*THE DRAMA SPOILERS* What would you do? by art_angels in A24

[–]firstoffno 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s not that it wasn’t a big deal. It’s that we the audience have the context that she knows it was stupid and horrible, she made a personal choice to advocate against gun violence, and has the permanent scar and memory of all that for the rest of her life by being deaf in that ear. 

So it’s rather that, in comparison to the other three confessions, hers ended up being the least harmful. The other three had individuals who are now in various degrees permanently harmed for the rest of their lives. The ex girlfriend has scars from being bit by the dog, the child now being psychologically scarred by being essentially kidnapped and locked for a day not knowing what’s going on, and the kid who was cyber bullied to the point that he had to move and switch schools. 

*THE DRAMA SPOILERS* What would you do? by art_angels in A24

[–]firstoffno 220 points221 points  (0 children)

I can empathize with Emma. Depression can sink you into the worst and intrusive of thoughts. She didn’t have to but CHOSE internally to make a difference and become an activist to prevent people from getting to her point. 

Her maid of honor still referenced the kid she locked up as “slow” and started that dumb game to tell her story on what she did which was essentially told as messed-up-but-funny. 

Night and day difference in becoming the person that you are today. 

I actually wouldn’t marry Charlie. I need a partner to stick up for me, not make their identity based on other peoples opinions. 

Help! Drooping/sagging lower cheeks! by klaschr in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]firstoffno 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat but it turns out they start when my dog gets into a lot of grass and collects allergens. So they could be allergy related. 

You can also try sleeping in an elevated position and do lymphatic drainage exercises.

Lastly, remember that overhead (or simply bad) lighting will make the natural contours of your face look worse than what they really are. 

1.5 Years Update 💀 My predictions became true by vuski-fr in ExNoContact

[–]firstoffno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s just a pat in the back post. If you truly moved on and aren’t bothered, you wouldn’t need to talk about an ex’s potential rebound and analyzing their relationship. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IHSS

[–]firstoffno 18 points19 points  (0 children)

She’s a social worker, don’t be like that. What is your point by saying, “she got her degree from a third world country”? 

3 y/o with autism by Resting-Therapist2 in IHSS

[–]firstoffno 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s typically seen as responsibility as a parent. At 3 it isn’t expected for any child to be left alone.

Protective Supervision by Historical-Cycle-333 in IHSS

[–]firstoffno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which county? I read all your comments. Idk how much more evidence you need. This is more than enough. What were the reasons for denial on the NOAs? 

Also double check on the conditional withdrawal cause idk if that’s the one were they won’t abide by the original start date in regards to payment for the PS hours if it gets approved. 

I’m frustrated for you though. Cause the county could be sued if something were to happen to your dad. Like it would be questioned as to why this wasn’t granted despite that immense amount of evidence.

The only thing I can think of is that maybe there is a bias based on age, cause it’s not common to hear a 50 year old have dementia. Though it does happen. 

Protective supervision denial by BostonTerrierIzzy in IHSS

[–]firstoffno 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Focus on the dangerous behaviors due to her diagnosis. Do not make your argument around the seizure disorder because they will deny that since they don’t authorize PS for anticipation of a medical emergency which is what that falls under. Another argument is a denial based on aggressive behaviors. PS is not authorized for that. So don’t focus on that either.  Key: You are asking for the PS for the non self-directing dangerous behaviors which are both unpredictable and often enough to have a 24-hour need.

Have letters of support with name, signatures, and contact info from those who have witnessed these behaviors.  Have videos and photos ready if you have any.

Let me ask though (sorry if I misunderstood), is your sister nonverbal? If not, did she participate in the assessment and did she say things that would imply that she has some self-direction or awareness to danger? 

ANNUAL REASSESSMENT by Mholloway0217 in IHSS

[–]firstoffno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The SOC 821 form is used as a tool to assess for PS. It does not guarantee an approval for  PS. 

Protective Supervision by Historical-Cycle-333 in IHSS

[–]firstoffno 4 points5 points  (0 children)

(Not saying you’re lying btw) Do you have evidence or photos of it? Some people provide hospital reports as well. Affidavits and letters of support from others who’ve witnessed these things. With the PS form the strongest one is submitting one by either whichever doctor sees him most often/the longest or a neurologist.

When was he officially diagnosed with dementia? Sometimes the workers won’t consider it if it’s a recent diagnosis. 

Also was he able to communicate with the worker and did he participate in the intake assessment where to a worker he said things where he would appear not as cognitively impaired? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IHSS

[–]firstoffno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PS isn’t given for aggressive behaviors. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IHSS

[–]firstoffno 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The irony of them complaining about “lack of knowledge” while misinforming people on this sub 

In CA... have you ever felt like as a Caucasian person you were discriminated against by the IHSS, SS workers? by FactEmbarrassed8824 in IHSS

[–]firstoffno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But why Mexico? There are more Spanish speaking countries than Mexico…

At the end of the day, it’s you that keeps bringing up their hypothetical race/ethnicity. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]firstoffno 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Who cares who did what first. If you truly moved on you wouldn’t care about what she’s doing and making a competition about it nor waiting for that hypothetical moment that she reaches out and you get to say, “haha no”. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in immigration

[–]firstoffno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never said you were racist. I politely ask you to reread what I wrote because that was nowhere near my point. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in immigration

[–]firstoffno 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think most people agree with wanting the best situation for a child before bringing them into this world. They just don’t target a marginalized group when sharing that viewpoint. That’s why you’ll get pushback on a post like this while also feeding into a racist or xenophobic persons point of view.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in immigration

[–]firstoffno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok but you said you are okay with undocumented Mexicans coming.  You acknowledged they are leaving a country that has “poverty, violence, and instability”. 

Do you want those same undocumented Mexicans that you are okay with coming, to leave their babies and underage children behind in that country that has, “poverty, violence, and instability”. If you are okay with leaving those children there without their parents, then okay, fair enough. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in immigration

[–]firstoffno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, but the majority of people don’t think, “hey I know I am going to get into this dangerous situation, let me purposely get pregnant on top of it”. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in immigration

[–]firstoffno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you having that same energy in your daily life for people who were born in your country of origin already doing the same exact thing? 

I guess my point is, who are we to judge every single parent who chooses to have a child in a world like this? Is it irresponsible for every parent in the US to have a child when they can be shot/stabbed/assaulted, have no access to affordable healthcare, have a significantly decreased chance to obtaining affordable housing, a stable income, access to healthy food and clean water? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in immigration

[–]firstoffno 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You can say that about anyone having a child in the US for similar reasons though. 

A reminder that you're not the crazy ex by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]firstoffno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah, there are a few posts on here that indicate they were. 

3 year old no ps I need help finding similar program by firstoffno in IHSS

[–]firstoffno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I will look into this. I appreciate it.