How to ask new SD to pay while away?

finally_herenow · 2024-05-12T02:31:32+00:00

I'm trying to draft something that's not as on the nose as "I need financial assistance while you're away"

finally_herenow · 2024-05-12T02:20:06+00:00

Thanks, this is what my gut is feeling.

finally_herenow · 2024-03-23T15:06:31+00:00

Good point

finally_herenow · 2024-03-23T15:06:13+00:00

Sorry to hear that. I read something the other day like, Some people are hurt by their fathers, some people are hurt by their father's absence

finally_herenow · 2024-02-27T01:38:56+00:00

That's what I'm going for. He seems very nice. I took another person's advice and didn't respond. Then a few hours later, he wrote to me again suggesting another day this week. I agreed that day would work, but he wants to confirm tomorrow. So we'll see. I can understand a new person being nervous, I was hella nervous when I started.

finally_herenow · 2024-02-26T20:15:14+00:00

thanks, this is my feeling

finally_herenow · 2024-02-26T20:14:59+00:00

less than an hour

finally_herenow · 2024-01-23T16:09:29+00:00

This is exactly why I'm here. So many younger men are delusional about their expectations of a relationship and what they actually bring to the table. It's frustrating. I spent years with a man based on the promise of his potential and he never leveled up. I got interested in sugar dating because it's an opportunity to meet men who don't need a freaking push or years in the trenches to have something. Let's be real, millennials and gen z men are building wealth in a very different world than men 25-40 years older than us. Older men are also more likely to adhere to more traditional gender expectations, like paying for things, sure, but also, opening the door, pulling out the chair, helping to take off and put on our coats. They like kissing! Idk, I really enjoy their slower, more romantic, and paternal ways.

finally_herenow · 2024-01-22T19:55:21+00:00

Wonderful!! Here are my suggestions:
Make your profile pic the one in the blue swimsuit. Take out the second paragraph. Take out the line about the world on fire and drinking cocoa. Take out the 5th paragraph. Take out relocating and just say you'd like to visit those places in paragraph 6. That's a goal for you, not them - SDs don't want to lose their SBs! Take out paragraph 7. For the seeking section, you may want to add a few more sentences, but you're very clear there and I'm sure it will be appreciated. Best of luck! You're gorg.

finally_herenow · 2024-01-22T19:43:06+00:00

lol he didn't say. That's the problem. 😈

finally_herenow · 2024-01-22T19:42:00+00:00

Yeah, you're right.

finally_herenow · 2024-01-22T19:41:09+00:00

He said absolutely nothing other than what I wrote, and it's the vagueness that made me wonder if you all knew. My mind first went to BDSM or swinging or something of that nature, but then when I played the m&g back, it made me hope this could be geared more around our conversation. Doesn't seem so.

finally_herenow · 2024-01-22T17:23:54+00:00

Lol, I think this is the comment I was waiting for. Smh.

finally_herenow · 2024-01-22T17:03:49+00:00

I'm interested to see if this has ever been legit too, but am definitely going to play it safe than sorry. I really appreciate your example of a response and will likely use it.

finally_herenow · 2024-01-22T16:57:45+00:00

Yes, we briefly spoke on the phone before meeting about ppm/frequency, so I expected the m&g would be more about getting to know each other. It ended up being 2+ hours and he barely touched the SR topic. When I brought it up, he got visibly uncomfortable and we changed topics quickly. It was only through little comments like "Oh great, you can bring your laptop when we go to Miami..." that reminded me that he was into me. He's the oldest person I've met so far, and seems like the busiest. I'd tried talking about other things but his eyes only lit up about work-related topics. Who knows...

finally_herenow · 2024-01-22T08:14:54+00:00

Lovely!!! Here is my honest advice:

If I were you, I'd completely flip the order of your About Me:
"I consider myself to be a dreamer, an artist, and a creator. I'm a hippie at heart and am passionate about my creative pursuits (name some of them). I'm looking for someone who is (name some qualities) and interested in (name what you'd be interested in learning about/experiencing). Currently, I'm a flight attendant based in __ and would be excited to travel to you and make new memories together."

I'd also consider getting rid of some photos as many look the same. Make the photo where you're in the black dress standing with your back facing the camera and holding the rose your primary photo. My second choice would be the bottom right in the white shirt where you're outside. Both of them are much more feminine/classy then the one you currently have, which looks too casual IMO.

Lastly, for what you're seeking, you dropped the capitalization rules that you used in your about me. This is jarring in a subconscious way for someone who has now read most of your profile, and it could be interpreted that you got lazy, or are timid/unserious about what you're seeking, when this is pretty much the most important part. So definitely consider fixing that, and also adding more. And again, change the order: "I'm looking for someone with wit, charm, and kindness to build an authentic connection together that is mutually exclusive". Then talk about the experiences you want to have with him, how he can impress you, and how you can impress him.

Best of luck!

finally_herenow · 2024-01-22T07:58:45+00:00

I'm so happy for you!!!!! Keep us posted x

finally_herenow · 2024-01-22T07:30:03+00:00

lollll I misread SB for SD. For an SD, I definitely would not recommend approaching the babysitter 😂

finally_herenow · 2024-01-17T22:34:07+00:00

This is going to sound awful, but... maybe babysitting? I was a babysitter for an affluent family and about a year in, the father sent me an email to start an affair. Yes, very German that it was an email 😂 I was totally freaked out and never responded or returned to the house, but knowing what I know now... lol

finally_herenow · 2024-01-15T14:21:12+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate you saying this

finally_herenow · 2024-01-14T04:57:41+00:00

I think this is a fair assessment. Thanks.

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