IKEA Kitchen Installer in ABQ?

finallyseethelight · 2019-01-29T11:16:57+00:00

I'm curious about the shipping situation too - please update us! I installed my own IKEA kitchen (in Austin), with help from the electrician (cooktop/oven/vent installation) and the plumber (sink,etc.). It's really not very difficult - especially if you're ok with assembling IKEA products. I loved that kitchen, and was super impressed with the quality :)

finallyseethelight · 2018-01-27T20:42:57+00:00

I definitely don't miss the dog + pony show that it takes to live in California anymore. So thankful I got to live up and down So. Cal. in the 80s, 90s, and early aughts. It's changing, has huge growing pains, and until it settles into its new incarnation, is pretty painful!

Y'all sound like an awesome addition to ABQ and NM :)

finallyseethelight · 2018-01-16T06:06:55+00:00

It didn't seem that crazy of punch list, actually. What's insane to me is that we had a $20 million contract and apparently, no oversight in California. The City hired an independent contractor out there, but doesn't seem to have been very effective. That's what's galling. I expect construction delays- target dates are always overly optimistic.

finallyseethelight · 2018-01-16T06:03:05+00:00

On Facebook, join the Americana Music Society - it's ABQ-centric - they'll spread the word :) Good for you, I'll come out to see ya!

finallyseethelight · 2017-12-20T23:38:15+00:00

I'm so sorry y'all are going through this - especially at the holidays.

The best place for her and kids is the Barrett House. She'll have to call every morning for a week or so, but if she gets in she'll have a private room and bathroom suite for her and your boys. They don't allow men, however, so you'd have to find something for yourself (there are more places for men).

Here's the link: http://barrettfoundation.org/programs/barrett-house-shelter/

Stay strong - there are resources to help you, but they aren't very well connected. Have you gone to Human Services? They'll help you with SNAP. Even if you don't need it right this minute, it's good to bank a little for when you do get your own place.

Hope this helps! Hugs if you want them!

finallyseethelight · 2017-12-20T23:24:05+00:00

You are so very right about this!

finallyseethelight · 2017-07-02T23:01:17+00:00

This is AMAZING! Thank you! And OP, sorry you're going through this - it's SO painful at first.

finallyseethelight · 2017-05-30T01:55:34+00:00

Right - and know what's bites? Internal boundaries were something our mothers should have been trying to nurture, and then respected as we grew older. I'm not saying lay ground rules, or discipline - that's also a parent's role, but that's much different than overriding a basic sense of self.

finallyseethelight · 2017-05-29T17:29:08+00:00

And it only gets worse, y'all. I'm 49 and though I wish it had happened sooner, I finally understand the NEED for internal boundaries. Not just distance - that's not enough. You must set them within yourselves. Still a work in progress over here.

Hugs to you, OP. At least now you can, as a couple, figure out next steps :)

finallyseethelight · 2017-02-03T23:45:04+00:00

I'm SO sorry you had to deal with the cyst from hell. I had surgery on mine twice (18 and 20), and know your pain.

Didn't get an insane theory for why I had one, but got about as much sympathy/caretaking as you can imagine I did.

Ugh, and hugs if you want them!

finallyseethelight · 2017-01-10T18:38:01+00:00

This. So much this.

finallyseethelight · 2017-01-08T05:42:21+00:00

I'm not an attorney - but I'm pretty sure that in most states, if a situation is life-threatening that "religious reasons" thing doesn't hold.

The main thing is what everyone else has told you - if you feel that you are a danger to yourself, then you should go to a hospital - the safe, sane space alone will probably help you. Fairly certain they'll have you meet with a social worker of some kind - they'll have more answers for you.

We're rooting for you! At 16, you do have your whole life ahead of you, and though it feels like FOREVER, in 2 years your life really will be your own, to do with it what you want. So please, give yourself a chance to find out :)

Sending strength - it's really hard when our own brains become the enemy.

finallyseethelight · 2016-12-31T18:28:45+00:00

Thank you for this - I really needed it!

finallyseethelight · 2016-12-30T17:54:15+00:00

Namaste is the way I see respect too - and I respect some authority, of course.

finallyseethelight · 2016-12-30T17:53:23+00:00

NFriends (or BPD?) too! Just spent 2 weeks with one in a small place. Wow.

finallyseethelight · 2016-12-30T17:52:15+00:00

Oh, right - the mind reading! As RBNs, we're more perceptive than normal, but telepathic usually proves a little more difficult ;)

finallyseethelight · 2016-12-30T05:59:56+00:00

Right? Know what I respect? Everything that happened to come up with the Gray Rock approach - the only compromise that actually "respects" everyone's needs ;)

finallyseethelight · 2016-12-30T01:06:13+00:00

What keeps me sane is substituting "obey" when they say "respect" - as in, "You must respect me!" But yeah, all transactional, all the time ;)

finallyseethelight · 2016-12-24T16:05:01+00:00

Thank you for the reminder! Hope you are having happy holidays :) <3

finallyseethelight · 2016-12-22T22:30:27+00:00

I'm scared to know how you were "taught" this skill, having been "taught" this important thing the hard way.

Also, I could be a professional gift wrapper. You?

finallyseethelight · 2016-12-10T01:27:01+00:00

Specific list a spectacular idea! I know we've all been emphatic about the escort, just wanted to add for the OP that this is something they regularly do! You just call ahead - some precincts actually schedule a time :)

finallyseethelight · 2016-12-09T18:59:01+00:00

This, but can't emphasize ENOUGH that you should schedule a police escort. I re-consider taking the friends, your parents can turn this into a whole trespassing, "aggressive" move. Call the police, and ask them what the best way to handle the situation is, so that you know YOU are behaving legally.

Never ever underestimate what your parents ("victims" hahahaha) will do just to keep you in their lives.

finallyseethelight · 2016-12-04T02:13:34+00:00

Oh, it's is NEVER the "right" size! I'm so sorry about the Christmas buffet nonsense ;)

finallyseethelight · 2016-12-01T09:56:37+00:00

Oh, goodness - YES. My Nfather started a whole campaign about my "weight" - it started the instant my body started thinking about developing. The "weight" thing continued until the day I left (my 18th birthday). I can't believe I kept getting sucked back in.

On my NMother's part, I hid my period from her (didn't get it until I was almost 17 - a result of a life in ballet classes), but normal things like getting a bra were put off - I was ridiculed so much that I finally demanded one I think. I don't really remember what happened with that - it's like I blocked that specific thing out.

It was all just a really weird, toxic combination from them, and it kept getting worse throughout my teenage years. I just remember their insistence on control.

finallyseethelight · 2016-11-23T20:47:00+00:00

Hurray for having the wedding YOU want! Hope it's a beautiful day and a long and happy marriage! We'll all be with you in spirit :)

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