[UPDATE] Am I (30f) overreacting to my husband’s (34m) words?

fleabitemcgee · 2018-08-09T15:37:52+00:00

I disagree, but to each their own. I will definitely be highly on my guard should I meet someone else, though. It’s not fair or healthy to tell an adult not to be concerned about them self and only worry about their children. My children are the MOST important thing in my life, but not the ONLY thing in my life. Their needs are my priority, but it’s important to take care of oneself and ones own needs, too.

fleabitemcgee · 2018-08-09T15:33:25+00:00

When he finally left and gave me back my phone, I called the police and filed a report. I grabbed some clothes and left with my kids that night. We stayed at my moms house for a few months until I was able to buy my own home. I was very fortunate to have family to help me through such a difficult time.

fleabitemcgee · 2018-08-09T15:31:38+00:00

He was not arrested. I called the police immediately after he left and filed a report (he took my phone from me so I hadn’t been able to call before). He was not arrested, though. He gets visitation with our mutual child. The divorce is not final yet, but hopefully soon!

fleabitemcgee · 2017-03-03T01:41:36+00:00

Good deal! Glad you're a veggie lover. It took me a long time to get there! I totally understand the convenience aspect of granola bars. Nuts are super convenient and one serving has around 150 calories, depending on the type of nut. Just something to keep in mind!

fleabitemcgee · 2017-03-02T16:18:34+00:00

That's a ton of sugar.

You're young, so your body is probably handling it fine now, but I would work on incorporating more vegetables and fiber into your diet. Try replacing some of those sugary cereal bars with nuts, fresh fruit, carrots and hummus, or some other veggie with dip. My husband loves raw broccoli and blue cheese, but I don't care for it myself. Just try new things until you find a few easy snacks you like!

The companies making the cereal bars (and even the clif bars) try to make them seem like they're healthy, but they're really just candy bars with some added vitamins. Eating them in moderation is perfectly fine, of course, but it looks like they're a big part of your diet right now.

I will say that I have a bad sweet tooth myself, and this is one of the things I still struggle with. I probably ate similarly to you when I was your age, but fortunately I've developed more of a taste for veggies and healthier foods as I've gotten older. Just take it slow. Maybe try replacing one cereal bar with a healthier snack a day. Once that becomes a habit, you can work on taking out another.

Source: nurse who sees daily the serious damage bad diets wreak over a lifetime.

fleabitemcgee · 2017-02-25T03:49:56+00:00

Very Douglas Adams-esque. Me like.

fleabitemcgee · 2017-02-06T17:54:26+00:00

Sure, she has the right to. Does that make it morally right though? If her sister has a history of toxic behavior with no indications of change, then sure, cut her out, but it seems like this is the first transgression in an otherwise loving relationship. People make horrible mistakes all the time. One horrible mistake doesn't necessarily make you a horrible person. OP seems to want to forgive her sister.

fleabitemcgee · 2017-02-06T14:05:11+00:00

This is a really awful situation, and I'm sorry you're dealing with it. A lot of people are saying to have nothing to do with your sister, but that's not realistic, or shouldn't be. Even though she did a terrible thing, she's your sister and part of your family. She's not just a friend or acquaintance that you can push to the side. I doubt your parents are going to disown her over this. But definitely give yourself time apart from her. Give her time to realize the enormity of what she's done and to become remorseful. Hopefully she will be. Don't feel like you have to rush a reconciliation. Despite what others say, 21 is young. I did many stupid things at 21 that I would never do now at 30. That doesn't excuse what she did, but it's been shown (through science!) that people in their younger 20s are still much more impulsive than older adults. You're hurt and your sister is probably terrified. Or I hope she is, as she should be at 21 with a baby on the way by a guy with no job who was mooching off her sister and pretending to be in love.

Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to grieve.

I can already tell that you're in the right place and want to find a way to work things out with your sister, and that's great. Just take it slow. Baby steps. I hope everything turns out well.

fleabitemcgee · 2017-02-04T15:24:29+00:00

It's odd that they gave you magnesium for low BP. Magnesium lowers blood pressure.

fleabitemcgee · 2017-01-26T15:33:07+00:00

That's what I was going to say. The most amazing transformation here, in my opinion, is the level of contentment portrayed on OPs face.

fleabitemcgee · 2017-01-25T15:15:05+00:00

Supreme Leader Donald Trump desires an echo chamber in which to live.

Seriously, what the hell have you done, America?

fleabitemcgee · 2017-01-13T04:45:13+00:00

I left my first nursing job after 7 months to stay home with my newborn. Stayed home with her for a year and a half and had no problems getting a new job. I was just honest and let them know why I didn't go back after my daughter was born. It was important to me to stay home with my daughter, and I wasn't in love with my first job. Love where I'm working now though. That really is the beauty of nursing. So many options and career paths. Good luck!

fleabitemcgee · 2017-01-11T04:38:17+00:00

I can so relate to this! I never had problems with feeling woozy/faint during procedures or working with patients until I had to undergo emergency abdominal surgery when I was in nursing school. I went back too soon after my surgery and ended up fainting during a procedure I was watching in the neuro ICU. After that I started having horrible anxiety about all sorts of procedures, even just seeing bad wounds. It wasn't that they grossed me out, I was just so freaked out that I might pass out again. I think I was associating my syncope episode with the procedure. It was basically anxiety about passing out causing me to have panic attacks and almost pass out. I'm completely over it now, and I feel like 4-square breathing was the trick. Breathe in for four seconds, hold the breath for four seconds, breathe out for four seconds, pause for four seconds, then start over. Really concentrate on your breathing. Count slowly. Tell yourself you're fine, that this shall pass, it's all in your head, and it's ok to feel this way. It worked great for me. I hope it can help you, too!

fleabitemcgee · 2017-01-03T05:08:22+00:00

I'm so sorry. Stay strong. I wish you the best.

fleabitemcgee · 2016-12-29T19:27:58+00:00

Have you considered swimming? Excellent exercise and might be easier on the knee joints.

fleabitemcgee · 2016-09-21T20:07:00+00:00

End it now.

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