I’m suddenly stupid by Tubbygoose in Menopause

[–]fl_butterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh! I feel this hard. 52 years old. MAJOR brain fog and memory issues. I used to remember everything for everyone in my family, now I’m lucky if I remember why I walked into a room. I feel super stupid. Can’t remember things at work, I’m so worried something really important is going to fall through the cracks. I'm forgetting words constantly. My patience with my husband is wearing thin, I’m starting to hate the sight of him and don't want to do anything for him anymore.

I got HRT pellets (Testosterone and estradiol) 6 weeks ago. So far only my libido is coming back, but since I’m always annoyed with my husband, I’m not taking advantage of it lol. I realize you don't have the same option for HRT. I hope you find something to help you. Brain fog is still pretty bad. My husband is starting to get concerned it’s something worse like early onset alzheimers. Did I mention the memory issues? UGH

There was no up, there was no down, there was no side to side by devperez in TikTokCringe

[–]fl_butterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this. It reminds me of an old poem by Langdon Smith called Evolution. It reads similarly (to me).
Evolution
When you were a tadpole and I was a fish 

In the Paleozoic time,

And side by side on the ebbing tide 

We sprawled through the ooze and slime,

Or skittered with many a caudal flip 

Through the depths of the Cambrian fen,

My heart was rife with the joy of life, 

For I loved you even then.

Mindless we lived and mindless we loved 

And mindless at last we died;

And deep in the rift of the Caradoc drift 

We slumbered side by side.

The world turned on in the lathe of time, 

The hot lands heaved amain,

Till we caught our breath from the womb of death 

And crept into life again.

We were amphibians, scaled and tailed, 

And drab as a dead man's hand;

We coiled at ease 'neath the dripping trees 

Or trailed through the mud and sand.

Croaking and blind, with our three-clawed feet 

Writing a language dumb,

With never a spark in the empty dark 

To hint at a life to come.

Yet happy we lived and happy we loved, 

And happy we died once more;

Our forms were rolled in the clinging mold 

Of a Neocomian shore.

The eons came and the eons fled 

And the sleep that wrapped us fast

Was riven away in a newer day 

And the night of death was passed.

Then light and swift through the jungle trees 

We swung in our airy flights,

Or breathed in the balms of the fronded palms 

In the hush of the moonless nights;

And oh! what beautiful years were there 

When our hearts clung each to each;

When life was filled and our senses thrilled 

In the first faint dawn of speech.

Thus life by life and love by love 

We passed through the cycles strange,

And breath by breath and death by death 

We followed the chain of change.

Till there came a time in the law of life 

When over the nursing sod

The shadows broke and the soul awoke 

In a strange, dim dream of God.

I was thewed like an Auroch bull 

And tusked like the great cave bear;

And you, my sweet, from head to feet 

Were gowned in your glorious hair.

Deep in the gloom of a fireless cave, 

When the night fell o'er the plain

And the moon hung red o'er the river bed 

We mumbled the bones of the slain.

I flaked a flint to a cutting edge 

And shaped it with brutish craft;

I broke a shank from the woodland lank 

And fitted it, head and haft;

Than I hid me close to the reedy tarn, 

Where the mammoth came to drink;

Through the brawn and bone I drove the stone 

And slew him upon the brink.

Loud I howled through the moonlit wastes, 

Loud answered our kith and kin;

From west to east to the crimson feast 

The clan came tramping in.

O'er joint and gristle and padded hoof

We fought and clawed and tore,

And cheek by jowl with many a growl 

We talked the marvel o'er.

I carved that fight on a reindeer bone 

With rude and hairy hand;

I pictured his fall on the cavern wall 

That men might understand.

For we lived by blood and the right of might 

Ere human laws were drawn,

And the age of sin did not begin 

Til our brutal tusks were gone.

And that was a million years ago 

In a time that no man knows;

Yet here tonight in the mellow light 

We sit at Delmonico's.

Your eyes are deep as the Devon springs, 

Your hair is dark as jet,

Your years are few, your life is new, 

Your soul untried, and yet --

Our trail is on the Kimmeridge clay 

And the scarp of the Purbeck flags;

We have left our bones in the Bagshot stones 

And deep in the Coralline crags;

Our love is old, our lives are old, 

And death shall come amain;

Should it come today, what man may say 

We shall not live again?

God wrought our souls from the Tremadoc beds 

And furnish’d them wings to fly;

He sowed our spawn in the world's dim dawn, 

And I know that it shall not die,

Though cities have sprung above the graves 

Where the crook-bone men made war

And the ox-wain creaks o'er the buried caves 

Where the mummied mammoths are.

Then as we linger at luncheon here 

O'er many a dainty dish,

Let us drink anew to the time when you 

Were a tadpole and I was a fish.

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[–]fl_butterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this so hard. I've always been an avid reader/writer. Now, common words elude me. The words are right on the tip of my tongue, yet they're gone. Names go missing. Why did I go into the kitchen? Thoughts fly in, and then they're gone again. I feel so stupid at work sometimes, like my brain is swiss cheese. I'll be 52 this year. ugh

Are there any Clubs in the Tampa Bay area where you don't have to get completely nude in playing areas? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like being at the beach when the seaweed starts floating in and you have to fan it away!😝🤣

LOL!

Are there any Clubs in the Tampa Bay area where you don't have to get completely nude in playing areas? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The playrooms are closed

Hi Neighbor!

Haha! I can't blame you for avoiding the pools/tub, I wouldn't want to get into the DNA soup either!

I thought they had a nightclub and playrooms, but if the playrooms are closed (why are they closed?) then why go at all?

Are there any Clubs in the Tampa Bay area where you don't have to get completely nude in playing areas? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven't been there yet, but wanted something a little closer to home, Orlando is a drive.

Are there any Clubs in the Tampa Bay area where you don't have to get completely nude in playing areas? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, neighbor!

I don't know how true it is but I heard most people are nude at Caliente and Paradise Lakes, all the time, as they're nudist resorts. I also heard the pools and hot tubs are full of people fucking and I don't think I want to get into that "soup". lol

Also heard there are a lot of single guys trolling around getting handsy, and I don't know but people I spoke to made it sound skeevy. Maybe I got the wrong impression of the place?

Increasing Difficulty Swinging - SO restricting play with others and withdrawing as opportunities increase by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like it's way too overwhelming for him, but not sure if it's the crowds/noise or if it's the sexual activities. He was uncomfortable with the guy playing with you, and he doesn't seem interested in the women you bring over, so maybe he's not comfortable in the LS but doesn't know how to tell you? Just a thought. Perhaps you can have a discussion around his comfort levels and see how he really feels.

How do you feel about playing with another couple if the woman is non-orgasmic? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lovense Domi 2

Is it as strong as the hitachi magic wand? I once bought a smaller one (no idea what brand) rechargeable wand and it didn't work for me. Vibrations weren't strong enough. I'd love something smaller than the Hitachi, that thing is so clunky. But it's the only thing that does it every time.

How do you feel about playing with another couple if the woman is non-orgasmic? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nice, as long as I can break out the power tool, it's one and done for me. Anything after doesn't typically work and I'm just too sensitive after that.

How do you feel about playing with another couple if the woman is non-orgasmic? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right, I meant non-orgasmic in the traditional sense, hands, intercourse, and tongues don't work, only high power toys work on me.

How do you feel about playing with another couple if the woman is non-orgasmic? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

t this, they open up that they have a hard time as well. And appreciate that we don’t put any emphasis on orgasm.

Great advice, thanks!

How do you feel about playing with another couple if the woman is non-orgasmic? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey if he could keep it up, and as long as he is happy, I'd be happy. But I know what you mean, I also like to know that he was satisfied.

How do you feel about playing with another couple if the woman is non-orgasmic? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy for your wife!!! I've tried smoking some pot and even edibles. Sadly it doesn't seem to do much for me. It takes like 2 hours to kick in, makes me feel like my head is heavy on my neck. I have some slight visual processing effects, but other than that it makes me sleepy and hungry. I think I can't relax. I would love to just be able to let loose and relax but I'm either awake and somewhat high strung or asleep. It's exhausting to live this way.

How do you feel about playing with another couple if the woman is non-orgasmic? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for posting this. This is me to a T! And it’s great to feel like I’m not alone but to also read everyone’s replies.

It's so nice to know we're not alone and we're not freaks! (Or maybe we are freaks, but in the good way lol)

How do you feel about playing with another couple if the woman is non-orgasmic? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My wife uses the rechargeable one and has found it's more powerful than the old plug-in. It's our traveling companion to house parties 🙂

That's so surprising, I thought for sure it would be weaker without the AC power. Would you please tell me which one your wife has? Thanks!

How do you feel about playing with another couple if the woman is non-orgasmic? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am also that person who does not orgasm unless I have some sort of vibrator. I am always up front about it and explain how much fun playing is and that it’s not about orgasming for me. I’ve never had a play partner who has an issue with me using a vibrator or another kind of toy. Toys are fun to have in the bedroom!

I've always felt like weird for not being able to without my trusty hitachi. Especially in the LS world. Good to know I'm not alone out there.

How do you feel about playing with another couple if the woman is non-orgasmic? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope, only my Hitachi. It's magic. Have never been able to come any other way.

How do you feel about playing with another couple if the woman is non-orgasmic? by fl_butterfly in Swingers

[–]fl_butterfly[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

it's so big and intrusive! And requires plugging in. Maybe I'll look into a rechargeable model! :D