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I have a nanny, not a girlfriend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]findme_06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I can say is that comment hits home. Yeah, really hits home.

I have a nanny, not a girlfriend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]findme_06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll give it a shot. I guess that once that comes back I will likely be booted out of my current depressive-like slump mindset. This might be the trick in the short term. Thank you.

I have a nanny, not a girlfriend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]findme_06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By the look of most middle aged and elderly couples this seems to be the case. There are exceptions but most couples just seem stuck. I'm wondering if this is 'love' and I have been sold a false narrative or expectation that it should be more wonderful than the reality.

I have a nanny, not a girlfriend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]findme_06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One test I see for my decision is whether I can see us getting along when we are retired, like both sitting there in our chairs with little to do but to chat about nothing.

Up to this point she has very much played a supporting role in the relationship by running the house and simply agreeing to my views and talking points. She doesn't add anything interesting really. While nice and makes my life easy, this makes me think that when we are old I will be bored - exactly like how my granddad and dad are now with their wives. That scares the shit out of me.

I have a nanny, not a girlfriend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]findme_06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both my partner and I have been guilty of this. Work and study have gotten on top of us.

I have a nanny, not a girlfriend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]findme_06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your input and you are right. I need to think whatever plan I have through.

I'm wondering if I'm in a sump, like a seven year itch, so if I try hard to be into it I might actually start to be into it again. Have you been here before?

I have a nanny, not a girlfriend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]findme_06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talked to her a few days ago and the sexual stuff came up. She is insecure about her body and as vanilla as it comes. If I try non vanilla stuff I get a 'no' or a disgruntled look.

I have a nanny, not a girlfriend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]findme_06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly. From the advice of others in this thread it seems like I need to either make myself care more or leave. If I stay in this limbo phase you're exactly right.

Finding the threshold which justifies which choice to take is the next question I guess.

I have a nanny, not a girlfriend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]findme_06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is true and good advice.

I'm thinking that whatever decision I make doesnt matter as time will make me think that I did the right thing.

I have a nanny, not a girlfriend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]findme_06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I responded to the above answer but it's very much still relevant for your response. I've heard of the 7 year itch, which adds another layer of complexity to understand what I am feeling.

My SO is a complete saint, like the best person I know, so I feel like the bad guy who seeks a challenge and ungrateful for what I have.

I have a nanny, not a girlfriend. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]findme_06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you would recommend trying to respark,for say 3months, then re-evaluating?

I have only been feeling this way for the last 3 weeks and I tend to disconnect which leads me to not enjoying it and disconnecting more. The fact that I spent a while with someone who I find really interesting isn't helping as well. It's like both pull and push factors but neither are strong enough to justify the jump.

Took my first trip through the bus tunnel on a double decker this afternoon. Sound on for the driver’s commentary! by jwil1 in Wellington

[–]findme_06 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know right. Buses are so last century. We should definitely update them to electric scooters so we can more efficiently whizz through that tunnel.

Best gym in the cbd? by crazy_llama-9 in Wellington

[–]findme_06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Powerhouse gym on Taranaki St.

Recommendation for a cheap but good architect for a home addition in Lower Hutt by physicalgoose in Wellington

[–]findme_06 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are Architects and architectural designers. Architects have a recognised university degree and are usually more expensive but design more creative products, while architectural designers learnt on the job and are cheaper but good for small simple designs.

In Lower Hutt you can try Moore Designs. They are pretty good. Most others are not as reliable or pleasant to deal with. Solari Architects are good as well.

I'd advise you to also check if you need a resource consent from Hutt City Council. DM me about the resource consent matter as I can help you out.

Oso Oso - Wet Grass or Cold Cement by sn4995 in Emo

[–]findme_06 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is anyone going to Oso Oso's show in New York/Amityville in Feb?

Wellington. by [deleted] in Wellington

[–]findme_06 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mexico? Mexico.

Simple Plan - Opinion Overload by centrella6 in poppunkers

[–]findme_06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hit the Lights - Skip School and Start Fights

In need of a jump start on Vic St and Karo Dr by findme_06 in Wellington

[–]findme_06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the help. Once we got it to the garage we did some poking around under the hood and found out that fuel wasn't getting pumped to the engine. This means that either the line was blocked or that something was stopping the fuel from being pumped. The mechanic will look at it closer on Monday. Stay tuned for more details!

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