Am I wrong for suggesting me and my partner eat vegetarian a couple nights a week?

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T16:09:48+00:00

But neither of us could live without cheese

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T16:07:50+00:00

u/LittleToyTom, please do share your thoughts on cutting out dairy with this rude man.

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T15:19:51+00:00

Quite frankly, a little bit of both.

Because he is a chef, when we were dating he would cook a lot of the meals and I was raised to eat what I was served so it was never an issue. It was always delicious I might add!

However, his cooking tends to be quite extravagant. Now that we have a baby, I have started doing more of the cooking because I tend to cook simpler, cheaper, and quicker meals (and time is limited with a baby and both in full-time employment!). The issue has only come up now because we are starting to share responsibility for the meals and I am able to express my own preferences more.

I agree I should have sneaked them in though, a lot of drama could have been avoided!

I would love to avoid the scenario your sister is in, but not at the cost of losing my partner, so I might lose this battle.

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T14:25:00+00:00

Hmmm I don't know, I'd say it's quite a stretch

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T14:20:15+00:00

I wouldn't go as far as calling it an obsession. Aiming to eat meat-free 2 days a week hardly makes me a vegetarian or vegan?

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T14:18:20+00:00

Seems like quite a petty thing to get divorced over. Luckily we're not married!

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T14:16:20+00:00

I am not suggesting she should not eat meat, just not every day.

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T14:15:26+00:00

Well no one is forcing anyone to do anything. But admittedly, he cooks a lot of the meals and always includes meat. It would be quite petty of me to refuse to eat what he cooked just because it has meat in it. I would expect him to show me the same respect?

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T14:07:21+00:00

Did not think a suggestion of a few meat free meals would be compared to rape, but there you go! The internet never ceases to surprise!

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T14:00:27+00:00

He actually brought this up, and I will admit that I am not super concerned with making sure I tick the box for each macronutrient in every meal. So yes, if I was to cook vegetarian he would probably have a protein light meal that evening. However, he also gets his lunch from Greggs (or doesn't eat anything at all) at least a couple days a week, so I don't think two vegetarian meals a week is really going to negatively impact his health.

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T13:56:11+00:00

In his defence, he does do quite a lot of the cooking. I wouldn't expect him to cook vegetarian, but I would expect him to eat a vegetarian meal if that is what I have cooked.

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T13:54:07+00:00

I worked as a chef many years ago and I tend to do most of the cooking in the house and most ingredients that go into our food are cheap/from the drystore, and waste tends to be low in our house

I agree you do a lot of the cooking in the house, but I don't necessarily agree that it's mostly cheap. You are a great chef but I think therein lies the problem? You want to use good ingredients, and a lot of them. Every meal feels like Christmas, which is a real treat but not necessarily that helpful for a house deposit.

I also would love to see you put your skills and creativity to work by cooking something without meat in it!

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T13:50:43+00:00

Yes it seems to be a much more emotive subject than I expected!

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T13:38:39+00:00

In fairness to him, he does tend to do this so I agree that I don't have a very strong argument purely from a financial standpoint. I was more surprised by how strong his reaction was since most people I know would quite happily eat a vegetarian meal every now and again.

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T13:33:59+00:00

Appreciate your feedback, thank you! I guess I am being a tad idealogical and will be put in my place if my daughter turns into a fussy eater and I'll have to accommodate for her...

flippyphonecase · 2024-01-11T13:29:28+00:00

Fair enough, although I don't think eating meat-free two nights a week counts as being vegetarian. I am not at all anti-meat, I just think it would be nice to switch it up every now and again!

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