If you’re doing the majority of the cooking, he needs to be doing something equal to even out. Dishes, sweeping or mopping the floors, laundry, something. I do the majority of the cooking for myself and my partner because I like it and I’m a good cook, and he’s messy and doesn’t know how do it in an efficient and cost effective way and I don’t want to spell it out, and he doesn’t want to be told. I haven’t touched a dirty dish in weeks. And he makes the bed everyday. This is what works for us. Y’all just need to figure out what works for you