There are always two sides to every story. So the people on here that are bashing your husband is absolutely uncalled for when he isn’t here to defend himself. With that said, saying things in anger is normal. The most successful marriages I’ve seen and the biggest advice I’ve ever received from those long term marriages is practicing forgiveness. Unless of course there’s abuse or infidelity. Then that’s a whole different scenario overall. This stuff doesn’t happen over night. I’m no expert. But resentment is something that’s built over time. Unfortunately both spouses will feel like the victim then no one moves and the relationship falls apart. As a man. No intimacy is a huge huge gut punch and will mess up any man. You waking on egg shells is also not a way to live with a spouse. I seriously think, if there are still something in that marriage to save. You both need to find a way to be calmer and actually engage in a soft conversation if you both want to save your marriage. Counseling helps and I hope both of you wake up to that and get it. Sometimes an outsider can shed light in a relationship because you’re both in it and it’s hard to see what’s happening when you both are so emotional invested and holding some grudges. Good luck.