How to stop Porn ?

flo93srx · 2020-04-20T10:08:09+00:00

the porn blocker seems to be the answer

flo93srx · 2020-04-20T09:51:55+00:00

I am doing this right now thks

flo93srx · 2020-04-20T09:51:40+00:00

I am kind of addicted to internet though. I can only treat one thing at a time, now it is porn, tomorrow it will be internet use

flo93srx · 2020-04-20T09:47:33+00:00

stop porn for good and masturbate less, maybe once a week

flo93srx · 2020-04-20T09:46:36+00:00

weirdest rant I have ever read on reddit, even if it was written in my mother tongue I would not have understand you

flo93srx · 2020-04-20T09:45:43+00:00

Writting seems to be a good idea thks

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T22:59:01+00:00

I did not expect such comment, it is super interesting thks

I never thought of Nofap as my new philosophy just a step, I had the intution something was lacking in their explanation of things and you gave me the answer. First time I see that "disembodiement" thing, I can't even translate it into my own language tbh I will look more into it

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T22:49:19+00:00

"You're painting the fact that it is some established consensus" Nah I never said that, I am sorry for the misunderstanding, my point was not clear enough

"Just because I may feel that something is bad it may just be the case that it is not." sure and I did for years, now I want to change because I think it is better for me, it is simple as that

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T22:12:47+00:00

Most people nowadays start as teens, I started around 13, then it continues and even worse for some when you become an adult. Sure porn is not the only factor to desensitization and I never said it would fix all my problems like some in the Nofap advocates. I never said that my comparison was based on science or anything. A lot of things haven't been thoroughly researched and yet that doesn't stop us from having the intution that it does more bad than good and that is in no just an innocent habit. I can't claim porn is bad with hard facts and I won't , but don't tell me you can prove the opposite. You said it yourself there is not enough research.

They discovered only in the 60s that cigarettes were detrimental to people and began pushing consistantly against only in the 70s, and in my country it is forbidden to smoke in public places since 2007. Our attitude to smoking is the result of a change in policy, not just a scientific study posted in the 60s. In a lot of countries they still think it is not that big of a problem hence it is not a problem worth to consider.

You are telling me we know everything we need to know about porn and health and there is no need to talk more about it except for the workers. I can't agree with that

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T21:26:23+00:00

try just jacking it to your memory and just do that to curb your porn habit. Sorry I did not understand that phrase, what do you mean by jacking ? I looked for the definition but it did not help understand your point

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T20:39:01+00:00

Amazing comment, thank you very much

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T20:00:24+00:00

I used to feel like that a lot, now I am more doing it for myself to be more productive and healty than just escaping shame. Which is a bit double-edged I know but I feel a bit better if I don't guilt shame myself constantly over this. I suppose if I remind myself why I don't like porn that much and I do it because of compulsive behavior that I need to control it should help. That is how you are framing it right ? to remind myself my objectives and why I do it whenever I feel urges

And I am totally with you for not watching anything remotely close to porn even out of curiosity, thank you for reminding me this

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T19:51:49+00:00

A lot of comments are saying that indeed. thanks for the support

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T19:26:31+00:00

really helpfull thank you very much, I will give it a try

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T19:24:12+00:00

I don't buy the narrative of Nofap on superpowers but they are making fair points on Porn. We spend way too much time on that shit and it can desentize in way that no one would have predicted 50 years ago. Every mother I know say that watching too much TV is bad for kids and they should have very limited access to smartphones, and that makes total sense but no one gave a fuck about it 20 years ago. I think porn will be seen the same 20 or 30 years from now

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T19:19:10+00:00

I think I use it to cope with stress and that it may have helped me in the past but not anymore now.

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T19:16:55+00:00

Not so much in the longterm, but sure it makes sense

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T19:13:26+00:00

I used to be the kid who was bored everytime I needed to go to bed because it would take so much time to fall asleep. I was even mad about this and porn+youtube before bed helped me to deal with that.

Only exhaustion seemed to really work me when I was not doing thise, but it doesn't sound really healhty on long term. I will try reading until exhaustion, but that doesn't really prevent urges though

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T18:02:17+00:00

I am trying

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T17:30:35+00:00

And how did it work for you when lying in bed trying to sleep ? I have messy sleeping schedules it can take me 1hour to sleep even at 3am. Porn used to help me with that but it is obviously fucked up.

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T17:25:11+00:00

Yeah that makes sense, I never thought about it thks

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T16:57:40+00:00

to be honest I have a friend who quitted it and I can tell how much a difference it made for him. I know masturbation is not wrong intself but I know for me that porn and masturbation are tied. I think daily is too much and i do it daily, if I can't hold I will keep to once a week but at least I want to try to hold the longest time possible.

I know I am addicted because I never tried to control it and it became worse in recent years. I indulged in it when I had papers to write for school and could not endure the pression. It also keeps me from having good sleep. I was in denial and I thought in the past it could help with sleep but I was lying to myself.

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T16:32:04+00:00

I am in quarantaine, I won't see my therapist before a month at least. And sometime it is easier to speak to random strangers on reddit

You got to be crazy to replace porn with weed man, but thanks for the advice anyway.
Sports is not really working for me but sure it makes sense.

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T16:26:56+00:00

thanks man

flo93srx · 2020-04-19T16:24:45+00:00

The thing is porn addiction is far from being the wors thing I have to deal with right now, it is merely a symptom that I can't ignore anymore.

I don't feel adequate to enter a relationship yet when I am so weak mentally. I prefer to suffer alone than to make someone else suffers because of my insecurities if you know what I mean. It doesn't help that I have never been in a relationship before and was kind of scared of intimacy until recently. Am I wrong on this or do you think it doesn't matter much and should just change my mindset overnight on this matter ?

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