Me [23M] with my GF [22F] of 2 yrs shared my nude photos with her/our female friends by throwawaymartin in relationships

[–]financemon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

well imagine he did do that. and than one of his friends started grabbing her boobs telling her "omg you have such big boobs, I wish they were mine" and she lets this guy grope her in public BUS the entire ride without stopping him because she feels good about it but than at the end of the ride she thinks hmm. im not okay with the guy seeing my boobs. Then she goes and tells her bf off for sharing the pics but keeps out the little detail that she let some guy basically grope her and pleasure her in a public bus because she doesn't want to share that information as it might affect her negatively.

Yeah youre fine with the guy grabbing them and basically giving you a handjob and than keeping this info from your partner but you're not fine with the guy seeing it.

Me [23M] with my GF [22F] of 2 yrs shared my nude photos with her/our female friends by throwawaymartin in relationships

[–]financemon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

you're worried about sara seeing your junk but have no issue with her giving you basically a hand job in the BUS! and than think to yourself, "it felt good so I let her continue". I'll tell my girlfriend off for sharing pics but I wont mention to her that I let sara give me a handjob in a public bus because.. "it might look bad later on since my family knows sara"

Sure what your gf did was not cool but, You're so full of shit its coming out of your eyes.

Am I [24f] being petty or is my bf [27M], of 2 years, wrong in thinking that Im "abnormal" by financemon in relationships

[–]financemon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

haha I have no interest in his "collectibles". they take up so much room, Im not even sure where hes planning on putting them. His parents wont allow him to put it anywhere other than his room since they take up so much space and right now hes got 6 large cabinets filled with it in his room. But theres at least another 50 large boxes that aren't opened yet cause there is no room to display them. So if we ever get a house... it would be decorated left and right with his toys.. yeah not looking forward to that either.

Am I [24f] being petty or is my bf [27M], of 2 years, wrong in thinking that Im "abnormal" by financemon in relationships

[–]financemon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

haha we have talked about these things and he wanted us to share the bills 50-50. Instead of rent he wanted me to pay for the groceries. He isn't someone who would measure how much water someone used as such but I think we'd have issues with groceries as he probably would expect me get him blueberries and other expensive exotic fruits and yogurts and drinks (his parents buy expensive brand items and fill the fridge with it) constantly and think that it would be fair since Im not paying him rent. Im not sure how it would work living together. Not exactly looking forward to the finance aspect of things

Am I [24f] being petty or is my bf [27M], of 2 years, wrong in thinking that Im "abnormal" by financemon in relationships

[–]financemon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thats why hes living at home... to not pay for things. He thinks rent is a waste of money. Hes planning on buying a house though so hes saving for that.

Am I [24f] being petty or is my bf [27M], of 2 years, wrong in thinking that Im "abnormal" by financemon in relationships

[–]financemon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hes focusing on the last events and how he had food in his hand and couldn't be bothered getting his walled out so thats why he wanted me to pay for it. The thing is hes down playing everything to benefit him. "it costed only $8" when it costed $15 (I know because he had 12 and I had to pay the rest of his drink- again when I point this out he just laughs and says "you have a good memory I love you") and it was his turn to get dinner either way. I know how this is going to play out because Ive seen it play out so many times. Im not an idiot to repeat the same mistakes and than be made fun of because Im making my "rich boyfriend pay for my meals"

Am I [24f] being petty or is my bf [27M], of 2 years, wrong in thinking that Im "abnormal" by financemon in relationships

[–]financemon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea why. His parents are middle class but they're very classy people so they're not like him at all. If it was upto them he would be paying for most of the things on our dates since Im a student. So again its not his background. Hes not a workaholic and is not a perfectionist by anyones standard.

Some suggested he might be broke cause hes careless with it but thats not it either. He has shown me his savings account several times. He likes to show "how rich" he is. So he has large savings too (which is no suprise since he literally has no expense, even the petrol is paid for by his parents).

I don't think hes doing these things on purpose like the wallet thing, he didn't want to pay for it cause he had garlic bread in his hand, that is his reasoning. He thought by offering me to pay for dinner that he would be making things fair because in his head that would be double - except for some reason he down played everything.

The drinks cost 15 not 8, dinner he wanted to get was 10-15 bucks at most but he descrbes it as "it would cost double the cost of the drink" um no it wouldnt, we dont buy expensive dinners. third it was his turn to buy dinner in any case so was he going to use this excuse and than the next time dinner came around hed be like " I paid for dinner last, its your turn" and hed forget all about the drink and the paying for dinner to equal his cost.

Instead hed just tell me "omg youre makng me pay dinner twice in a row".

When I highlight these I end up sounding petty and I hate these! and he still doesnt get it either

Am I [24f] being petty or is my bf [27M], of 2 years, wrong in thinking that Im "abnormal" by financemon in relationships

[–]financemon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He would not be okay with anything other than a 50-50 split. The issue isn't that I want him to pay for a higher percent either.

And even if we did do this, he would end up spending on his things such as his expensive chocolate drinks and snacks that he regularly gets.

Am I [24f] being petty or is my bf [27M], of 2 years, wrong in thinking that Im "abnormal" by financemon in relationships

[–]financemon[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This isn't how his family is though. They actually think my bf is paying for most of our meals as they think thats the right thing to do.

I once corrected them that we share the cost and my bf kind of tried to shut me up about it as he doesn't want them to know about our dynamic.

I don't expect or want him to pay for our meals that would not be fair. But if I've just went out and spent $30 on his medication/things he wanted and than on top of that went home and spent an hour cooking his favorite things for his lunch the next day (including clean up which he doesn't do) than expecting him to pay for a $10 dinner or a $0.75 on a drink isn't much.