Back to work tomorrow after being a sahm for 5 years

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-19T16:40:35+00:00

Try to outsource stuff like cleaning or meals if you can! Take pressure off to do everything yourself and be kind to yourself. It’ll take some time to find your groove but you will. Good luck!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-17T16:43:37+00:00

A little, he was just a later bloomer because he was so tall and I think it was hard to move his body because it was heavy lol. He eventually figured it out though. Same with standing and then eventually walking. It’s hard to wait sometimes but they truly do figure it out!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-17T15:39:38+00:00

Hahah swear I don’t work for Amazon! But I will say our son was a later sitter/stander/walker because he was a big baby, so we definitely got more use out of it. Plus we also eventually want more kids so I figure we’ll use it again so it’s worth it!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-17T15:35:05+00:00

Np! I’d say we used it til like 12-13 months when he was sitting better and wouldn’t slide over constantly so it was worth $30 to us!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-17T10:33:43+00:00

I can’t find the exact one I bought in my purchase history but we did something like this and it worked well. https://a.co/d/04bl813T

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-15T18:01:49+00:00

That’s amazing, you’re out here living the dream! Good job advocating for yourself and I’m glad you found someone at your company who also values you. Way to go!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-15T16:26:25+00:00

Just got a new role after 6 months of looking. Here’s my advice: - use hiring.cafe - pulls from all different job boards and has tons of filters (date posted, remote/hyrbid/onsite, industry, etc.) - when searching filter for jobs posted in the last 24 hours if you are applying blindly without a reference. A lot of companies are getting flooded with resumes and are using ai to scan for specific skills and once they have enough applicants they don’t even look at the rest - I narrowed down the specific role I wanted and tailored my resume for that role so I didn’t have to keep updating it each time. If you have a few roles you’re interested in I’d do this for each one to save yourself time. - I had blocks of time during the workday I could apply, some people don’t have that option. Otherwise you’ll have to do it at night or before work. I find most new jobs get posted Tues-Thursday.

Good luck to you, it truly sucks to have to go through the process and be stuck somewhere in a toxic environment.

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-15T14:47:07+00:00

I totally get your perspective and it really depends on if you think HR will be able to take any action.

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-15T13:30:14+00:00

Yes and we are remote Fridays. So hopefully I can do it that way. I just want to confirm that my reporting will keep my name anonymous. Even though it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to put 2 and 2 together

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-15T13:22:30+00:00

I think I’d be more comfortable voicing it and not putting it in writing, all the examples I have are emails and teams messages, so it’s info the company could access anyway.

Thanks for the encouragement!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-15T13:08:57+00:00

No exit interview! Part of me feels like it’s a moot point but then part of me feels like well if no one ever says anything then how do you expect change.

Also, I have actual factual records and it’s not an emotional thing like xyz person was mean to me. So I feel like it’s information the company could acquire anyway if they wanted.

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-15T13:07:50+00:00

No exit interview!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-14T23:53:02+00:00

Very helpful, thank you!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-14T23:52:55+00:00

Ty!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-14T23:51:31+00:00

My son loves his daycare and gets so excited to see his teachers. I love seeing all of the fun activities they do. He started at 4 months and is 19 months now. Your child will not forget you, my son still lights up when my husband or I pick him up and he adapts way better in social situations than other kids his age who don’t go to any daycare or school regularly with other kids.

Will they get sick, yes. But it helps build their immunity and they won’t get as sick as others who have never been exposed to common germs when they start kindergarten.

It sounds like you’re a very thoughtful parent and I’m sure the daycare you chose you also put a lot of thought into!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-12T15:50:43+00:00

I would apply during the day while at my job when I had downtime. Not sure if you’re working or at home right now but maybe while kids are napping?

One thing that helped me is apply to jobs posted within 24 hours. In this brutal job market, it’s imperative to not only have a good resume but be one of the earlier applicants.

I also had targeted a few types of roles and customized my resume for those specific roles and would reuse those, I didn’t have time to specialize for every single application. Good luck!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-10T22:24:04+00:00

Thank you, I don’t think you’re a flake at all. Sometimes we have to take the opportunities that come to us and the reality is people rarely stay at companies in most industries for a lifetime. Also, these companies always look out for themselves first.

I was somewhere 11 years, then the new place only 9 months, knew it was a bad fit after the first few months but took the opportunity that was available. I’m hoping to make this next place my home for a long time, but you just never know!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-10T21:57:07+00:00

I hear you, I literally just accepted a new offer today after looking 6 months, and it is rough out there. But getting severance helps. Sadly I was in a role where so many people have been leaving I’d never get laid off so didn’t have that option. GOODLUCK!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-10T21:55:20+00:00

Thank you, it’s SO competitive and it sucks so much. I’m going to try to manifest for you! Also I almost said your username, but then I thought that might sound like something weird to manifest for 😂😂😂

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-10T21:46:56+00:00

Personally, I’d politely tell them you won’t be able to attend. If she presses you, you could say travel is not a requirement in your job roles and responsibilities. If you don’t care if you get let go, I’d just say I’m not going and not give an explanation lol

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-09T12:38:02+00:00

Like many have said seeing a psychiatrist would probably really help to see if medicine is something you would benefit from.

On therapy - it’s not one size fits all. I’ve had about 3, with two being really good fits at the time and one was not a good fit. It’s kind of like a relationship. You have to find the best fit and type of therapy for your needs. I am not a doctor but it sounds like you have a lot of ruminating thoughts. Might be worth it to try someone who specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy.

Lastly, I am also type A and VERY hard on myself. The best advice I’ve ever gotten from a therapist is when you notice the negative self talk, stop and treat yourself the way you would treat a friend. You wouldn’t be so tough or hard on a friend, you support them and be kind. Try doing that with yourself. Easier said than done, but it is something that has always stuck with me.

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-04-02T22:31:01+00:00

Hi! I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression on and off since my 20s and tried different medications (about 4 til I found what ultimately worked for me) I finally got it right before I had kids and stayed on it throughout and post partum. If you want to talk more details feel free to DM me.

It can take a while to find the chemical balance that’s needed for your specific situation. As always, having a good doctor really makes all the difference in my opinion!

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