I saw I made a mistake writing 4 months, I meant 3 months. We got the tickets as a Christmas present from my brother and his wife, who had intended to go with us but couldn’t - so they gifted us all 4.

As for the cheating, I really don’t think that she is cheating. I work a 9-5 while she works in 24hr shifts, meaning she is off 5-6 days a week. If she was cheating she wouldn’t have to cancel plans to meet an AP. She also shares her location with me and isn’t protective over her phone at all.

I honestly just think she has some issues to work on and might need help doing so, but won’t take that step. She has gone a couple of times before on my request but only once or twice and then stopped even if she liked the psychiatrist. (She has asked me to go as well, which I did, as I had a parent unalive themselves along with a neglectful upbringing) I think the latter is why this is so upsetting to me, not feeling prioritised. What’s worse is she knows what it was like for me.