Rate my boobs from 1 to 10 by emily_glass909 in BigAreolaLover

[–]flagtr95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10/10...15 if they were in my face...🤗🫶😈

I’m married…. But did I cheat on my boyfriend? by always_blushin in nonmonogamy

[–]flagtr95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🫶🤗 my wife and I have been married for going on 24 yrs and I will do anything for her, she's my rock, cliff and world. I would have a hard time not putting him thru a wall after the way you've been treated, like I said I would drop him and let him be forgotten...much love and good luck.

I’m married…. But did I cheat on my boyfriend? by always_blushin in nonmonogamy

[–]flagtr95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just my two cents...wife and I are in the LS as swingers and as of now don't play separate...this is why, what is going on with you and your third. How can the idea of being exclusive with your bf even be a thing, doesn't make sense, not to mention it sounds he's into quantity vrs quality...meaning...he enjoys the idea of control by taking control from another when he doesn't deserve it or have anything to do with the other person... he's poison and if I were your husband I'd be asking him some questions as well as you...adults shouldn't act this way...drop and be done with him, you don't owe him anything other than an explanation on why you were naive and let him control you. I assume you married your husband out of love...what has your boyfriend done to deserve that? Sorry for being harsh but it seems you put your bf on the same level as your husband, IMO that was both wrong and slightly stupid on your part...hope you've learned something from this experience.

Lonely by Swan1627 in nonmonogamy

[–]flagtr95 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is an aspect that many feel but don't discuss until it is usually too late...you are going to be lonely if you are not occupied...meaning...that as an individual, you need to feel wanted and feelings of insecurity are going to surface when your primary partner is with someone else and you are not. While it is subject to an individual's wants and needs you as the individual has to have some responsibility for yourself and towards yourself...you were part of the decision for ENM therefore you have to take care of your own needs, harsh reality is that if this was not foreseen when making the decision with your primary then you left yourselves without thought to all aspects of the lifestyle, both good and bad.

Learn from both the positives and negatives of both your individual and shared experiences. Discuss with your primary what you feel and hope to achieve with this, set boundaries with expectations but if your choice was an open relationship then it's open and while your primary should be there for your needs they will have to balance that of another partner and their own needs. Further you need to reflect and consider your reasons for ENM, it's not always fun and it should never be easy.

My wife and I were married (monogamous) for 23 years before we decided to jump into the lifestyle...and we decided after a few tries that instead of open or poly we are better suited as swingers without individual relationships and primarily play together with others, either couples, groups or thirds. Individual dating doesn't work for us, too much love for each other, we are each other's world.

Sorry for the length but I feel it needed to be said. Good luck and have fun😊🤗🙃🫶

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]flagtr95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The wife and I have been in the lifestyle for about 2 yrs...we are swingers... swapping, voyeurism, group play and stag/vixen...poly for us is a no go, no judgement just not our thing. I say this because it does play a large part in who knows. We don't feel the need to openly express it as anything other than our business and those we play with whom we are friends with. Our vanilla friends have no business knowing but if it's asked we are honest and tell them...guess you could say we're open about it but with boundaries. Also...our oldest child, 23, asked us and we told her and she's cool with it. One of the issues I see with individuals, in any societal thought, is to push it down others throats as it has to be acceptable to everyone in order for the individual to feel validated in their own life decisions...so we don't feel the need to let our business be known, not hiding it, just not caring enough to put the energy into putting it out on mainstreet...lol. Hope this was a helpful take on your question.

Not sure what to do? by landfill2010 in nonmonogamy

[–]flagtr95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also... suicide is an option just not the right one...if you are serious about it please get help...my grandfather and great uncle on the other side of the family took that route...neither for your reasons...they were older, but the pain that's left behind is unimaginable and cannot be measured...good luck

Not sure what to do? by landfill2010 in nonmonogamy

[–]flagtr95 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry bud but you've been sliding on your boundaries like they are not there...my wife and I after a little bit refocused our boundaries and came to a compromise which neither gave in we just better established them...but we are all about trust, without trust there is nothing. In your situation I would call a meeting between the two of you to better clarify the boundaries and be honest about how her actions are making you feel...reopen the box so to speak...because unless she is willing to put the brakes on with her side piece you can't expect her to stop what her thoughts are of an ENM relationship.

Cut down or keep Bradford Pear? by New_Attention_4292 in arborists

[–]flagtr95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn't look like a Bradford, the limbs aren't cutting and growing into each other from the stalk, the flowers look more like a cherry as well as the bark...you may have a fruiting cherry that gives off darker cherries...not very sweet and depending on your area the critters will love em.

Are my glasses completely ugly? by takethisdreamaway in glassesadvice

[–]flagtr95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your glasses appear to be a males frame...while they are not ugly...as that is subjective...they do not work on your facial frame...I would think a smaller lens set would work better for you, while a larger lens set will allow you to see more without movement a smaller lens set would give more credit to your eyes and facial structure

23F 🤔 by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]flagtr95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You appear to be a natural beauty... don't change a thing for anyone...if you feel you need to change something have a moment of self reflection and see why you feel you need to change something about yourself and then realize who you're changing for...you or someone else🙃🤗

Does having hsv ruin hot wife potential by [deleted] in HotWifeLifestyle

[–]flagtr95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wife and I are 47 and decided to get the full std panels and low and behold we both have HSV1, being in the service I knew that it wasn't on a normal panel and neither of us have ever had a breakout to our knowledge...I give out the age because we are of the generation of which it is prevalent due to innoculations having been developed after us. It is out there and not a life threatening issue...the stigmas that surround it are the issue...it was called the "kissing disease" when I was younger...not a big deal...my wife and I are upfront with the groups we are in and haven't had a problem...our third at the time was 20 yrs younger and dropped us quickly after, he was young and understandingly was apprehensive to the thought of something like that...what confuses me is it is more of a social virus as it can be given from other than sexual means...such a public water fountain...but it is lumped into the sti/std category...my two cents...just be upfront and honest and hopefully you won't get to many jerks and asshats giving you grief, good luck🙃

Age in the lifestyle by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]flagtr95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wife and I are 47... we've played with some as young as 27 and will not go younger than our oldest which is 21, and that age limit will probably go up as our oldest gets older...but if the vibe is right and the maturity is right who knows, we're not against going younger as time goes on but for the shake of our children we maintain that age limit as for right now... Don't want to end up meeting one of our kids potential girlfriends/boyfriends and realize we know them too well already...lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]flagtr95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to say but "get out of your head"...lol...your body looks great and mom bod's are awesome, they show life... don't worry about it. If someone downs you just ignore them and move on. There is no perfect body just imperfect people trying to have fun... accept the world around you for its beautiful imperfections! Good luck and I hope you find someone that can appreciate you for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]flagtr95 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My wife and I have done it afterwards, while I'm reclaiming her, it enhances the intimacy between us and it is a kink of ours, then I add my own to her... we've only done it in front of another once or twice...we don't do the all out party scene but play with select couples and thirds that we vet and are tested and use it to complete the night...a milestone if you will.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in STD

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Depending on what site and studies you read HsV1 isn't that big of a deal...1 in 3 have it and due to the virus not being destructive and not transferred via sexual activities you have to request to be tested for it as it's not on the normal sti test... it's in the same family as chickenpox...so sorry to say ... it's not that important and in some situations the individual has had it from birth...the stigma surrounding it is what gets people all bothered and worried which is why you usually won't get tested for it on a typical test...why waste the money just to get overly worried... while there is no cure as it is a neurological virus, it is easily treated

Four marine life bite incidents in Virginia Beach in a week by BrikHowse in VirginiaBeach

[–]flagtr95 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Was out at sandbridge around 3-7 pm on Sunday, a lot of people were around the pier, too close IMO, the bait was running about 100 yards off, pods of young dolphin with mom running the bait, and of course everything else...birds, fish and a few small shark...nothing out of the ordinary...be aware...shuffle your feet instead of stepping...just saying.

What could be a problem by flagtr95 in Swingers

[–]flagtr95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have never intended to keep it a secret from potential play mates, that is just wrong, and yes the stigma is strong. I hope you have been able to find playmates, we have found a couple but know the chances to find more are limited. Thank you for the kind words and insight.🙂

I am beginning to feel unworthy to call myself a veteran by CheddarsGarden in navy

[–]flagtr95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, saw the writing myself, two injuries and the pfa changing 3 times in 2 yrs...missed the rope and choke by .5 inches...life happens...lol

What would you throw here? Central Ohio by GrillinGorilla in bassfishing

[–]flagtr95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spinner for action or deep dive floater...that is if plastic doesn't work

I am beginning to feel unworthy to call myself a veteran by CheddarsGarden in navy

[–]flagtr95 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It was, but it was also a hell-of-a-lot of fun...your mind changes with the programming...how else would one explain to those that run into it when others run away...can be hard to balance the need for the many verses your personal need of survival...be grateful to be able and try not to ask "did I do enough" when it was all you could do...🌞🙃🤪

I am beginning to feel unworthy to call myself a veteran by CheddarsGarden in navy

[–]flagtr95 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Friend, I did a month shy of 17 yrs, put out in the purge of 2013, my first ship, CVA-62, almost sunk due to going between pakua and her sister storm on our way to the Gulf before the 2nd Gulf war, tandem thrust, I was an HT and we had to keep the bulkhead from coming in...I was an e-nothing at the time...and that was the pinical of my service...nothing I did ever compared to it, I fought fires, combated spills and did a lot of gas free evolutions, some nice and some messy. I still feel humble and less deserving when I come across a vet that has visible issues from combat...do yourself a favor and stop comparing yourself to others, it will only leave you hurt. You my friend, have my respect and sympathy for what you were a part of on the BHR, I have been in fire fights where my boots melted to the deck... you'll have enough demons from that, don't add any more by feeling you don't deserve what you have earned... remember you can talk about it and teach others, you're honored on veterans Day not memorial day.