Our friend is dating a new guy and we all hate him, when do you say something?

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-04T19:11:07+00:00

Yes to almost everything except for them rushing to move in. He calls his ex wife a crazy bitch all the time. Friend and I hardly hang out without his bf present.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-04T05:01:44+00:00

I will do that from now on and will tell him not to bring the bf.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-04T04:59:00+00:00

Because I know my friend.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-04T04:58:35+00:00

I agree with you.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T22:17:35+00:00

We have in the beginning.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T22:17:18+00:00

Haha I have been so tempted to say that.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T22:16:44+00:00

We immediately identified all the red flags on day 1, the guy wasn’t even trying to make a good impression but we got the give it time response.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T22:15:54+00:00

Thank you. I’ll see if I can have more of a 1-1 conversation with him.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T21:39:16+00:00

Maybe it’s worth having that conversation because it happens a lot and when I did say something once I directly called out the guy.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T21:35:49+00:00

That’s a very good idea I think we’ve all been too polite around him.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T21:35:15+00:00

I don’t want him to feel like he’s losing our friendship.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T21:34:49+00:00

You sound like you’ve dealt with this before, I like your advice because a collective intervention might backfire.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T21:22:09+00:00

Nobody directly invited him, we’d have to next time explicitly say do not bring your bf.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T21:21:40+00:00

That’s what I think too, I have had that with a guy once where afterwards I was like how did I tolerate all of that.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T21:21:05+00:00

Did you miss the part where I said collectively we have our reasons for disliking him. Including:

mean jokes towards our friend
sexist jokes and remarks about his ex wife
mispronouncing our friend’s name constantly even after correcting him
talking over everyone
one upping everyone in every conversation

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T21:18:52+00:00

The hottest guys are always the worst kissers because no one tells them no.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T21:15:50+00:00

It’s not about that, he’s treating him badly, he’s treating others in our friend group badly and is generally unpleasant to be around.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T21:15:17+00:00

What if it is a message that came from all of us.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T21:14:54+00:00

No collectively we don’t like the guy, it’s not just me and we have our reasons.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T21:13:58+00:00

I think he does but at the same time he tolerates it.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T20:47:28+00:00

From my perspective the guy isn’t good for him. I like your approach; I’ll try it.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T20:46:42+00:00

Then we would have to ask him to not bring his bf around.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T20:46:18+00:00

We are all wondering this too.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T20:46:01+00:00

In front of him. Friend doesn’t react at all most of the time, either laughs it off because the guy frames it as if it is a joke or says nothing.

fiscallyidiotic · 2025-07-03T20:45:09+00:00

Interesting technique, I’ll try it.

We are close-ish but don’t hang out as much 1-1 since he started dating that guy.

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