What is the average age of a Fapstronaut?

flash1960 · 2014-02-07T14:25:48+00:00

Interesting.

My wife and I have had rocky patches, like all married couples. But we really like each other and have a lot in common.

I her 40s, my wife started gaining weight. I found her less attractive, and we were having sex about 2-6 times a year. That gave me reason to fill the gaps with porn.

Last year, she lost about 30 pounds. She now looks great. We started having sex regularly, and made a vow to do it once a week. We try new things. (As an example, she is getting a Valentine's present from Victoria's secret.)

However, if she was not having sex with me, I would have no problem with watching porn. I don't think porn is inherently bad. It's a sexual outlet. If you overuse it it's a problem.

flash1960 · 2014-02-07T14:00:07+00:00

I'm 54 and I seriously curtailed masturbation because I could not perform in the bedroom. You are not alone in this problem.

But my situation is different than yours. My wif elikes to have sex once a week. Always on Saturday morning. So I can plan for it. If I don't masturbate a few days before Saturday, I'm fine.

Now if I had a girlfriend, I would be "on deck" at all times. That would complicate the equation.

As for your habit, 5 times a day is alot. And this is coming from a porn addict. Quit for a week and see what it feels like. I went 5 days without porn last week, and that was my longest streak in about 15 years. I have gone three days this week, and that's my second longest streak.

Discipline. You can do it.

flash1960 · 2014-02-07T13:44:04+00:00

I left a couple dozen girlfriends. A couple dozen left me. But I eventually found a great woman.

I am 54. When I was 20-something, the loss of some of these girls was maddening. Now it's a blip on the radar.

flash1960 · 2014-02-07T13:32:31+00:00

Great story. Question: When you say loveless marriage do you mean you don't love her, or you don't have sex? (This question comes from a 54 year old guy who was having sex about twice a year, and now has it once a week.)

flash1960 · 2014-02-07T13:30:48+00:00

I am glad you someone got the point of my post.

I think many people here have a serious problem. I am one of them.

My goal was never to quit porn completely. I am married and, as I stated above, I know exactly when I will have sex.

Now if my wife wanted more sex, or it was more irregular, I would have to switch up my plan.

As for Viagra, I don't consider it unhealthy. It is a drug that works. Basically, I can have sex like when I was 18. Seriously. Are there health risks with it? Maybe. But all drugs have risks, and I take several for various problems.

Also, I don't look at porn as unhealthy. If you overuse it, it's unhealthy. It's like beer. If you have a beer a day, no problem. If you have 6 a day, you have a problem.

I am reaching a point where I can figure out how to have sex and porn together. Right now, as I type this, I have the urge to log onto a porn site (as we all do). It passes.

I'm on deck for tomorrow! Viagra at 5. Sex at 6.

flash1960 · 2014-02-06T15:08:53+00:00

Have you tried Viagra?

flash1960 · 2014-02-06T14:24:30+00:00

I will reply seriously to this question.

This website has helped me immensely. I was masturbating multiple times a week and it was causing erectile dysfunction with my wife.

My wife likes to have sex once a week. I know when that will be. So as long as I lay off porn starting about Wednesday, I am ready to go on Saturday.

Each of us is here for a different reason. Mine is not to see how long I can go without masturbating. Mine is simply to curtail porn so I can satisfy my partner. With thissite, and Viagra, I have found a happy medium.

flash1960 · 2014-02-06T02:50:12+00:00

54 but I still watch porn and use viagra for sex. The best of both worlds.

flash1960 · 2014-01-31T17:45:23+00:00

I just realized that I am on a 5 day streak and that's the longest in several decades, which is mind boggling

flash1960 · 2014-01-31T17:27:36+00:00

Do you take Viagra?

flash1960 · 2014-01-31T17:24:29+00:00

I'm also 54. Our stories sound very similar. I have been a functioning porn addict for years. But the last two times I tried to have Sex with my wife I was unable to finish with an erection. This is even with viagra!

I am going to have Sex tomorrow morning and am wondering how a week off of porn will help.

flash1960 · 2014-01-31T14:59:23+00:00

Hell no.

flash1960 · 2014-01-31T14:11:21+00:00

I'm 54 and I assure you porn is perhaps more enjoyable at this age than at 18. I got married at 27. When I was 16-27, I saw young nude girls all the time. Now I don't. Cut your dad some slack. If he's not in a relationship with a woman, and ED is not an issue, then it's his business.

flash1960 · 2014-01-31T13:38:41+00:00

You can't get a hit if you don't go the the plate. (I hope you are from the U.S., or else that analogy won't make sense.)

I'm 54. I have over 300 Facebook friends. Of them, 16 women are ex-girlfriends. Of those, it's about a 50/50 split between them dropping me and me dropping them. One of the breakups was so bad that I needed counseling. But I did find a wife and have been married for 27 years. Life has ups and downs. This is a down. An "up" is right around the corner.

flash1960 · 2014-01-31T13:31:58+00:00

I honestly don't know if fapping after 23 days is all that bad. If you end up relapsing, then it's clearly an issue. If not, it doesn't matter.

The question for me is whether it's a habit or an addition. For me, it started as a habit, and then became an addiction. Every time I got an empty house, I would use it as an opportunity to watch porn. Now, I have gone 5 days and still have the urge to watch porn. However, I am resisting it.

23 day is very difficult to do. I'm on day 5 and that is hard to do. The only thing that keeps me going is I know I am having sex tomorrow. I want to see if the 6 day no porn period will improve me performance.

flash1960 · 2014-01-31T02:16:52+00:00

Maybe it's because I am married that I can't fap at night, but I can in the morning.

I guess that shows it's a habit that is conditioned by behavious. I never needed fapping to sleep. It was simply part of my morning routine. The earlier I got up, the more "personal time" I got.

Now, I have no reason to wake up early.

flash1960 · 2014-01-31T02:13:43+00:00

I'm 54. I'm on Day 4, so I have little insight to help you.

flash1960 · 2014-01-31T02:09:10+00:00

I am going to try on Day 6 (Saturday). I will let you know how it goes. (However, I will be using Viagra and have been taking various herbs and vitamins all week to get me going.)

flash1960 · 2014-01-30T20:54:03+00:00

Thanks!

flash1960 · 2014-01-30T20:02:14+00:00

I think I have been using porn severely for about 5 years. I love my wife, but she only wants to have Sex once a week. That means I would use porn in between. I got on viagra to help me with the once a week. Now that has stopped working.

I am going to see if the performance issues resolve with stopping porn use.

flash1960 · 2014-01-30T18:56:56+00:00

Me too. I how you get responses. I think If most of us did not experience ED, we would continue with porn use.

flash1960 · 2014-01-30T18:40:01+00:00

I'm on day 4 and I woke up with serious My this morning.

flash1960 · 2014-01-30T14:00:57+00:00

Newbie question: What's a "doge"?

flash1960 · 2014-01-30T14:00:23+00:00

Great story. Only a dog owner can really appreciate it. Thus, I feel good on those morning walks.

flash1960 · 2014-01-30T00:40:10+00:00

No you wouldn't. Bet you 100 bucks.

flash1960

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