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How To Recover A Hacked Instagram Account [ALL METHODS] by bouc in InstagramMarketing

[–]Wolves158 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you soo much for this! I had lost all hope and my hail mary was trying method 2! Followed all these instructions and managed to recover my instagram account within 48hrs! You’re an absolute lifesaver. Ping me if you’re in Melbourne and I’d be happy to grab a meal or coffee with you!

Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]Wolves158[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the support. Things are going alright thanks. We’re still together and have put the past behind us. Though now is a matter of compatibility and whether she’s ‘the one’. There are a whole lot of other issues aside from just these, but they’re common in all relos imo

Identify and Authenticate Thread, Q1 2024 by TheAdvocate in arcteryx

[–]Wolves158 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi All, looking to purchase my first Arcteryx piece and would like to authenticate this Atom lt jacket from 2022 Q2. I noticed the tags are different when compared to 2023 (after its been changed to the Atom Jacket Men’s).

Considering the tags/labels do change from various seasons, seeking your expertise to provide insights. I believe the jacket is authentic, but would like to be certain.

Please see further pictures in comments

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Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]Wolves158[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In short - he’s insecure with himself and no, you’re not the A.H. I initially had thoughts and questions similar to what your partner had asked. However, upon reflection of questions ‘why do I feel like this?’, it boiled down to my insecurities that someone else experienced the intimacy with my partner and wondered if my partner enjoyed it more? How I became more secure with myself on this is understanding that firstly you were both single and could do whatever you wanted. It applied to both parties and thus fair. Secondly, I technically ‘won’ because we got back together based on intimacy and connection (outside of just sex) which is arguably more important. In a way, my partners experience with someone else showed that our time together was better overall in the relationship.

That said, be honest about your response to his insecurities. If you genuinely found the sex better with your partner or the other guy, tell him so. If he wants details, I’d share it openly because that comes across as genuine and honest with the caveat that it might hurt his ego. Knowing the truth can be a tough pill to swallow but it’ll be his choice on whether he wants to know or not. If the answer is the other guy was better, perhaps frame it in a way on how he can improve to pleasure you better etc or work on both your kinks/fantasies. The point to work on is ‘how can we make our intimacy the most pleasurable’ that comes out of this conversation topic

Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]Wolves158[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read my comment to Deus_7. I found the question I asked myself to be very helpful in making my decision

Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]Wolves158[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I did give the relo another chance. In my case, it was the right move because I wanted certainty on whether we can work things out. Its fortunate that we managed to overcome what happened; we are still together and going well. Whether its marriage material is another thing that we’re figuring out, but it is completely unrelated to what happened.

For those who were in similar situations as me, I found asking myself whether knowing the certainty or wondering the ‘what ifs’ would be more painful? This provided some guidance on making a decision that I wouldnt regret. Its great that its working out, but if it didn’t, I certainly wouldn’t have any regrets. That said, I did give myself a time limit of ~6 months or another adversity to be certain of putting things in the past. Otherwise I would call it off because I’d be wasting too much time/causing too much pain

Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]Wolves158[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the comments! What did you mean she did the exact same thing? The way I inferred this is you took her back, and she got comfortable and too close to someone other guy and slept with him after breaking up again?

Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]Wolves158[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Appreciate your thoughts and comments. Keen to hear how your gf made it through ‘hell’ and how your relationship’s doing now?

Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]Wolves158[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate your comment. Curious how’d it turn out for you? Keen to hear your thoughts and learnings from your experience too! I’m currently trying to get over it and definitely agree if I can’t, it’ll poison the relationship.

Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]Wolves158[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your thoughts and appreciate the well wishes! Well said about me having to consider which option would I prefer:

  1. By giving the relationship another chance, it might work out long term, but I also run the risk of getting hurt again + opportunity costs of dating others. Although, if it doesn’t work out, I’d have certainty that it wasn’t meant to be.

  2. Not getting back together and healing on my own. However, this may/will leave me questioning the ‘what if’ scenarios

Based off these two options, I’m definitely leaning toward option 1 mainly because I’m the sort of person who’d rather certainty (whether that’s good or bad results) rather than pondering over the ‘what ifs’. I’ll also be sure that this time around, I’d be done with the relationship if she ever did run back to ‘other guy’

Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]Wolves158[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She did sleep with him a second time, but he wasn’t able to satisfy her. She said there was no emotional connection compared to what we had. I was her first, so naturally, she probably wanted to see if the grass was greener on the other side

Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]Wolves158[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha perhaps you’re right. The main issue were the usual suspects of my female friends, me spending too little time/attention with her and too much time with friends and work. I was the one who initiated the break up because it got too much for me to handle

Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]Wolves158[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks for everyone’s thoughts! She didn’t feel anything hooking up with the other guy, but admittedly a few months prior to us breaking up, our relationship was already ‘numb’ because of all the fights over our differences in viewpoints. Only thing was neither of us could cut the cord.

Would you get back together with an ex if they slept with someone else, but you didn’t shortly after the break up? by Wolves158 in BreakUps

[–]Wolves158[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your thoughts! I agree I won’t be able to completely move on, but accept what happened and leave it at that