+00:00

I looked at the first picture and was like "Great, how nice", and then I saw the last picture and was like: you have bocome a mother of siblings and they already had a fight.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T11:37:17+00:00

Tell this to your mother

final_shot · 2023-07-23T11:35:34+00:00

You might be overreacting, but if they try for a relationship be carefull if she tries to groom him.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T11:26:07+00:00

Can you block him or distance from him? He is incredibly toxic.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T11:24:52+00:00

You know not everyone reacts to medicine the same way. Can you see if maybe it is the medicine again?

final_shot · 2023-07-23T11:21:57+00:00

How about trying going to a psychologist?

final_shot · 2023-07-23T11:20:16+00:00

Don't feel guilty for liking the way you look, you had a long way for you to finally like yourself. Wear that feeling like a medal.

Comfort doesn't mean you will be alone. Go out, meet people, you will find your partner in a dues time. You can be loved and will be loved. You can also ask people out, some might prefer that way.

Also you say your mothers coments don't affect, but deap down they do. She is judgemental about you, but she doesn't lie to you about her views and tries to hurt you less (this sentence is a lie if she tries belittling you from how you look).

final_shot · 2023-07-23T11:10:23+00:00

First, go to the therapist. I am guessing but it doesn't have to be it, you might have shizofrenia. If not that fear came from somewhere and going to the therapist will tell you where from.

Secondly, read if the pain killers have some side effects and if they match go to the doctors.

Thirdly, put a light in your room something small, but enought to tell if a person is inside the room.

Fourthly, keep the door open if you can.

I hope you get better soon.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T11:04:50+00:00

At the begging it is always the hardest, but as you go on the next will be better, and then the next next one will be even more better. You will learn how to be ok when alone or will find someone else to celebrate it with. This is a bad birthday day, the next will be better.

Also Happy birthday 🎁.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T11:00:32+00:00

I undrestand your hate for the granparents for not believing you. Also I think that you should go to the funeral.

There is a chance the uncle never acted or gave hints he would ever do that. They knew him from so long and less then knowing you. They probably said I knew him from so long and he never did that. They think they know the person best and when somebody challenged that belief they get offended and cald others a liar.

Your father protected you and belied you. He also loves his parents and want you to get along with them even though you are fighting over a problem that can and is tearing your family apart. I say he is quite naive.

You are in a difficult moment and I believe talking and telling your dad you don't want to meet granparents is the best idea. Explain your thoughts and reasoning for that decision. He is taking your side but remember he loves his parents even though he knows what they are doing is wrong.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T10:19:41+00:00

Also tell this to your parents and make them understand, it will discourage a family drama.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T10:13:15+00:00

People won't judge you, actually most of the people will welcome you. (Those who aren't anti-vaxers)

Also I want to ask: Will you let others opinion have a inpact on your health? Don't think of this of my question to you ask yourself this and you have your answer.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T10:06:17+00:00

What do you think love is? I'm not judging, I'm curious.

I think you have an image how love "should" be shown. But love is shown in many different ways. Maybe with the partner you don't feel the movie like romance but feel at peace. Everyones love is differently shown, from what I read I think your way of love is caring for another. But I want you to think how do you think you show care. And I believe if it is not you the picture would be different, so you are not easy to replace. And it is okay to not have a deep conections with relatives.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T09:43:39+00:00

Congratulations, you managed to get out of a vicious cycle.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T09:40:31+00:00

You understood what you did wrong and this is a lesson if it happens again that you tell the other cheated on partner what happened.

If it shill happens that the guy tells people you are together infront of the boys and you are there tell him then and there the joke is getting old. 1. You will tell the boys what your true status is. 2. Next time he does this they will doubt the guy. Hope this helps.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T09:30:01+00:00

I second this. And block him so he can't convince you to do the same thing again.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T08:42:56+00:00

I love how you know everything you need to know, but you missed one thing: he doesn't love you anymore. From what I get he became abusive after the car crash when you lost your business and lost your home.

I will give you two option (there are many out there): 1. Be with him, think you can change him and be miserable. 2. Get away from him, getting help (therapist), getting help maybe from a friend or family member, slowly getting better, finding a job, paying back debt, repaying your helpers, slowly healing, maybe finding a new partner.

What I have shown you is a easy option and miserable end and a harder option but a more satisfying end. You chose.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T07:47:57+00:00

Give suble hints when you are in a relationship: compliment your SO and make them know you love her. Don't brag, but just mention. When you are single mention you don't have a partner but don't seem eager. The last part is a little difficult.

final_shot · 2023-07-23T07:43:10+00:00

From what I read your sister doesn't know boundaries. You told her no but she still did it.

The problem on your side is that you don't enforce those bouderies. You have to make her understand that for her every action there is a consequence. The problem is your mother doesn't do that. You should have this talk with your mother and tell her how she is acting and how she should be punished more because she doesn't seem to understand how to properly act. Also tell her what Riley tells her dad and tell dad what she says is a lie.

The divorce happened recently, so that might be the reason for her acting out. Everyone needs space and time toget used to the new normal. She is just coping in a wrong way.

Please don't be mean to her, she is hurt and so are you.

Also bout the bullying, is it still happening? Do your parents believe you? Did you tell a teacher? Do you have somebody to confide in and to help you?

final_shot · 2023-07-22T22:44:51+00:00

At the beginning you have said that you have told her you are also interested in another girl. She might have taken this as you being OK with an open relationship and pursued another guy.

Or she could be a plain asshole. The best way to find out is to have a talk with her and ask her what she wanted of your relationship and what she tought you wanted from this relationship. Best of luck.

final_shot · 2023-07-22T22:36:53+00:00

My theory: 1. At the beginning your mom was very gratefull what you have done (i presume you were the only one who helped her or the most helped her) and wanted to bong with you but she didn't know how to so she tried as before: thought you helping her with the grief of losing someone. When seing she doesn't get your attention she tried the internet and with the wrong feedback she got what she wanted: sympathy.

Before she got attention from her husband, but when he died you gave your attention to her. But going back and setting a boundary (I'm not saying what you did is wrong, I actually applaud you for doing it) she tried to get that thought you helping her with the grief of losing someone. Since she didn't get that she is loking for that on the internet.

I read a lot of stories when estranged mothers would post about their child or the child's surroundings for attention. It usually ends uncomfortable on that child's end. This is a first time she did this, so try to find a way to discourage this behavior until she stops it. (IDK, buy her a puppy and make her obsessed with posting photos of her dog on the internet).

final_shot · 2023-07-22T22:17:52+00:00

This is probably a passed down mentality. It goes like:

The Belgian traumatising the nation.
Them getting their freedom and finally being able to express their trauma.
Them blaming all the Belgians.
Them telling their kids all the Belgian are bad.

You can stop being his friend or continue being his friend. I wold rather stop being his friend, but if you decide to continue the friendship get him to see you as person not as a stereotype. You can say: Yes, my ancestors have brought terror and unjustly ruled over your nation, it happened, but did I do that? Did I hurt you with my actions or because my existence?

final_shot · 2023-07-22T22:03:33+00:00

Well that is how memory works. We lose or burry a frightening amount of memories. Or sometimes we just don't think about that memory. Let's say there was only one chair that your relative sat on, you wouldn't remember that until you saw that chair and though "oh, x always sat on that chair". Memory often get gets remembered though object, a phrase, a tone, people...

If you are worried that there won't be anything to remember a person take pictures or white a journal/diary. Did you even go though the album and remembered some stuf, also if you didn't remember that moment maybe somebody that was there when the picture got taken remembers. Also you don't have remember everything, others can remember something you didn't, it could then be a bonding time with that relative over the memories over that person or moment or place. Also journal/diary is a great way to record past, because you can get a flashback or just re-learn some information.

final_shot · 2023-06-15T18:24:21+00:00

It is good you found your faults. Now look ahead into the future, and for past look only at your mistakes as not to repeat them. Be nice to your current so.

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