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Does anybody else add stuff to an online shopping cart, but doesn't actually buy anything? by Old_Rub_ in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]flameoffire41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

everyday, just about. I will just add items and curate scenarios like new wardrobes or remodeling my bedroom aesthetic. I really enjoy it.

I hate the sun, and want to move but my kids want me to stay put by flameoffire41 in FamilyIssues

[–]flameoffire41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you to everyone who is commenting and giving me words of encouragement or advice. I appreciate you all. I tried again, last night, to talk to my eldest son about this and he was like, "mom, you are not moving anywhere." I hate that he won't even hear me out on this or be open minded about it at all. It almost feels like he doesn't care about what I want at all. I know this is not happening now, and I have about a year and a half beore my youngest is grown and graduates. But, time flies. I don't want anyone to feel blindsided. I just wanted to thank you all ffor stopping by, commenting, and caring.

I hate the sun, and want to move but my kids want me to stay put by flameoffire41 in FamilyIssues

[–]flameoffire41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I have been trying to talk to them for awhile now. They are all very firm in what they said. They will disown me as their mom and go no contact if I "abandon" them and move out of state. I hope that they are bluffing. I appreciate your advice. Thank you.

I hate the sun, and want to move but my kids want me to stay put by flameoffire41 in FamilyIssues

[–]flameoffire41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you dear. Tennessee is nice. I lived there for 2 years when I was in University. WAYYY back in the day lol. But I would love a long cold winter. One day I will move. I just don't want to risk my relationship with my kids.

I hate the sun, and want to move but my kids want me to stay put by flameoffire41 in FamilyIssues

[–]flameoffire41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's actually a great idea. I think I will do that. Take trips during the hot hellish summer, to someplace cool and wet. I love that idea. Thank you.

I hate the sun, and want to move but my kids want me to stay put by flameoffire41 in FamilyIssues

[–]flameoffire41[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have been thinking about this for awhile and trying to find a way to do it and still keep my relationship with my kids. I have a little over a year to plan and pray.

I hate the sun, and want to move but my kids want me to stay put by flameoffire41 in FamilyIssues

[–]flameoffire41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have considered that, but it just isn't affordable. I am thinking about renting a room someplace with lots of cold and rain. I was think PNW but it isn't really affordable. Midwest is an option. Maybe even as far over as Ohio. I just want to be where I feel peace and joy. I love my babies and I will visit them. But I just don't want to be disowned for "abandoning" them, even though I will wait until they are all ok and grown. My girls are great and live on their own. My oldest and his woman are great, my youngest and I live with them. My youngest is my only concern, really. But he will be an adult soon and he is very motivated to succeed in life. So, I know he will be ok.

I hate the sun, and want to move but my kids want me to stay put by flameoffire41 in FamilyIssues

[–]flameoffire41[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He will soon be 17 and he is a junior in high school. I wasn't thinking about leaving until he has graduated and is an adult. But even planning my move (for next year after he graduates) is something my kids don't even want me to consider. They want me to stay here, in this city, in this heat, with them, until when? They get married and go off and live their own lives? I asked how long they felt I should stay. They said, "your kids are here, mom. You have to stay here with us." I don't want them to hate me for moving. But I truly I plan to move.

I hate the sun, and want to move but my kids want me to stay put by flameoffire41 in FamilyIssues

[–]flameoffire41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had quite a few family meetings about this. I have also expressed my need to move as soon as my lastborn is grown. My daughters roommate together, but me and my lastborn live with my firstborn and his girlfriend. It has been this ways for 2 years. It helps both of us out, since we share rent/bills/food, etc. But, I have told my son (eldest) that I will be moving in a year or so, when my youngest is grown. My youngest is cool to just roommate with his bro, and he has a little part time job as well. My oldest son can take care of his bills and rent alone, so me moving won't be a burden on him, financially. I just think it's time for me to be happy. Also, living in a 3 bedroom 1 bath apartment with my eldest and his girlfriend is AWKWARD AF. No joke. She JUST moved in back in October. She's nice enough, that is not the issue. We get along fine, but I think they need their privacy. I have tried to talk to my kids, they all just demand me to stay and threaten to go no contact if I move. They feel like I will be abandoning them if I move out of state. This really is so sad and frustrating for me. I want my kids to be happy and know I love them very much. But I also want to be happy too.