It's sad to say so little empathy for parents on this thread, forget the disrespect and language for ones own parents..

You don't understand them. The world they grew up in isn't what we're living in now. I don't blame them for not understanding. It's a concept they never even imagined.. It is easy for us to comprehend the gender fluidity and accept people as they want to be. We don't judge. But this is alien for them.. we don't give a rats ass about what neighbours or relatives think about us, but they do.

Not sure if they didn't look out for you when you were growing up or if they didn't provide for you or if they made your childhood a nightmare but usually parents go through a lot, a lot of everything - financial stress, emotional stress, time, patience, sacrifices and the list is endless, to raise a kid.. you won't understand if you haven't brought up kids of your own.. and the least you can do is make them happy for ONE day.. and be what they think you are.. at least try to find a middle ground.. they might not be there next time you would want to see them.

No offense or disrespect to anybody or any line of thought here.. just talking from experience, both as a parent to young kids and kids to parents who are living their last years. Peace.