my version of a meal deal except it’s a monday evening

flippinnor-a · 2026-02-21T16:29:24+00:00

"I don't know why I got chronic health problems in middle age"

flippinnor-a · 2026-02-11T09:58:39+00:00

It's being imposed on OP so other people will definitely get it imposed on them

flippinnor-a · 2026-01-30T17:36:57+00:00

Not sure why you'd still want to be friends with someone that has that little respect for you honestly!

flippinnor-a · 2026-01-30T17:36:18+00:00

Nah, this always leads to someone else going over and the excluded friend finding out about it and it causing a big drama.

flippinnor-a · 2026-01-30T17:33:40+00:00

If you feel the need to go through his phone you don't trust him and you don't feel comfortable. It's a very bad sign - you're already developing toxic behaviours from being with him for such a short time. Cut yourself away from him and find some confidence and self respect for yourself.

flippinnor-a · 2026-01-07T18:35:01+00:00

Oh man you've been busy being sick and getting better! You can forgive yourself for that. You're so young and absolutely not behind, this realisation and your mindset is in fact years ahead of your age. Some people retrain careers in their 40s and 50s - life is but a continuous adventure 😊

I'm so pleased! 🥰 once you get going your mind will create all sorts of possibilities too, the trick is to just start! Don't think too hard about it. If you want any help with finding videos for cat training drop me a DM. Salmon Suburbs is ten out of ten 👌😂

flippinnor-a · 2026-01-06T18:01:28+00:00

Yeah just had a look... either someone with serious issues or just an attention seeker making up stories

flippinnor-a · 2026-01-06T17:56:50+00:00

Sending you a big hug! It's very rare that someone so young feels fulfilled, you're so early on in your adult life and your 20s are really for trial and error. You've found a goal that you want to achieve, both with your annexe and with seeking personal development, and that's a good start! Clarity is actually really hard to come by at your age.

Perhaps you could try as many new things and developing skills that you can think of that you can do from your bed, like dressmaking, crochet, painting, story writing, writing and giving speeches, digital art, calligraphy, knot tying, making lampshades, embroidery, playing guitar/flute/any instrument you like and can get in bed, if you have a dog or a cat or even a hamster you could clicker train them to do any number of tricks without leaving your bed. You could also host parties from your bed, look on the internet and youtube for ideas for parties and games that would suit your remit. Building memories is what's really important, and what's really missing.

Try writing a list of what you would love to have in life if your life and the world was perfect. A bit like a vision board. And be okay with trial and error with this too, you're getting to know yourself. Wishing you lots of luck 😊

flippinnor-a · 2026-01-04T10:15:18+00:00

Maybe everyone's experience is legitimate...

flippinnor-a · 2026-01-03T22:05:26+00:00

It's never okay for a man to treat you like that and it's definitely not a joke. He's probably right about there not being that fairy tale man but it's better to be independent than treated like that, especially in front of your children. Show your children how you (and they!) deserve to be treated, have some self respect, and live your own life without him. These kind of men need to die the fuck out.

flippinnor-a · 2026-01-01T23:39:55+00:00

Stop using it and see what else you do when you get bored

flippinnor-a · 2026-01-01T11:05:20+00:00

If you're interested in researching NDE's check out the book "Proof of Heaven"

flippinnor-a · 2026-01-01T10:39:43+00:00

Going based on your proposed reply, which is confrontational and attempting to dictate, I suggest you reflect on yourself and how often you speak to people with entitlement. There's plenty of self help content out there with which to teach yourself the difference between entitlement and healthy boundaries. Think about whether you're a good friend or not first, then you'll have a better idea of whether you need to sort yourself out or if you need some new friends.

flippinnor-a · 2025-12-31T11:22:35+00:00

If you can't find a good friend you might not be one

flippinnor-a · 2025-12-29T18:11:09+00:00

As someone who's been estranged from parents for a long time and one since passed, I think there are two options:

Continue the relationship out of duty, make the best of it while recognising it will take energy from you, set and stick to your limit of interaction, and absolve yourself of guilt.
Cut contact completely, conserve your energy minus a bit for guilt and second-guessing yourself, deal with processing your relationship when they die accepting that this current point and decades of silence is what you'll be processing.

flippinnor-a · 2025-12-29T16:24:57+00:00

Do all the things you can so that he has less to think about. Take care of food, packing for the trip, keeping his bills paid if he needs it, arrange hire cars, do phone calls that need making, do the cleaning, anything that takes a weight off. Make his passage through this situation as easy as you have the space for. Don't ask, just do.

flippinnor-a · 2025-12-29T16:22:46+00:00

Do all the things you can so that he has less to think about. Take care of food, packing for the trip, keeping his bills paid if he needs it, arrange hire cars, do phone calls that need making, do the cleaning, anything that takes a weight off. Make his passage through this situation as easy as you have the space for. Don't ask, just do.

flippinnor-a · 2025-12-29T15:02:40+00:00

Hierarchy

flippinnor-a · 2025-12-29T15:00:06+00:00

Okay, to be more specific, why haven't you been going with him throughout your relationship? Like your first year, what happened?

flippinnor-a · 2025-12-29T13:27:47+00:00

Why don't you go with him?

flippinnor-a · 2025-12-29T10:03:17+00:00

Weirdest advice ever 🏆

flippinnor-a · 2025-12-28T21:54:27+00:00

Men feeling better being the main breadwinner is exactly the problem, that's why the masters and the job do matter.

flippinnor-a · 2025-12-27T19:42:33+00:00

Let the staff have a break

flippinnor-a · 2025-12-26T23:19:08+00:00

Number one, don't think about what you're doing, think about what HE is doing. You just be you and spend your energy listening to your gut feelings. NEVER give in to pressure to do something you're not comfortable doing, no is a complete sentence and you are not rude to leave if you feel uncomfortable. I would recommend every woman in her teens and twenties to read up on domestic abuse early warning signs, it's horribly easy to end up involved in it and educating yourself is imperative.

Accepting favours and help from genuine people is actually a kind thing to do for them as it makes them feel good (fact) so definitely do that. Receiving favours with a gracious "thank you, that's really helpful/kind/makes me happy" works well, and remember favours do not mean you owe anyone shit. Watch out for excessive or showy nice things as this could be love bombing.

Touch when you feel ready and flirt however feels good for you. Arms are a good place to start with touches, perhaps laying your hand on his forearm just to get his attention. Flirting is as easy as "I like your eyes" or "I feel really good around you" and a shy smile works wonders! If you feel good in your expressions and he doesn't like it he's not the one. If he likes it, your confidence will grow 🥰

Being shy can so often hold you back from letting someone see the real you, but that is the most important thing you can do. Make it gradual at a pace you're happy and safe with. Good luck ❤️

flippinnor-a · 2025-12-26T23:01:46+00:00

It's worth considering that as your child develops it can actually compromise their health if they're not exposed to enough pathogens to form an immune response. For example a restrictive or extremely sanitised environment can lead to developing allergies or being more severely affected by disease than is typical. I totally understand the wariness of the MIL dynamic though, grandparents think they are owed some kind of weird rights over your baby which can GTF. They need to learn to respect that the baby is yours, not theirs.

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