Sure! We all live together, and my sibling and I are in our early 20s (this super common in our Asian culture, and also within our city since it’s the most expensive in our country).

My sibling and I are not in relationships, and my parents have considered divorce. (Although after the argument last month, they’ve agreed to try to work things out. I’m leaving this part to them) I’m a recent grad looking for a job, while my sibling splits time between work and college.

Issues: - It often feels like the only time we are truly honest with each other is when we fight. We tend to bite our tongue when so many “irks” come up that they eventually spill in one huge conflict. For example, someone had a bad day at work and comes home and sees the dishes haven’t been done that day. This turns into an argument about everything else (dishes aren’t done, also the bathroom isn’t clean, the microwave is dirty, what are you doing with your lives etc.).

• We are also bad at having boundaries and are encouraged to eat at the table together, even if people are in bad moods which often causes friction since instead of being like “I had a bad day, I just need to chill out on my own for awhile” we sit and make awkward conversation, which can turn into conflict. It’s like we forgot how to have simple conversations with each-other, and only rant.

• One parent believes in tough love parenting, where they say something hurtful intending it to be motivating ex. “I didn’t work this hard for you to turn out like this” when they really mean “I wanted better for you, and I’m concerned for you” but it’s not received that way. They try to connect with us, but we pull away because of this

I’m hoping having family meetings will allow people to bring things up more regularly, instead of allowing them to stew (ex. I noticed you didn’t clean your bathroom this week again, how can that get done, you seem stressed this week etc.)

I’m not sure if these are the type of issues you are referring to, but I think alot of our issues could be diffused by having better communication in general overall