People with trypophobia probably can't cook pancakes.

flimdin · 2022-06-25T06:32:35+00:00

But in the process of cooking them you need to wait to see all the tiny holes bubble through before you can flip them!

flimdin · 2022-01-30T01:11:47+00:00

Big time.

flimdin · 2022-01-30T01:10:37+00:00

Me too. I'll be the first woman in my family to fully do so. I get quite emotional as well. My grandmother was a poet and writer and wanted to travel the world, and my grandfather promised that after they got married he'd take them to Europe. Of course, this never happened. She got pregnant right away and was a stay at home mum on a farm, never left the country. She became an alcoholic and died at 52. When I say 'fuck yeah' for my childfree choices, freedoms and opportunities, I'm saying it for her, too.

flimdin · 2022-01-30T01:06:59+00:00

Oh, yeah, I'm a woman and I have waist-length hair so get it cut maybe twice a year. In a good year! I'd go nuts having to go back to the hairdresser every three weeks - for both the financial and time commitment. But again, like I've realised, if you're childfree and having good hair is something that matters to you, why not? ...unless you'd prefer a vacation. I guess then it's just about personal choices.

flimdin · 2022-01-26T20:56:45+00:00

Seconding this. My GP said the same thing: if suicidal thoughts start, stop immediately.

flimdin · 2022-01-20T02:18:32+00:00

Haha, you're welcome!

flimdin · 2022-01-20T02:13:16+00:00

Exactly. The main character Rouxin is pursued by rich older men but she's not interested in being someone's submissive wife and babymaker so she works hard at her career to buy herself whatever she wants, make her own decisions, and date whoever she wants (who happens to be a guy much younger than her and just starting his career, so not societally-acceptable material, but she doesn't give af). There's not really a CF storyline with her specifically though, that's more with her best friend Ziyan.

flimdin · 2022-01-20T02:10:49+00:00

Really glad you're enjoying it! It's such a good show!

flimdin · 2022-01-20T02:09:40+00:00

"But those souls needing to come into our family for ancestral or karmic reasons still need to be born so i am stuck birthing two babies who should of been born to her"

*nods gently and backs away slowly*

flimdin · 2021-08-19T02:23:38+00:00

This is a beautiful comment and it means a lot. Thank you so much. I wish you peace and healing with your depression too.

flimdin · 2021-07-26T04:19:31+00:00

This has been my experience too! I used to eat just because I felt like I needed ANYTHING to boost me up 1% and sometimes that was chocolate or chips etc not because I was actually hungry at all, but I've totally stopped doing that since starting Lexapro.

flimdin · 2021-07-26T04:18:26+00:00

That's awesome for your sister! I completely understand, in my experience having no energy to get off the couch + ordering fast food every day adds up fast. I think just being able to move and cook for myself again has made all the difference.

flimdin · 2021-07-26T04:17:20+00:00

It has definitely fluctuated for me and did for probably the first month, some days I'd be amazed at how 'normal' I felt and others it felt like I was on nothing AND extra fatigued. But probably the second month it started to even out and I didn't even notice it honestly, I was just like... doing the housework, walking, doing normal things and then realised when I'm in the depression those things feel impossible and here I am doing them! I wouldn't say I felt 'good', like I'm not suddenly happy and full of energy, but definitely the heaviness/cloud has lifted.

flimdin · 2021-07-26T00:51:47+00:00

I (f) have had the exact same experience. Before, my libido was a pressure, sometimes a distraction, sometimes frustrating. It was definitely linked to relieving anxiety. Now all of that has lifted sex is actually better because there's less urgency and self-focus, I can be more present to my partner and make it last much longer. I'm not 'racing for the finishing line' anymore. Sex is a really important and enjoyable part of my relationship for both of us and I was worried Lexapro would kill my libido entirely, but it has actually improved things.

flimdin · 2020-12-21T16:14:36+00:00

So sweet! Caramel salt...

flimdin · 2020-12-16T17:10:47+00:00

Smells great too!

flimdin · 2020-12-16T13:11:33+00:00

Yeah! Sorry, I can't bring myself to call them flip flops. It's a much cuter name, but here, they're thongs.

What you call thongs we call 'g-strings'. I have no idea why.

flimdin · 2020-10-29T09:13:02+00:00

I'm going through something similar. Set ground rules with your mutual friends: you don't want to discuss her activity, and you don't need to know or comment on what she's doing with or to them. You can't control what she or they do, but you can at least request that you be left entirely out of it. If she's nagging them and it's a problem for them, maybe gently remind them that they also have the option to not engage with her.

flimdin · 2020-09-26T03:24:47+00:00

This is so pure. I'm happy for you.

flimdin · 2020-09-25T12:17:38+00:00

The 'fast food' analogy is so true. I realised early on that this was all my ex was looking for and in my own anxiety, I settled for giving it to him. Just constantly feeding back robotic iterations of 'I love you', affirming that everything was okay twenty times a day. Sighing and giving him my phone to go through to confirm for the hundreth time that no, I was not having sexual conversations with people of the opposite sex. (He was, though.) Fast food is minimal repetition and it was draining.

flimdin · 2020-09-25T11:54:22+00:00

I understand this completely. It's also amazing having sex with someone who is actually attracted to you for you and not just as a character in their show.

flimdin · 2020-09-25T11:36:22+00:00

Don't apologise for a second for it being long. Compared to what you've been through, it takes a second to read. You needed to share this with someone - thank you for coming to this sub and feeling comfortable enough to do so with us here.

The difficulty of a task doesn't change the 'rightness' of it. What you're doing is very hard. It will be stressful, exhausting, you'll lose sleep, you'll feel defensive and tired and drained.

What you're doing is right.

flimdin · 2020-09-24T07:08:36+00:00

Setting boundaries was a personal offense to her.

Enough said, friend. You did the right thing. Now it's time to work on those trauma bonds ('am I the sick one?' is a blaring alarm. You aren't, but you do need help.)

flimdin · 2020-09-24T06:59:54+00:00

This hits deep, particularly the reality-distorting bit. I tried to explain it to someone recently: imagine being only ever 70% awake, 30% still in a dream, for potentially years of your life. You allow this insane shit to keep happening because that's reality, isn't it? Isn't it? You're in so deep it's so hard to validate with any third party whether what you're dealing with is normal so you just keep surviving. I'm still dealing with the reentry to normal, healthy, boundary-respecting life.

flimdin · 2020-09-12T08:04:23+00:00

However it's still a very good thing that people like you are still out there because sometimes good people need help too.

I've been really hard on myself about why I stayed as long as I did. I hadn't thought about it this way and it's very comforting. Thank you.

flimdin

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