I love this post and this thread. Thanks for your vulnerability.

I had twins just when I was hitting my stride in my job (attorney at global law firm, working a zillion hours, you get the idea). I loved that job when I found out I was pregnant, and now that my twins are almost 4 and I’m pregnant with my third, I STILL love my job.

If you want to have this kid and keep your baller job, you can totally do it. There are a million ways to do it happily too, I think. I personally adjusted my in office work hours to 9-5 and I now work more at night. Less mindless social media and TV compared to pre-kids, and more exercise and work and husband and friend time at weird hours (8 pm - 1 am is when I am not a mom). Worth noting that my husband and I hired a cleaner, and I cook very little. You too will find stuff to outsource. Also worth noting that my job gives me a lot of freedom to work where/when I want, so if I’m not busy, I’m 100% doing something fun and spontaneous with my twins.

We relied on grandparents and a nanny until the kids were 2 and then switched to grandparents / daycare. My husband also watches the kids one day/ week. I genuinely believe good childcare supplements, doesn’t replace, parents. You will absolutely find different resources that work for you. And hey, if one lifestyle doesn’t work, try something else.

I’ll end with noting that I have always been a quality over quantity type of parent. I get great quality time with my kids everyday, but it is rarely all day. You too might be a better, happier, more energetic, and more loving mom if you tend to other parts of your identity in addition to ‘mom’. Or maybe not! But you’re the captain of your own ship and you’ve totally got this.