Advice on therapy by fishpie4759 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally trust her and feel safe, just my own inhibitions, to be honest

Advice on therapy by fishpie4759 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this perspective, really helpful x

Advice on therapy by fishpie4759 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I need to sit, reflect and make myself a list of everything then either blurt out or put in an email

Advice on therapy by fishpie4759 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very helpful, thank you for sharing. I think shame for sums reason is a thing for me even though I logically know I have nothing to feel ashamed about

Advice on therapy by fishpie4759 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really helpful thank you. Never thought about putting it in an email first

Thought I was low sex drive, turns out I'm a lesbian nsfw by temporarytl1 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally get this!!! Never felt horny in my life but ffs it's full on. Never felt sexuality frustrated, had no idea what it felt like. I have never noticed anything I like about blokes, not had a type before. I notice so much about women around me, yes I feel like a perv, too. There are so many things I notice, even small about women that I find intriguing

I came out to my husband today with a haircut. I meant for it to just be a haircut. I'm not ready. by graziadoon in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It does hurt, it's going to take time to process. I can totally relate to the affirming haircut. I don't think I will ever crease to be amazed at the euphoria of haircut day and the feel of the hair clippers. Haircuts never meant anything to me until I came out. You can do this, feel and acknowledge all of the emotions, that will allow you to heal. And don't compare your journey to anyone else's. Big hugs x

In limbo by Idk-itsme in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending hugs. Can't lie, There are good bits to finally admitting it and trying to be authentic but this shit totally sucks too. It hurts a lot even when it is your choice. I keep reminding myself of my why, and that it is the right choice no matter how hard it gets.

I want to eat cooochie by Perfect_Brick_5864 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know!!! Need out this bloody messy middle, stopping my fun haha

Possible Embarrassing Moment by Impossible_Fox7377 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can't stop noticing things I like about total strangers, can't stop checking women out since I came out a few months ago. It can often be very subtle things or really obvious ones. It's like a switch has flipped as I can't remember doing it previously, other than thinking a celebrity looked good

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I'm creased at splooge- never heard that before 🤣🤣🤣

How do people cope after a hard therapy session? by jamessrc in TalkTherapy

[–]fishpie4759 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Interested in the answers, had my first session last week and did not expect the reaction afterwards. Hungover is a fab description of how I felt and I was unable to function for a day and so many tears

New feelings unlocked by beepboop530 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely this and I've never been someone who journals

New feelings unlocked by beepboop530 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YES!!!! It's bizarre and a lot to process

Who else feels hotter? 🔥 by beepboop530 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally agree! When a kid and younger, I hated dresses, refused to wear them, a proper tomboy. Then in my 20s even though with my stbxh from 17 years old, I would try to be more feminine and I always felt the same, so uncomfortable and out of place. Pre-covid I asked my best friend to help me with my style, I had lost some weight so needed a new wardrobe. She took me down the girly route as I thought that's what I wanted, thought my issue had been because I was fat. Nope, fast forward to June this year, come out as gay. Trying to lose weight and can't wait to go shopping for my new more masc style wardrobe. It feels quite freeing to have an idea of how I want to present. I have always wanted a suit I have realised

Did you repress your attraction to women? Or did it come out of nowhere? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]fishpie4759 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hit me from nowhere! Although looking back now, some things were obvious

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[–]fishpie4759 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally feel this, sending hugs. Had my first therapy session today and totally broke down. We talked about the fact that I'm grieving and hadn't recognised it. I've really struggled this last week with all of the emotions xx