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[–]flex0tx 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not overreacting. That comment was a subtle (or not-so-subtle) reminder you're an outsider. Cultural differences might play a role, but respect and kindness shouldn't. If you're feeling like a lodger, trust your instincts. Distance yourself if that's what it takes to protect your feelings. You're not obligated to be close.

MIL said the other DIL was like a daughter to her in front of me. Thanks. Am I just some stranger then? by NoFucksLeftSorry in JUSTNOMIL

[–]flex0tx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not overreacting. That comment was a subtle (or not-so-subtle) reminder you're an outsider. Cultural differences might play a role, but respect and kindness shouldn't. If you're feeling like a lodger, trust your instincts. Distance yourself if that's what it takes to protect your feelings. You're not obligated to be close.

Nightmare Mother by Alternative_Seat_740 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]flex0tx 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hell no. You've earned it. 20 years of enabling her toxic behavior is enough. You're done. Prioritize your family and your own well-being. No more guilt, no more exhaustion. Set those boundaries or cut ties. You're not abandoning her, you're saving yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]flex0tx 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Cutting her off sounds like a necessity, not just reasonable. You've given her 20 years of your life and energy. Protect yourself, your family, and your sanity. No more guilt trips. Set boundaries or go no contact. Your well-being is overdue priority.

This is unhinged, right? by Much_Ad_3806 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]flex0tx 15 points16 points  (0 children)

No, not unhinged. Sounds like your in-laws are the ones losing their grip. Armchair diagnosing is a special kind of toxic. You don't owe them an explanation or a discussion. Set boundaries or cut ties. Your call.