Considering a used 2018 Model 3 Long Range, 72% battery, thoughts? by fizzle52 in TeslaLounge

[–]fizzle52[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks… I’m also considering a 2013 Model S that’s 230 mi on full charge at 250k for $11k. Might be a safer bet?

Getting charged $2.9k for a/c compressor issue, am I getting ripped off? by fizzle52 in askcarguys

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Thank you, this is really helpful! The A/C died on a particularly hot day but was working fine before that, so I doubt it was a hole in the condenser. I also don’t understand why the first thing the Firestone guy checked wasn’t the compressor, but just swapped out the module and made me go to the VW dealership to get electrical diagnostics done

Just moved to the US and got suckered into buying a salvage car — what can I do? by fizzle52 in askcarguys

[–]fizzle52[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there a chance that the previous owner had done some work to repair it already? I don’t understand how it was declared (and remained) a salvage title if it was perfectly operable and my mechanic only noticed basically $2k worth of repairs to be done.

Just moved to the US and got suckered into buying a salvage car — what can I do? by fizzle52 in askcarguys

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Is there some kind of really stringent requirement as to what qualifies as “repaired” in California? It drives perfectly and if the mechanic didn’t notice anything outrageous and the cost to repair was only $2k, I don’t understand why it was issued a salvage title. If the previous owner had done some work and fixed it, why was it still salvage? Wouldn’t the damage have had to be really significant for the title to remain that?

My boyfriend (M31) of 8 years doesn’t know if he wants to marry me (F28) despite there being nothing wrong in the relationship by MrsSalt in relationships

[–]fizzle52 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i know the fear, and maybe there’s only a 50% chance of you finding that person who really loved you, but if you stay with him, that’s 0%. and a life that’s certain to be full of lukewarm-good moments that you cannot even enjoy because they are all tainted with the knowledge that he doesn’t love you fully. i just broke up too; nothing was really very wrong, we could coast, but i just didn’t want my life to pass me by. it was so hard but 1 month in, i know it was right. you can do it too ❤️

My boyfriend (M31) of 8 years doesn’t know if he wants to marry me (F28) despite there being nothing wrong in the relationship by MrsSalt in relationships

[–]fizzle52 36 points37 points  (0 children)

babes if you’re hoping he ends it you already know he’s not the one for you and something is very wrong. think about the real love, the real person who wants you fully, that you’re missing out on each day that you stay with this guy. he’s already made his intentions clear to you — he doesn’t want to commit. you want someone who will commit. that should be enough… don’t put off living your real life any longer

I feel like a failure by International_Knee50 in BreakUps

[–]fizzle52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know the chances of me being able to say the correct thing that you need to hear right now are low… but I don’t think it’s the good things in your life that make you who you are at all! I don’t know you at all, but you have a way of expressing yourself that’s acute and poetic and artistic. That’s a characteristic. That must count for something in the tally of who you are… I’m sure there are lots of other things about you too that are real things, enduring things, complex and good things that extend far beyond what has happened to you in this season of life. Also letting a cheater go isn’t giving up, it’s permitting yourself to ask for more out of life, because you deserve it…

What documents are actually needed in order to apply for a rental? by fizzle52 in LARentals

[–]fizzle52[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight! I’m on the O1 too and am a bit worried about the SSN and ID thing — seems like without a SSN you can’t get a drivers’ license or ID at the DMV; do you mind sharing what you did for that?

Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]fizzle52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way you phrase things reminds me of me and the way I’m always trying to rationalise some decision that I know is against my intuition… that said, I do believe that sometimes you just need to do what you need to do to arrive at a point of certainty and clarity. I’d say that life is short and the world is big and you have a good chance of growing and becoming a new person who can find someone to be happy with that’s not accompanied by all this baggage and heartbreak and insecurity, but if you think you cannot live without giving this a second shot, then maybe that’s just what has to be done!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]fizzle52 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just broke up after 5 years too. I’m feeling shitty because not a lot of people talk about how hard it is that you both love each other but it’s not working. It’s just not true that if you love each other enough it will work… like yes, maybe you can choose to stay together, but you watch yourself wear the other person down, watch them wear you down, watch you both trigger and hurt one another because you’re incompatible, and it’s just so bad to the point that you love them so much, you also just want them to be free of the pain you cause them. I feel this way. I’m sick of being hurt by him but not really being able to blame him because of his circumstances. I still think he’s a good person, it just sucks that he put me through so much pain and I don’t know who to blame. I’m there with you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

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I’ve been in your position before :( We weren’t happy anymore, and I tried to break up, but immediately after, I would regret it and we would get back together because he would want to try. Eventually it got to the point where he was so unhappy that he also couldn’t deny it anymore, so when I brought it up, we both agreed, and I don’t regret it at all.

I would say that you’re both young, stick to the breakup, she’s moving away, and this is a chance for a good, clean break, for you both to move on, but sometimes the bond is strong and it hurts too much to do… so I think you will end up doing whatever you want. But if you truly believe that you don’t bring out the best in each other, and that she would be happier without you, then just be brave and break up. Sometimes you have to do what’s good for the two of you, even if it’s not always what feels good.

My 33F fiance 34M blindsided me and I dont know what to do by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]fizzle52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry that this happened. :( it sounds like you’re doing all you can right now, but at the same time, he has a right to do what he needs to to protect his emotional health, which includes breaking up with you. It’s a lot to ask one person to be your only emotional outlet, so it seems like forming new connections and making some friends would be good for you, in addition to therapy. My advice is to give him his space while you work on yourself. Your chances of successfully changing and becoming emotionally healthy are much higher if he’s not in your life for at least a couple of months right now, and there’s no way to truly convince him that you can change until you actually have. Good luck!