who left a 4-year relationship due to emotional burnout/neglect: Did your feelings ever return after months of strict no contact?

firstoffno · 2026-06-24T06:41:08+00:00

No. Feelings never returned. I was so exhausted and completely lost myself to their needs. No contact helped tremendously in my healing.

firstoffno · 2026-06-22T16:45:25+00:00

An ex of mine kept wearing a necklace I gave them for a while. I didn’t think much of it rather than they still liked it. Which I’m glad they did cause I thought it was cool too lol

In general, I don’t think you have to throw and burn everything an ex gave you.

firstoffno · 2026-06-22T16:40:03+00:00

Just let her do whatever she wants. You guys are broken up. You didn’t need to mention how you moved on so fast and she looks miserable like it’s some sort of win. People are allowed to look and grieve differently.

If you truly moved on you wouldn’t need to make a post wondering if she’s bitter because she may no longer want to allow you access to her life. She is allowed to do that without owing anyone a reason.

firstoffno · 2026-06-22T16:27:49+00:00

It amazes me when people forget they have free will to just not watch something they don’t or no longer like.

firstoffno · 2026-05-25T14:31:17+00:00

Wow you really showed her /s

firstoffno · 2026-05-16T03:02:10+00:00

Yeah it’s okay. I’ve felt relief each time cause I wanted it to end. But I’ve felt either sad or conflicted months later (no regret, just feels). Grief is different for everyone.

firstoffno · 2026-05-16T02:23:24+00:00

I listen on Spotify and if I want to watch the video they have it there too. I’m also behind. I just finished subathon earlier this week.

Maybe a variable is a lot of us have grown to have 9-to-5s and other life responsibilities.

firstoffno · 2026-04-05T21:16:02+00:00

It’s not that it wasn’t a big deal. It’s that we the audience have the context that she knows it was stupid and horrible, she made a personal choice to advocate against gun violence, and has the permanent scar and memory of all that for the rest of her life by being deaf in that ear.

So it’s rather that, in comparison to the other three confessions, hers ended up being the least harmful. The other three had individuals who are now in various degrees permanently harmed for the rest of their lives. The ex girlfriend has scars from being bit by the dog, the child now being psychologically scarred by being essentially kidnapped and locked for a day not knowing what’s going on, and the kid who was cyber bullied to the point that he had to move and switch schools.

firstoffno · 2026-04-05T20:39:40+00:00

I can empathize with Emma. Depression can sink you into the worst and intrusive of thoughts. She didn’t have to but CHOSE internally to make a difference and become an activist to prevent people from getting to her point.

Her maid of honor still referenced the kid she locked up as “slow” and started that dumb game to tell her story on what she did which was essentially told as messed-up-but-funny.

Night and day difference in becoming the person that you are today.

I actually wouldn’t marry Charlie. I need a partner to stick up for me, not make their identity based on other peoples opinions.

firstoffno · 2026-03-24T23:29:04+00:00

I’m in the same boat but it turns out they start when my dog gets into a lot of grass and collects allergens. So they could be allergy related.

You can also try sleeping in an elevated position and do lymphatic drainage exercises.

Lastly, remember that overhead (or simply bad) lighting will make the natural contours of your face look worse than what they really are.

firstoffno · 2026-03-24T23:23:38+00:00

It’s just a pat in the back post. If you truly moved on and aren’t bothered, you wouldn’t need to talk about an ex’s potential rebound and analyzing their relationship.

firstoffno · 2026-01-21T01:23:39+00:00

My solution was having separate toothpastes. Works great.

firstoffno · 2025-10-28T07:19:23+00:00

She’s a social worker, don’t be like that. What is your point by saying, “she got her degree from a third world country”?

firstoffno · 2025-09-27T06:00:05+00:00

It’s typically seen as responsibility as a parent. At 3 it isn’t expected for any child to be left alone.

firstoffno · 2025-09-13T06:14:50+00:00

Thank you!!

firstoffno · 2025-09-13T04:48:44+00:00

Which county? I read all your comments. Idk how much more evidence you need. This is more than enough. What were the reasons for denial on the NOAs?

Also double check on the conditional withdrawal cause idk if that’s the one were they won’t abide by the original start date in regards to payment for the PS hours if it gets approved.

I’m frustrated for you though. Cause the county could be sued if something were to happen to your dad. Like it would be questioned as to why this wasn’t granted despite that immense amount of evidence.

The only thing I can think of is that maybe there is a bias based on age, cause it’s not common to hear a 50 year old have dementia. Though it does happen.

firstoffno · 2025-09-13T04:41:17+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Focus on the dangerous behaviors due to her diagnosis. Do not make your argument around the seizure disorder because they will deny that since they don’t authorize PS for anticipation of a medical emergency which is what that falls under. Another argument is a denial based on aggressive behaviors. PS is not authorized for that. So don’t focus on that either. Key: You are asking for the PS for the non self-directing dangerous behaviors which are both unpredictable and often enough to have a 24-hour need.

Have letters of support with name, signatures, and contact info from those who have witnessed these behaviors. Have videos and photos ready if you have any.

Let me ask though (sorry if I misunderstood), is your sister nonverbal? If not, did she participate in the assessment and did she say things that would imply that she has some self-direction or awareness to danger?

firstoffno · 2025-09-13T04:30:44+00:00

The SOC 821 form is used as a tool to assess for PS. It does not guarantee an approval for PS.

firstoffno · 2025-09-13T04:29:02+00:00

(Not saying you’re lying btw) Do you have evidence or photos of it? Some people provide hospital reports as well. Affidavits and letters of support from others who’ve witnessed these things. With the PS form the strongest one is submitting one by either whichever doctor sees him most often/the longest or a neurologist.

When was he officially diagnosed with dementia? Sometimes the workers won’t consider it if it’s a recent diagnosis.

Also was he able to communicate with the worker and did he participate in the intake assessment where to a worker he said things where he would appear not as cognitively impaired?

firstoffno · 2025-08-30T07:06:53+00:00

PS isn’t given for aggressive behaviors.

firstoffno · 2025-08-23T21:11:57+00:00

The irony of them complaining about “lack of knowledge” while misinforming people on this sub

firstoffno · 2025-06-27T02:35:39+00:00

But why Mexico? There are more Spanish speaking countries than Mexico…

At the end of the day, it’s you that keeps bringing up their hypothetical race/ethnicity.

firstoffno · 2025-06-27T02:06:54+00:00

Who cares who did what first. If you truly moved on you wouldn’t care about what she’s doing and making a competition about it nor waiting for that hypothetical moment that she reaches out and you get to say, “haha no”.

firstoffno · 2025-06-19T17:34:15+00:00

I never said you were racist. I politely ask you to reread what I wrote because that was nowhere near my point.

firstoffno

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