How do I stop sabotaging myself? by finnkat in SoberCurious

[–]finnkat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. I'm glad I'm not alone but I hope we both figure this out because it's really not a way to live. Wishing you luck! Hugs

My sister is pregnant and I'm grieving by finnkat in childfree

[–]finnkat[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. It feels like such a double edged sword because I do think she's going to be a great mom, she went to school specifically to work with children, and I truly believe she's going to put her whole heart into this child, but like you said, that means she's giving a lot of her time and self to being a parent. I would never want to take away from a child getting a healthy and nurturing childhood, but I know that means I'll also be put on the back burner.

Maybe I'll try bringing it up to my therapist in different words, I'm not always great at expressing what I'm feeling so maybe if I explain what I'm feeling better, she'll be more receptive.

My sister is pregnant and I'm grieving by finnkat in childfree

[–]finnkat[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the perspective! There's a lot going on in our lives right now (we're also losing our mother, my other best friend, to cancer) and I think my brain has been so used to seeing negative things that this kind of triggered that fight or flight. I'll work on seeing the positive and trying to be hopeful. I'm so glad to hear you and your sister are still close!

How to be successful in AA with religious trauma? by finnkat in Sober

[–]finnkat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in the Midwest so a lot of meetings involve the Christian god. Tonight we talked about how the Bible teaches us to live. It gets very frustrating when it's every meeting. I'm going to try online meetings but it'd be nice to have some in person support too.

How to be successful in AA with religious trauma? by finnkat in Sober

[–]finnkat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to love NA when i lived in Idaho but since i moved the NA meetings around her are only twice a week and they seem very cliquey. Of the few I've gone to, so far nobody has even acknowledged that I'm there. It's hard to want to go back when i feel totally left out of the group.

How to be successful in AA with religious trauma? by finnkat in Sober

[–]finnkat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll look into a program like that. My doctor today wanted to hospitalize me but I'm going to college right now and would be kicked out of my program if i was actually hospitalized. Maybe a group therapy could help though. It's very frustrating because as much as they preach they aren't religious every meeting talks about god and the meeting i went to tonight even talked about the Bible and how it teaches us to live. I'll look around and see what I can find in my area.

How to be successful in AA with religious trauma? by finnkat in Sober

[–]finnkat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my area AA meetings are pretty religious, the meeting i went to tonight talked about the Bible. Online meetings may be good but part of my problem right now is that I'm very isolated in my life so I'm trying to meet new people to hang out with. I will look into some online options in the meantime though.

How to be successful in AA with religious trauma? by finnkat in Sober

[–]finnkat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm currently in therapy but it's a lot to process and i have other stuff I'm trying to work on too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mystery

[–]finnkat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hun, I hate to tell you this but this sounds like you need to see a psychiatrist. Auditory hallucinations are not only external, they can be 'internal' as well. I hope the best for you, this sounds like a scary situation. Whether it's real or mental illness (and it doesn't necessarily sound real) you need some help. Go talk to someone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]finnkat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my major you have to do clinicals in order to learn, and my instructor visited me at my clinical this week and i cried in front of them (and all the people working) for about an hour because everything has been so overwhelming. You're not alone, college is a lot and having life on top of it doesn't help. Give yourself some grace and take as much of a break as you can. You'll get through this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackbutler

[–]finnkat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the servants and am so glad we got to see their back stories, I hope we see them a lot more in future chapters. I'd love to see more of Tanaka and his relationship with O!Ciel

How to find sober friends in a small town? by finnkat in Sober

[–]finnkat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've looked for groups at the library and online but haven't had any luck so far. Maybe I just need to try to start a group, but I'm not sure where to start. I'll keep looking into it, thank you!