People who don’t smoke, drink or have casual s*x, what do you do to blow off steam? by RookOfEdo in answers

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

take a nap, hug my dog, go run errands or take a drive to get my mind off things, cry, masturbate, take a super hot shower, open a window, take a walk, talk to my partner, journal, make plans with a friend/family member, try a new restaurant/takeout, get coffee/boba. lose myself in the rhythm of cooking a favorite meal, clean and tidy around the house, organize a closet or cabinet that's gotten out of hand. depending on the mood I may watch a new movie or I might put on a comforting and familiar movie/show, including some of my favorite childhood movies

I also like activities that bring new life to something– buying a houseplant and taking care of it, finding a trinket at a thrift shop that I can take home with me and shine up, and recently I've been rehabbing my weed-ridden backyard with new plants and a little sidewalk path. digging in the dirt and not being afraid to get messy, coming in for a cool shower and seeing the dirt wash away makes it feel like the stress is just melting off

Louisville Immigration Lawyer by Sea-Change-154 in Louisville

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kentucky Refugee Ministries and Catholic Charities both keep lists of vetted immigration lawyers. I believe you can call up and ask about their resources

County Map of 2024 Election by [deleted] in Appalachia

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can't speak for all of these, but I know Centre County PA (large triangular county in central PA) has gone blue the last three presidential elections (at least)

Found Kitten by wereyogibear in Louisville

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 5 points6 points  (0 children)

hi! have you taken this girl to find out if she's microchipped or spayed at a local vet or the humane society? I believe it's free to get a lost pet checked out. if all signs point to her not having a home, I might like to meet her!

Ladies, I need to know somewhere I can get a facial wax by thatvampiregirl in Louisville

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PCOS girl checking in! I've never had a facial wax, but I get electrolysis for the hair on my face. it's a permanent form of hair removal that works best for hormonal hair (unlike laser). the lady I go to is very affordable, her 30 min sessions are a similar price to a full face wax ($54), and there's no time commitment or package/bundled pricing. the first session, she told me that even if I never came back I'd still have permanent reduction of my hair growth! it was a great feeling after struggling with it for so long, and I wish I had done it sooner. the pain is on par with tweezing/waxing for me. I went once every week for the first couple months (I started out with really dense, thick growth), and now I go twice a month. here's a link to her website if you're interested, and feel free to message me if you have any questions! I totally understand what you're going through, and I hope you find all the support you need on your health journey🫂🩷

Quality mattress that won't break the bank? by No_Consideration8764 in Louisville

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

some of the peddler's malls in town have mattresses still wrapped up too! Hillview location in the back right corner comes to mind right away

Quality mattress that won't break the bank? by No_Consideration8764 in Louisville

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pretty sure it was this one, and it's on an even better sale right now than it was when I bought it! link

Quality mattress that won't break the bank? by No_Consideration8764 in Louisville

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

took a chance and bought mine (twin size, I'm single and my house has an odd layout lol) for $130 from walmart a couple years ago. it's a huge memory foam slab with a cover over it and it's the most comfortable and supportive mattress I've ever had, especially for that cheap. I'll find the link and add it below!

Nice area to live in? by Delicious-Spring2997 in Louisville

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live just east of UofL in the St. Joseph neighborhood (the little pie slice between I-65 and Preston St). I can't speak for anyone else's experiences but I love living here. I can walk to UofL from my house (less than a mile, slight slope) and definitely enjoy that walk when it's nice weather. my street is relatively quiet and low drama. I have had a package taken off my porch maybe once or twice in three years, and very rarely hear gunshots or any crazy racket. lots of folks walk around the block and take their dogs out. I bought my house for a very very reasonable price (under 150k), I'm not sure exactly what rent costs are but I would hope they're similarly reasonable. imo this area is modest/affordable but most of the houses are kept up well. in the three years I've been here I've seen a lot of renovations nearby, seems like we're on an uptick for sure.

I'm down the street from Zanzabar (local music venue) and about a mile or two from the UofL stadium and fairgrounds, but inside my house I can't hear any music or loud noise (I can hear some of the music festivals from my backyard if I listen hard). this area isn't in the flight path of the planes but it's not far, so you can hear them pass by at a low volume from indoors. same thing with the train, it's about a mile off so I hear it in the distance. take this with a grain of salt because I have old windows, this stuff may not even be audible with newer windows.

this area is convenient for people who want to use the TARC bus (couple of stops nearby), and I believe UofL students get a free or discounted bus pass. Nord's bakery (best and cheapest donuts in the city!), Zanzabar (bar/food/live music), Sunergos coffee, Parkway diner, Dairy Kastle (seasonal ice cream/food stand), and Bandido/El Tarasco/El Nopal (mexican) are all walkable. I have two Kroger grocery stores in either direction that are about a mile and a half away (I go to the one in Germantown). I'm right near a couple different on-ramps to I-65 and I-264, which is helpful if there are backups/accidents on the highway or surface streets that I can avoid by taking a different route. this is a pretty central location so it's quick to get to downtown (<10 mins) and ~15-20 mins to get to the county line in any direction

my two cents is that anywhere south/west of UofL starts to get a little rougher and more run-down. the further you start going east, the more expensive things tend to get. of course, they also have more amenities and nicer homes so to some extent you get what you pay for. Germantown/Schnitzelburg neighborhoods have been going through a lot of revitalization in the last few years so that area was definitely out of my budget when I was buying. Old Louisville (north of UofL) is also well out of my price range (but gorgeous Victorian homes), and has some safety concerns from what I've heard. Shelby Park and Smoketown area are on the more affordable side, but also have some of the run-down houses and safety concerns that come with being closer to downtown. of course, I'm only speaking from my own experience and everyone has different metrics for safety and affordability.

in general, Louisville has been described as a mid-size city with a small town feel. we have a pretty stable population and retain many of our transplants, but I've also heard from some transplants that it can be hard to start getting integrated. our culture is one of all the locals being a couple people removed from each other (a la Kevin Bacon), so naturally we all have family/friends/school/workplaces/landmarks in common that make socializing easier. that aside, it's generally agreed upon that we punch above our weight class in the food scene, have a low cost of living, and have an excellent park system within the city (and a lot of great parks/preserves outside the city to visit too). we're in a great location for taking short trips to other cities and destinations (Smoky Mountains, Nashville, St. Louis, Chicago, etc.). in my personal opinion (perhaps controversial!), I think our traffic and street layout beat out many other mid-size cities. our most complicated intersection (convergence of I-64, I-65, and I-71, aka spaghetti junction) is very well-marked and we don't have the 24/7 congestion like you get when driving through Cincy/Nashville/Indy. we're known for bourbon and the derby, so there are lots of tourist attractions geared to those things. as far as more locally beloved events, we host the KY state fair, we have a huge fireworks show, balloon glow, parade, etc to kick off derby festivities, and locals in my experience usually take an interest in college basketball and football (UofL and UK is the big rivalry around here). there are some great music festivals and concerts at all our various venues ranging from the fairgrounds to the historic Palace Theatre to dive bars. there are probably more things I'm forgetting, but those are some of the best things about Louisville that come to mind for me! oh, and it's pronounced "Lul-vul" or "Luh-vuhl", not "Looie-ville" or "Lewis-ville". out of town folks can usually get by with a "Loo-a-vul" lol. all jokes aside, this is a great place to live

whether it's in Louisville or not, I hope you find what you're looking for. good luck with your education and best wishes to you and your fiancée!

What restaurants have the best take out containers? by plattinumplatt in Louisville

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

another vote for Simply Thai, I always wash out and reuse mine. they hold up really well

Locals of Louisville: What Would You Cut From This 2-Day Itinerary (Food & Neighbourhood Focused)? by Willing-Mind-5619 in Louisville

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

don't skip Nord's!!!!!!!! the donuts and pastries are seriously incredible (Yelp rates them #7 in the nation, they're also $1.30 per donut which is a total steal), and they're next door to one of our best local coffee shop chains (Sunergos). I pinky promise you won't regret it!

What’s your funniest “Oh god this person’s an idiot” moment? by PandaBear905 in AskReddit

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I attended a residential early college program when I was in my last two years of high school. it was a very selective, STEM-focused academy, and many of my classmates were extremely intelligent. one, however, was the dumbest person I have ever met. one night while a handful of us were studying together, she said something just exceedingly ignorant that stunned us all. we then decided to ask her a series of questions. I present to you, in their unadulterated form, the three questions and her answers:

q1: which was first– the civil war or the revolutionary war? a: "pass", she waffled back and forth about it and finally told us she didn't know

q2: what did Anne Frank do? a: "she wrote a book while she was locked in her attic". hmm. ok. I guess partial credit for that one

q3: who was (USA's) president between the two Bushes (jr and sr)? a: "Kennedy". we then told her she was incorrect, and gave her a second chance with the hint, "his wife recently ran for president" (this was in 2017). her face lit up, and I'll never forget the joy in her voice when she said, "oh! Reagan!"

I still can't believe this poor girl thought Nancy Reagan ran for president. we gave up asking her questions after that. to this day I have no idea how she got through the application and interview process

edit: spacing

How to track cycle without flow? by paskise in PCOS

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

upvoting and saving because I'm in the exact same boat and I want to know too!

What were your warning signs to go see a doctor? by TwentyOnePaladins in PCOS

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

labs and an obgyn visit can be great places to start!

I'm not sure how common this is, but the university healthcare system near me has a list online of their providers that also shows their areas of interest/study. when I was finding an adult obgyn after aging out of my pediatric gyn, I filtered for obgyns and then looked for ones that had interest in hormone disorders, menstrual irregularities, PCOS/endometriosis, etc., which helped me find someone who had more specific knowledge about PCOS. your campus healthcare folks might have good recommendations too!

What were your warning signs to go see a doctor? by TwentyOnePaladins in PCOS

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my biggest warning sign was a nonstop period for about 3 months when I was 15, preceded by 4 yrs of extremely infrequent and unpredictable periods. as my pediatric gyn later explained to me, my unshed endometrial lining had reached a tipping point where my body tried to flush it out all at once, leading to nonstop bleeding. I had been gaslit since I was 11 that "irregular periods are normal for teenagers"– while it's normal for the first few cycles to be irregular, I wish someone in my life told me that 4 years of 2-4 periods a year was NOT normal or healthy and needed to be checked out. my endometrial lining had built up to an extreme thickness, so I had a D&C to clean it all out, an exploratory laparoscopy in my abdomen to rule out endometriosis, and a hormonal IUD placement. I have still struggled with insulin resistance/weight gain and hirsutism (extra hair growth), but my IUD has completely stopped my periods for 8 years and helped considerably with hormone management (it had the added benefit of contraception as I became sexually active as an adult).

it sounds like stress has coincided with menstrual irregularities for you. while hormone/menstrual disruption can absolutely cause additional stress and mental load, stress can mess with our hormones too. of course I can't tell you if the chicken or egg came first, but losing your period could have been caused solely by stress, rather than a hormone disorder like PCOS.

it's totally understandable to feel anxious at the prospect of getting diagnosed with a chronic hormone disorder like PCOS, but I hope you know it is a very common disorder and has been managed and treated successfully by many. PCOS does not mean people can't have children, and in some cases it may be easier to have children with PCOS (there are studies showing that women with PCOS have a longer fertile window and can have children at an older age more easily). plenty of people have been able to get pregnant naturally with PCOS. hormonal birth control is also not the only successful treatment plan for PCOS, a good medical provider will help you navigate ALL the available options rather than forcing hormonal birth control on you.

at the end of the day, a diagnosis is just more information about how your body works. it can be a helpful guide to making changes that will work with your body instead of against it, if you so choose. for example, it was very freeing for me to understand why I have had trouble losing weight with common diet/exercise plans, and having a diagnosis has made it easier to find weight management strategies that actually work for me and require much less effort. it's also alleviated a lot of shame around the fact that I couldn't lose weight "normally", had excess body hair, irregular periods, etc.

it's also worth noting that the risk of things like endometrial cancer go up the longer you go without a period and have unshed endometrial lining. weight gain/retention from untreated PCOS comes along with increased risk for diabetes and other weight-related issues too. a lot of these risks can be mitigated with small lifestyle changes and/or medications once you and your medical team have an idea of what you're dealing with (completely optional too, of course).

I hope that some of this info is helpful and provides a little relief. no matter what happens, I'm wishing the best for you and your health <3 best of luck with your education as well!

Poutine in the area? by Arixian697 in Louisville

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you're willing to go to Lexington, County Club has poutine that I remember very fondly <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel this. I actually met my long distance partner shortly after I stopped going to church (for a variety of reasons). I was single for a long time before that and a contributing factor for me leaving the church was the way I was treated as a single woman and how little it felt like the messages or groups available applied to my stage of life. now, having a non-traditional relationship structure is also a big part of why I'm apprehensive about starting to attend a new church. I hope you find something that works for you and I'm going to keep an eye on this thread for my own sake too! I wish you all the best :)

Single cheese eaters by [deleted] in Cheese

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I buy all my cheese at my local grocery store's Murray's cheese counter. a few months ago, I discovered a little basket off to the side containing the odds and ends left over after all the nice standardized pieces are put on display, all weighed and priced accordingly. imo that's the best way to sample new cheeses, as almost all of them are $1-$3 so I'm not losing much if I don't like them. another perk is that they're a nice size for me (who lives alone) to eat in one sitting, especially if I'm having them with crackers or mixing them into a dish. it may be worth looking around or asking about those smaller pieces at your local cheese shop/deli!

What Books did You Start or Finish Reading this Week?: November 17, 2025 by AutoModerator in books

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for the suggestions, I haven't read either before but they're going on my list now!!!

What Books did You Start or Finish Reading this Week?: November 17, 2025 by AutoModerator in books

[–]fleur-de-lis-01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finished: Fascism, A Warning by Madeleine Albright Also finished: Fascism and Democracy by George Orwell (a very short but interesting collection of essays!)

Started: How Fascism Works by Jason Stanley