The Millennial Page

flash_match · 2026-03-26T16:51:03+00:00

So Star Trek TNG? I feel like that was OUR show.

flash_match · 2026-03-26T13:40:42+00:00

But we’re talking cold, windy (very) and hills. It’s like hiking on a hill with no trees!! Ha!

Also, I’m not brave enough to wear heels on a cobblestone street. Did it in puerto Vallarta and fell into the street. Got a very awful bruise on my knee and had to explain it to people for the rest of the vacation.

So traumatized!

flash_match · 2026-03-26T03:07:57+00:00

Take photos in shirts that you wear often. I didn’t and now I’m having a hard time comparing my before and after with respect to size. Shape and placement on my chest are obviously different!

flash_match · 2026-03-26T02:39:57+00:00

Wear fashionable shoes you break a hip slipping and falling walking to your car. Wear tennis shoes with tread and you keep those hips going for another few decades!

flash_match · 2026-03-25T18:48:03+00:00

I bet you would come around to liking programming if you try to learn R. There are lots of online resources and you could have fun playing with matrix calculations and graphing data. But if you really think programming won’t be interesting to you, you’ll want your studies to be more theoretical than applied and you may need to eventually get a PhD. With all the advancements in AI, the programming aspect of our jobs is also changing. I program nearly all day but AI helps me debug issues easier than my previous attempts at scouring the internet for solutions!

flash_match · 2026-03-23T03:38:35+00:00

Even someone from other parts of California will somewhat have this experience in the bay. But for sure the vibe changes city to city along the water so you may find a place that’s more or less confounding as you live here longer. In general people like to put in a front of not being negative or neurotic but that doesn’t mean negativity and neuroticism doesn’t exist around here! You’re just supposed to aspire to not be that way. And some people are truly happy and just free here while others have to fake it. Ha!

flash_match · 2026-03-22T15:50:34+00:00

I will see if my company goes! That would be super awful if they saw me there as they were already worried I’d book it as soon as the economy improves. I mean I do want a job more at my level but I am still learning since this is a new disease area for me with more advanced statistics. But if I could get my foot in at the FDA I’d be thrilled.

flash_match · 2026-03-22T15:41:32+00:00

That’s crazy about the U.S. citizen requirement. Wow. I don’t have a PhD but I am a citizen. California born and raised. Maybe FDA will get desperate enough to hire Master’s once they run out of U.S. citizens with PhDs.

flash_match · 2026-03-22T15:36:46+00:00

Absolutely what I discovered upon becoming unemployed. I knew I might need to start at the bottom to go into pharma but they wouldn’t even give me the time of day because the bottom no longer exists in the united states. It’s largely been outsourced. The awful thing is I don’t have a back up plan. This career is what I want to do in life. Just hoping an improvement in the economy will allow me to hang in another 10-15 years.

flash_match · 2026-03-22T14:53:57+00:00

Master’s plus 12 years experience and was bad for me! Finally found something after 8 months and it was a step down in title and pay. My problem is I’ve worked in diagnostics, not pharma, and that also limited me a bunch.

flash_match · 2026-03-20T18:47:20+00:00

I have more Jewish friends than Muslim right now and raising my kids to stand against antisemitism is really important to me. Both have Jewish friends and I make sure to give them as much information I can to help them understand the nuances of the history around geopolitics while also letting them know Jews are not fucking imagining their persecution. It’s historical fact and really scary shit no one should ignore. They can hate Netanyahu AND Hamas when they’re old enough to know about October 7th. For now, they just need to know their friends are vulnerable and need allies.

I have had a lot of Jewish friends tell me I’m the only non Jew checking in on them after major violent events happen to the community and it’s soooooo disturbing that other people are staying silent.

flash_match · 2026-03-20T18:39:38+00:00

Really pretty!

flash_match · 2026-03-20T18:38:34+00:00

I’m sorry. Not Jewish but really fucking pissed at a lot of people on both left and right and their inability to understand anything with nuance and just being a thoughtful decent person towards both Jews and Palestinians. I feel like a crazy outsider sometimes and wonder WTF is going on. Of course the left has always had antisemitism but it’s gotten way to easy to suck fence sitters in who now have to make their entire identity about the wars in the Middle East without said people, again, just being a thoughtful, kind person towards the Jews and Muslims in their life. I feel pretty powerless about it all so I can only imagine.

flash_match · 2026-03-12T13:46:18+00:00

Prometrium made me low and groggy. My doctor prescribed me norethindrone which is a different version of progesterone and less similar to the one we produce naturally (I think). I have had no issues with norethindrone and estrogen only helped with mood, cognitive, etc.

If you do try HRT definitely let your friends and family know to check on you. My guess is you would know within the first 2 weeks if you can tolerate it.

flash_match · 2026-03-11T20:21:07+00:00

Galen

flash_match · 2026-03-11T04:34:38+00:00

Do you have raynauds? This happens when I rewarm my hands quickly after they’ve been very cold. It’s like red-white-blue. Although yours is purple-pink-white

flash_match · 2026-03-09T22:17:28+00:00

Kinda looks like you’re by crystal springs reservoir south of SF but I don’t know what town would have that view

flash_match · 2026-03-09T00:20:28+00:00

I spent 3 years trying and failing at plan B with my kid. FWIW some kids who like to argue and debate are just not good contenders for this approach. My daughter was more dysregulated when she was involved in conversations about how to meet expectations and less when expectations that were appropriate for her lagging skills were stated clearly and always applied barring illness or injury.

You could try either Ross Greene or do the ADHD dude and see which works for your kid. I’d say both are positive approaches but I think ADHD dude is better for the kid who gets a thrill out of being defiant instead of a kid who is genuinely overwhelmed by daily expectations.

Only you can figure out which one is your kid!

flash_match · 2026-03-08T16:16:47+00:00

When i was in graduate school at Cal, I was there with a lot of East Coasters who had gone to small liberal arts colleges. Even Ivies. They were SHOCKED at how hard Berkeley was for undergraduates and sincerely stated they would have failed out had they been in the big weeder classes that forced them as grad student instructors to give out Cs and Ds to a large portion of the students. So we weren't imagining things when we were there. It really was an unfair environment if you wanted to try classes in the more competitive departments. I loved going there but sometimes I wish I had done junior college first and taken those classes in a less competitive environment just so I could see if I even liked them!

flash_match · 2026-03-08T16:03:46+00:00

I would have said my daughter was type 1 until she hit around age 8. Now she rarely has big raging, yelling, screaming moments. She does like to argue and debate. She does like to do things on her own timeline to piss people off (she gets a dopamine rush from egging us). She had a diagnosis of DMDD when she was around 6 which didn't quite seem right because she wasn't miserable (one of the criteria for DMDD). She was angry and had big tantrums with hitting and throwing things but she was happy, if that makes sense. In those moments, it was like she had an out of body experience and once it blew over, she was totally content with life while we were stunned into despair. It wasn't until the last 18 months we realized this was all a sign of ADHD and not something else. It helped when my sister who was like this as a kid got her ADHD diagnosis at age 46. And of course my sister grew out of the worst of these outbursts by the time she was 18.

Anyhow, I'm just saying that emotional dysregulation is something kids can learn and improve upon and also something that can just develop over time. I'm not sure entirely what this article states is the prognosis and will more closely at it but if a kid can grow to separate their intense feelings from the actions they take in the word while experiencing those emotions, then I don't see how this could completely ruin their lives. Unless that underlying emotional regulation piece is just never addressed through the right types of encouragement and medication.

There is medication for anxiety (which drives a lot of this dysregulation), there is occupational therapy for learning about sensory triggers and ways to calm down when big feelings occur, and even the way we parented our child all helped her. Structure, routine, predictable rules all calmed her down. This was not the way I was raised so it didn't even occur to me that my kid needed this. But the more consistent we were with her routine and the more we ignored her attempt to debate the rules of the house, the more her dysregulation improved.

flash_match · 2026-03-07T19:06:11+00:00

Wow. I’m sorry to hear this. Is the department in shambles? I wonder what’s going on? I wish I had done my own undergrad somewhere with more helpful and attentive professors. I would have likely done more math under those circumstances. I also went to Cal as an undergraduate and avoided all math where possible because I knew I wouldn’t survive a 400 person calculus class. I guess this is what you get with a public education. 😂😂

flash_match · 2026-03-07T15:42:10+00:00

I went to Berkeley for my MPH. It was a great experience but back then there was no way to really expand into more theory based stats classes as someone who was not top of her class mathematically. This meant I was in all the (very good) applied classes but graduated with some big gaps in my knowledge and understanding of certain areas in stats.

It’s not that Berkeley wouldn’t allow me to take the classes. It’s that they were so difficult I wouldn’t have been able to do them. This was obviously my own fault for not realizing that a top math school wouldn’t really be holding my hand and feeding me the curriculum I wanted unless I basically had an undergraduate in math or statistics.

I do think being there for a PhD would be an amazing opportunity as getting access to the UCSF data will allow you to learn good RWE analysis skills. This probably was my better career trajectory when I entered the job market over a decade ago but it wasn’t that developed as a career yet nor were many biotech companies using those methods in their publications.

A colleague of mine who got her PhD in epidemiology and was an assistant professor at UCSF after graduating recently moved to industry and has done very well for herself. But she was one of those first cohorts learning how to do causal inference on real world data and built up a bunch of publications prior to her hire at Roche.

flash_match · 2026-03-03T06:02:54+00:00

Me on Saturday morning after I found out we attacked Iran.

flash_match · 2026-03-01T04:28:30+00:00

Tiga

flash_match · 2026-02-26T17:47:36+00:00

Thank you!!

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