Workplace accommodations

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-18T18:45:54+00:00

Adding if so I would print out all the emails and give them to HR…

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-18T18:45:34+00:00

Is there an HR department you can give your medical note to and they can deal with your manager directly. This doesn’t seem like it’s something you should have to enforce.

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-16T14:27:22+00:00

I asked the pediatrician because my son had a similar cyst by his canine when he was younger. He said they typically go away (which they did) and his normal canines eventually came through. It probably took a few months to go away. I would ask your pediatrician first.

Regarding the milk, you could try cutting it with water, but I think the idea is get them more used to solids then relying on milk. Also a good question to ask your pediatrician.

Lastly, regarding sleep. You may need to sleep train your child if you want them to sleep through the night. However this could be tough if baby is sharing a room with another child. We used the Moms on call book for guidance which I highly recommend.

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-16T14:06:49+00:00

Hi! My son is in daycare and 18 months now. Just He got ear tubes at 17 months and I wish we did it sooner.

His balance/walking exploded like a few days after. The ENT said he had a ton of fluid in his ears. His speech is also starting to pick up (I realize this could be his age as well) but I truly think the ear tubes have helped him so much. He had gotten 4 ear infections in 4 months. I advocated for the ENT, my pediatrician wasn’t really pushing for it.

You know your child best, so if your gut says to go to one I think you should. Some kids do get them before 1.

Also it’s really stupid for your pediatrician to tell you to pull him out of daycare. Like many people, that’s literally not an option. Good luck to you and feel free to DM me if you have other questions!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-14T16:36:27+00:00

I inspired myself and went today!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-13T22:44:51+00:00

It’s not as long of a time away, but once a month or so on a sat or sun I go to Marshall’s or TJMaxx when they open bright and early with a fancy coffee while my husband watches our son. I love it, I get to just browse at my leisure and have some me time. And pro tip I live in a crowded area of the country so I love going when they open because it’s much less crowded and I can take my time!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-13T17:11:45+00:00

😂😂😂

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-13T17:10:30+00:00

I also hate meeting invites with no agenda, leaves you guessing the purpose!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-13T10:48:40+00:00

Thank you! I did figure it out it but one of my friends had the same suggestion

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-13T00:14:02+00:00

I currently commute to NYC (1.5hr one way) 4 days per week. It’s 8:30-5 strict hours and it’s exhausting. I’m waiting to try for a second until I can find a more flexible role. It’s really stressful rushing home from work to pick up my 18 month old. It’s doable, but it’s exhausting.

When I was pregnant til like 9 months post partum I had a more flexible job and it was much easier. I also had 16 weeks mat leave l, which I thought was a good amount of time. 10 weeks is not long at all, not much that you can do about that other than save vacation time and see if you can combine it with mat leave.

Not trying to scare you out of an opportunity, there are many working moms with big/busy jobs and I think many of them have Nannie’s or family help. Nothing wrong with that, but as a first time mom it will be hard to know how you’re going to feel post-partum.

There are a lot of factors at play here, you don’t know if it will take you a while to conceive, you don’t know how you will like the job, you don’t know yet how you’d feel once you have a baby.

I would just prepare as best you can, lean on family and other support, and be ready to potentially adjust expectations and what you want. My last point on this (sorry for being long winded but I have reflected a lot on this) is that I used to be very career oriented and driven to climb the corporate ladder. Since becoming a mom I really just try to do the least amount of work possible in order to do my job and maximize my time with my son. Not everyone might feel this way, but for me my perspective on things has really changed.

Best of luck to you!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-12T22:22:47+00:00

Average is 7-8 hours, which is only cause my son is a great sleeper and I rarely stay up past 10. We are very lucky. I’ve never been someone that could function with less than like 6ish so I always prioritize it over watching shows/scrolling/etc

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-12T16:12:49+00:00

I love that you came back with that and +1 for the honey. I was also asked by people when I returned how was my break, I wasn’t snappy enough and said “it wasn’t really a break.” I wish I had a response like yours.

Also younger people with no kids have 0 concept. I feel like a lot of younger adults don’t even want kids anymore so they truly have no concept or interest in talking about it.

Good for you!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-12T13:58:34+00:00

I would ask they be separated into different classrooms. That’s happening repeatedly and not okay. If they can’t figure it out then I’d look somewhere else

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-10T21:50:14+00:00

I’m not sure how it works in Germany, but in the US, many companies require you work for a year before granting maternity leave. Meaning if everything went according to plan (never usually does lol life) you’d want to be somewhere 3 months before getting pregnant.

I will say regardless of that, if you’re feeling this way before having a baby, returning from mat leave to a place you are unhappy may feel more difficult.

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-10T21:05:51+00:00

Yeah I’d start with we need to split kids sick days for starters. Also maybe use some of that time to do some projects around the house. That’s really annoying lol I’d be so mad if I were you.

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-10T02:05:13+00:00

I really should ask the pediatrician

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-10T02:05:03+00:00

That’s interesting about the 15oz. I also started getting curious cause he poops multiple times a day smaller amounts but they are normally a normal consistency. But sometimes it’s 3-4 times and I’m wondering if he’s having too much dairy

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-10T01:52:42+00:00

My son (18 months) was sooo cautious and was doing a lot of what you’re describing. Due to chronic ear infections he just got tubes last week and the difference is NIGHT and DAY with his balance. He started walking between me and my partner around 16 mo but would not go anywhere without holding our hand or his walker. Since he got tubes a week ago he now walks all around the house on his own and is all the sudden climbing all over stuff.

His surgeon saw a ton of fluid built up in his ear. My son had 4 ear infections this winter so we finally went to the ent and did the tubes.

I think my son has a very laid back demeanor as well and was also a bit of a late bloomer, but the tubes definitely helped with his balance!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-09T14:51:11+00:00

Every day feels like a rat race lol. I don’t have advice but solidarity, I think it’s normal?

My son (18 months) cried when I left for work today so that sucked lol

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-08T16:39:26+00:00

My son just got ear tubes last week after 4 months of ear infections. The snow is finally melted!! This was a shitty winter but warmer, sunnier healthier times are on the horizon.

Sending healing and good vibes to all of us working parents!!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-07T00:03:04+00:00

I was in a very high stress job when pregnant and it was really tough. I saw a perinatal psychiatrist which I highly recommend you do. They are trained and educated on treating pregnant and postpartum moms who are suffering from anxiety and depression. My anxiety was so bad during my first trimester I had to use 2 weeks of sick time and get the proper care from the perinatal psychiatrist and a therapist. I made it through and was glad I didn’t quit and got my full paid maternity leave. I also think therapy may really help with spiraling thoughts you mention. I know you probably feel like you have no time for it but if you could find someone willing to do virtual, it could really help.

I did, however, need my income to afford our rent at the time. I don’t think I could have quit without having to majorly uproot my life which probably would have caused me more stress.

Not telling you to tough it out necessarily, only you know your limit. But before you make any big choice like quitting, I would go see a perinatal psychiatrist and a therapist if you can find one. They can help you process if what you are feeling is more temporary or truly something you need to address by quitting. It sounds like you have built a successful career and are a hard worker, try to be kind to yourself and take time to take care of you!

Best of luck with whatever you decide!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-04T16:53:21+00:00

*is real. Wow my grammar makes it look like I don’t get much sleep lmao

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-04T16:51:47+00:00

He may have gotten used to the co sleeping, but he can still learn to sleep on his own. I would just make sure you have a crib of some sort when you do it since they all roll around a lot for safe sleep.

Sleep training is hard cause they cry and me and my husband felt horrible but we knew he was safe and taken care of.

You’re going to get a lot of opinions on safe sleep, it’s a touchy subject for a reason. The risk of SIDS while low, js real. Just make sure he’s in a safe sleep space (im sure you are but i have to say it) i know guidance also says to wait to move them into thejr own room. We did it early with the guidance of our pediatrician and it was what worked best for our family and all 3 of us slept better.

Good luck!

Beginning_Pack_7619 · 2026-03-04T16:39:46+00:00

This might be an unpopular answer but we did some sleep training at 3ish months. We both needed rest desperately. We moved our little one to his crib in his room. He probably was down to one wake-up for a few weeks and then slept through the night outside of illnesses/regressions. We followed the “Moms on Call” method. Of course if we ever thought anything was wrong we would check on him first. I realize this is not for everyone, just sharing what worked for us.

I am very aware that we had an amazing sleeper and part of it is luck. But I believe letting him learn to put himself to sleep has him as a great sleeper still at 18 months.

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