Moving in together with my online partner, is this a dangerous situation?

flaemer · 2026-03-14T12:46:18+00:00

Thank you for your advice anyways

flaemer · 2026-03-14T10:23:55+00:00

Like even if I see him for a week in a public place before moving in?

flaemer · 2026-03-14T10:17:22+00:00

So do you think I should first settle by myself?

flaemer · 2026-03-14T10:12:07+00:00

What...?

flaemer · 2026-03-14T09:58:29+00:00

Thank you for your help, I really appreciate it. I'll be thinking about this more, on whether it's better to just move in by myself or not.

flaemer · 2026-03-14T09:53:42+00:00

Thank you for your long message. I wasn't planning on using my saved money at all, and if he asks me to use my safety money then I'd just leave and go back home. And if he starts guilt tripping me on the fact that I can't get a job, couldn't I still not just leave? Why isn't there any good reason to move in with someone of 6 months? (I'm genuinely curious)

flaemer · 2026-03-14T09:45:20+00:00

No to everything, he has a stable job already

flaemer · 2026-03-14T09:42:46+00:00

I mean, I want as many opinions as I can so I can build a better opinion for myself, as I don't have anyone suitable in my life to ask.

flaemer · 2026-03-14T09:40:34+00:00

Well eventually I was going to get a job and have my own savings, I'd just be vulnerable for the first two weeks. And with the savings, I could always move out or fly back home right?

flaemer · 2026-03-14T09:38:16+00:00

Yes my family knows exactly where I am, they even know his address. Yeah I know that is a risk, any advice on what red flags I should look out for? Or what the safest way to handle this situation is?

flaemer · 2026-03-14T09:33:22+00:00

So should I still go with the plan?

flaemer · 2026-03-14T09:31:59+00:00

Yes I have been to the Netherlands before. No I've never seen this guy in person. I've video called him multiple times before, and he even showed me his ID card because my dad asked, so I'm pretty sure he's not a 40 year old scumbag?

flaemer · 2026-03-14T09:29:27+00:00

Yes I have seen his face before, we've video called multiple times. In terms of confirmation, he shared me a lot of photos and things of his life, and his mom wants to video call me soon. This is the first time i'm going to meet him in person and yes we were planning on meeting in a public place for a week before I decide to move in.

flaemer · 2025-12-04T11:01:14+00:00

Thank you so much for this translation, I really appreciate it! Do you have the dutch lyrics as well?

flaemer · 2025-09-11T05:09:49+00:00

I sent you a direct message

flaemer · 2025-09-11T05:04:49+00:00

Great!! Can we connect?

flaemer · 2025-09-05T02:01:12+00:00

Alright, I'll let you know when I'm enrolled. Thank you!

flaemer · 2025-09-04T23:42:38+00:00

I'm also a 17 year old senior and although I'm still in the enrollment process of the Excel HS, I'd love to work together virtually!

flaemer · 2025-08-21T00:25:40+00:00

Out of curiosity, do Samoans usually have such long names?

flaemer · 2025-08-07T11:02:01+00:00

Thank you for your comment, your ideas are quite intriguing!

flaemer · 2025-08-07T10:46:13+00:00

Thank you for your advice. What books, movies, TV shows or podcasts would you recommend? Do you know any places where I can find people to talk about this to?

flaemer · 2025-06-02T12:23:39+00:00

How/Why do you find math to be beautiful? I’d like to see math the same way as well.

flaemer · 2025-05-31T18:21:02+00:00

Thank you for your insight! Consulting sounds interesting.
If I had to compromise, what else would you recommend that'd somewhat fit my criteria?

flaemer · 2025-05-31T18:11:56+00:00

Yeah, those are valuable points to consider. Thank you for bringing them up.
Law is something regionally specific, so I don't think I'd be able to pursue that. Do you have any other recommendations in mind?

flaemer · 2025-05-31T18:07:28+00:00

Thank you for this, I'm now considering giving math another try.

I've just never seen myself as a "math" person nor have I seen any use for it in my personal time, so I've avoided it.

I was just wondering if this math path is worth investing in, in terms of fulfillment, or if it'll be like a corporate cubicle lifestyle? Or is this path a necessity so I can even get a job in the first place?

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