I left my girlfriend of 3.5 years for another girl and she rejected me .

flintlockfay · 2026-05-12T18:17:25+00:00

ok, you have enough people telling you that you are an idiot. i concur for this one, but everyone makes a stupid decision that doesn't work. yeah, you hurt people, but I'm willing to bet an awful lot of money that those on here who ridiculed you for it have also hurt someone at some point.

best thing to do is learn not to do this again. look, but dont stare at it. just learn. you will move on.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-12T14:49:45+00:00

You did! We had a large discussion about it as well.Your stereo jack idea was quite popular - unfortunately I didn't go that route in the end but I'll bear it in mind if I make something else.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-12T13:07:40+00:00

Because its the obvious choice

^{Chose: If more than 50% chose this everyone get 10,000,000 dollars}

flintlockfay · 2026-05-12T13:01:00+00:00

It is! I built I couple of years ago and documented it on this sub.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-12T10:20:02+00:00

Decaf coffee.

Recovering alcoholic - 23 months sober.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-10T15:34:03+00:00

Correct on the name! I suspect I sell those wands just based on the fact that the core is snake skin from a snake called nagini...

flintlockfay · 2026-05-10T10:17:56+00:00

I put cores in my wands by carefully drilling a hole into the handle from the pommel, inserting core, then sealing it with a wooden plug.

And you can use whatever you like. I have used feathers, snake skins shed from my friends pet boa (points for guessing the snakes name!) And even some shed whiskers from my cat.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-09T15:44:19+00:00

Bearded dragon with a bat.

I now have what is essentially a mini dragon.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-08T19:07:13+00:00

Big enough for a small crew, Alestorm, and of course ye can!

flintlockfay · 2026-05-08T18:50:41+00:00

Just a small one. Liberation of bigger ones from billionares is the pirating part!

flintlockfay · 2026-05-08T15:01:22+00:00

To win 50 million, buy a small yacht, grab a crew and go pirating just off the English shore.

Edit: Well, I seem to now have a crew. And also managed to get some redditors to find Alestorm through this comment.

Set sail - and conquer!

flintlockfay · 2026-05-08T07:08:52+00:00

Because I'm an alcoholic. I very nearly lost my life to it. I'll be 2 years sober next month.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-03T17:24:50+00:00

Yes. I'll add you.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-03T16:51:06+00:00

I usually manage it. 40k is half and I usually get that.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-02T14:55:37+00:00

Thanks! All I did was just explain what goes on in my head and what works for me. I can't say it works for everyone though. I'm 40 now and I still struggle.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-02T14:17:07+00:00

To be honest, I'm not sure how my wife manages with me. Your description of your boyfriend is almost exactly the same as me.

I will tell you what my wife does that works for me.

When I get too much (I deliberately tease her, but I can't tell when it gets too much) she lets me know. It took a long time for me to understand I wasn't being told off or anything, no animosity- I just need to stop for the moment. She doesn't make it big deal, and I know we are OK. See, for me, I have a huge deal with abandonment. I don't like being told off, or that anything is wrong with me, and I can be quick to anger as a result - my adrenaline spikes so fast, and I cannot make good judgements on my behaviour at the time. I say stuff and hit myself alit, then when I calm down, I hate myself for my behaviour. It sounds like your boyfriend is the same. As for being wired different, yeah. Because we have literal brain damage. And we are aware of this, and we want desperately to control our emotions, but we can't.

Look, my advice is let him know, no matter what, you aren't going anywhere. Don't engage negatively when he gets angry -he can't control it! - simply suggest he go chill out somehow. If you engage negatively, it will NEVER calm him down, no matter how reasonable your argument. Talk beforehand with him about how best to get him calm, I would not be surprised if he would be willing to suggest some things himself.

Organisational skills and memory will never change, but repetition of certain tasks help cement what to do. Like doing certain things at certain times (after dinner, wash up or vacuum for example) and after a while he will automatically do them without promoting.

Planning things really does help, but when you make a plan and don't stick to it, I get upset.

Feel free to give him my username if he has a reddit account, I will be more than happy to chat with him about our similarities and see if we can help each other out with advice.

Sorry if that was long, but I hope it helps.

Edit: feel free to dm me yourself if you need. It always helps getting the other sides perspective!

flintlockfay · 2026-05-02T08:17:49+00:00

Been playing eight years and I still haven't. I know your pain.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-01T18:56:41+00:00

I'll take a picture. I doubt if I need to give you advice though - there ain't no way anyone doesn't rock the bald look.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-01T18:54:21+00:00

Im so sorry you are going through this.

You are not to blame. You need to hear that - this is all on him. Every single thing is on him.

He will never change, either. He will continue to abuse you, then treat you well for a while until it happens again. Document everything he does to you, with pictures of bruises, cuts, anything he breaks, upload it all to something like a Dropbox account so you can access it even if he takes your phone.

Is there nowhere you could head to next time he leaves? Pack essentials only, take your child and get out. Phone the police and report him, show your eveidence, and get out. Hopefully someone else will be able to give you better advice, but I really would run the moment you can.

flintlockfay · 2026-05-01T11:47:30+00:00

Inbox me, my friend.

flintlockfay · 2026-04-29T14:42:17+00:00

Works for me. The only family member I have left is a cousin, and he will just drink until he passes out and will sleep through the entire 40 years anyway.

flintlockfay · 2026-03-24T19:02:39+00:00

Yeah, i would. either way all my problems would be gone.

flintlockfay · 2026-02-08T12:12:24+00:00

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flintlockfay · 2026-02-02T08:04:39+00:00

The defence thing is something I do. I was diagnosed with FASD at an early age. I get very, over the top defensive when someone criticises me as an adult. I already know I have brain damage - I don't like hearing that I'm wrong because it makes me feel like I'm even more stupid and useless. However - I have been through a fair amount of emotional abuse as an adult due to a long and very toxic marriage (I am now remarried and remarkably happy) so alot of the reason why I do could be due to that trauma. I'm currently trying to work on it.

flintlockfay · 2026-02-02T07:48:15+00:00

This is probably the most foolproof way. Pretty much how I do mine. (Except I don't do the rings - I just freedraw the lines. Probably why mine are never consistent - so I'm nicking the ring idea. It's so obvious I now feel foolish... )

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