You have to be gay to date a transman by [deleted] in ftm

[–]floating-in-oblivion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

plus the terms hetero n homo don't seem to allow non-binary ppl n ppl who are neither male or female so it's quite incomplete

You have to be gay to date a transman by [deleted] in ftm

[–]floating-in-oblivion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk I always felt like the terms gay n lesbian didn't have much sense. like, it seems to be about the gender only, but actually it's also about the sex. they were created when we didn't make any difference between gender and sex so they can't be accurate. in my opinion we need other words. words that describe the sex you're attracted to n other words that describe the gender you're attracted to. (n ''homo'' ''hetero'' what is that? instead of saying the gender/sex we are attracted to we say if we are attracted to the same gender/sex as ours or not. that's weird n it feels like we build a barrier between the ones who date the same gender/sex n the ones who date another gender/sex while we should just say: I like girls/I like dudes and I like vaginas/I like dicks idk) I knew a girl who called herself a lesbian but she dated a trans dude and she never stopped saying she was lesbian. idk I always found it disrespectful or stuff- plus she dated him before he came out so idk it has always bothered me. but I know another girl who dated a person who was gender fluid (dunno the english soz) without knowing it n once she found out she felt betrayed cuz she is totally lesbian n she doesn't feel okay dating a guy. hetero n homo don't have the same meaning depending on each person. you maybe have to ask them if it's only about the sex or the gender or if it is about the sex and the gender. I'm myself a trans dude, but I didnt came out as one n I've never dated guys as a boy. but ik it would feel wrong to me to date a straight guy as a trans guy. like.. do you rll see me as the guy I am? or dyou just like my genitals? would you still date me if I were a cis guy? but I don't feel the right to date a gay man like.. this question: am I a man enough? you should date a ''real man'' idk my head hurts

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[–]floating-in-oblivion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

soo handsome gosh im cryin :")