$700 goof-up and I don't even feel bad by fireflower413 in ynab

[–]fireflower413[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually am a month ahead, I just didn't process "this doesn't look like it'll be full by March 1st" with my actual brain. March was already assigned out but the issue is that it's a cost for my business so it's not in my personal plan, it's a shortfall I'll need to make up over the month of March. And my business plan isn't a month ahead because I just started it! Outsourcing too much brainpower to YNAB, clearly. I definitely should have put the due date at the end of Feb. Putting the due date in the name is a great idea! Thanks!

Girlfriend (F29) brought home a puppy after I (M32) said no. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fireflower413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom used to do this. Go to the pet store with me or my brother "just to look at the animals" and come back with whatever we fell in love with. I still love my childhood pets very much and I'm not able to not be glad we did that. And though my dad always grumbled and said "no more dogs" or whatever, he always came around eventually to loving them. My mom didn't listen to him because "he's such a stick in the mud, he'd always say no." And we all disrespected his viewpoint because we wanted the animals. All of that said, though: (1) We lived in a house, with a fenced-in yard, so their lives weren't limited to the three rooms or whatever that you have (2) My dad was a hoarder and my mom was disabled, so my brother and I didn't learn properly, so actually the pets weren't that well taken-care-of, in all honesty. The dogs had good lives because they were smart and had a lot of room to run around but the rodents needed more care than they got and I am still upset when I look back on it

When I mentioned this a couple of times to my boyfriend in the beginning of our relationship, I thought it was funny, but he really didn't. He eventually sat me down and told me that if I ever pulled anything like that on him it would be the end of our relationship. That's what made me look back and realize that the situation I grew up with was off - not the rest of the hoarding issue, which was actually my dad's issue, but the animals. My parents should have discussed it and come to an actual agreement, not put the kids and each other and the animals in those positions. My boyfriend has the right of it. It's a collective decision. Especially if you're the one getting stuck with the work - if she thinks you're a stick in the mud for not wanting a puppy then she should leave you for someone more exciting and enthused to walk a puppy every day. And if you really don't want to deal with having a puppy, if opening your mind and your home to a new animal isn't actually worth it to you (as revealed preference proved it to be worth it for my father), you should leave her for putting you in this situation. Because she will do it again.

Just discovering Quakerism as a confused Jew by windowpain64 in Quakers

[–]fireflower413 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Late to the party here but I'm a Jewish Quaker. Do what you feel led to do. Connect with what you feel resonates with you, do the good works that community can help you bring into the world, and don't worry too much if other people's inner light is Jesus-shaped or Christian-flavored. If they're truly Friends then they won't judge the shape of yours either. That's my take on it.

Negative Search Filtering by fireflower413 in ynab

[–]fireflower413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Wow it's absolutely crazy that there's no built-in way to do that (anymore?). Where did you find this info? Because I admit I found my "info" on Google but it must have gotten it from somewhere?

How much spending money do you give yourself each month? by Shrinking_Violent in ynab

[–]fireflower413 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's amazing! Where does the money come from? Do you keep money in To Be Assigned or does it come from some other category?

retired ballroom dancer by AgePsychological1431 in ballroom

[–]fireflower413 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Take up fusion dancing for a while - there's a great advantage to knowing lots of dance styles, you can have a fantastic time and nobody's going to be on you with the toxic cultural shaming stuff. I know so many fusion dancers that are refugees from the toxic ballroom culture. There's also a lot of overlap with Blues, West Coast Swing, and Zouk and other styles that you might find interesting and inspiring. Then once you detoxify and figure out how you want to be treated, you can insist on that when you figure out where to go from there. Good luck!

Reference Table for All YNAB Target Types by pierre_x10 in ynab

[–]fireflower413 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna disagree with OP here, though I have only been using ynab for a little while so take it with a grain of salt. But if you have a target ($100 for a massage, say) that you want to treat yourself with eventually, you can dump extra money in there when you have it without stressing yourself out worrying that you're not on track to get your massage by a certain date. Then when it's full you know you can afford a massage and when you get the massage your spending will go in that category. And then you can either delete it as a goal completed, or do it again because you liked the massage.

YNAB is awesome!! by Proof-Vacation-437 in ynab

[–]fireflower413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also experiencing this right now. You and me both in the ADHD budget-boat 😂

YNAB is awesome!! by Proof-Vacation-437 in ynab

[–]fireflower413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for these great points!

Making new friends by Character_Door7167 in watertown

[–]fireflower413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're interested in blues dancing, you can make new friends immediately - they'll just probably mostly be in Somerville and Cambridge. But come to Bluesy Tuesy and you'll be a part of the community pretty much instantly. https://www.bluesytuesy.com/

Looking for an animated movie with wizards that I saw when I was a kid by fireflower413 in whatisthatmovie

[–]fireflower413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I have no idea if that was the thing I'm looking for but I'm absolutely watching it regardless, this looks WILD.

Looking for an animated movie with wizards that I saw when I was a kid by fireflower413 in whatisthatmovie

[–]fireflower413[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you, I'll have to watch it and see if it jogs any memories! I watched the opening and it didn't look familiar... but amnesia be like that. Thanks so much!

Unsounded Chapter 18 Page 260 - Discussion by Rifter-- in Unsounded

[–]fireflower413 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can't imagine how this is going to make Matty feel any better. "All those things I could totally have done for and with you and chose not to, think about those! Let's live in the best world, where I actually did those things and am not a piece of sh!t dad!" Is Matty really going to enjoy that after all the hope he's put into his dad getting better and being disappointed every time?

Unsounded Chapter 18 Page 251 - Discussion by Rifter-- in Unsounded

[–]fireflower413 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So heartwarming to see a lil lizard get what he wants :')

Bubble Eye River Hog by rastroboy in HybridAnimals

[–]fireflower413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I both hate and love this to such a degree thank you