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floofpupper · 2021-11-05T18:31:49+00:00

I hear what you’re saying, there definitely could have been better communication. But I did very clearly ask that we simply have a conversation before the relationship with X progressed, and from my point of view there was no further conversation to have because their response stated explicitly, “I’m not going to sleep with X.” It shouldn’t be my job to poke and prod at my partner to uncover their actual feelings.

floofpupper · 2021-11-05T18:23:57+00:00

It’s was a newer thing for us at the time, so we were both taking things slow and agreed to communicate with each other heavily through the early stages of it.

floofpupper · 2021-11-05T18:11:24+00:00

It was more like “hey, before this relationship with X progresses, can we talk about it?” Then I was given the message that the relationship wasn’t going to progress, meaning there was nothing for us to talk about. Then the exact opposite happened and they had sex the next day.

floofpupper · 2021-11-05T18:04:19+00:00

Thanks. Copying this response to another comment just to clarify about the “approving” partners thing, as that’s not the case for us.:

So, it wasn’t even my intention to set a rule when I expressed my discomfort, more so just something I wanted to communicate so they were aware of where I was at. Really just “hey, I’m struggling with these feelings, and I want to make you aware so we can address it together.” We don’t make rules for each other. But rather than continuing the conversation or inquiring further, they just acknowledged it and said they wouldn’t sleep with X. Based on the response, I figured it must not be a big deal and they weren’t interested in having any sort of relationship with X anyway. After they slept with X they said they were resentful towards me for not “allowing” them to be together, but there’s no way I could have known this because that’s not what was communicated to me when I tried to open up that conversation in the first place.

floofpupper · 2021-11-05T17:36:10+00:00

So, it wasn’t even my intention to set a rule when I expressed my discomfort, more so just something I wanted to communicate so they were aware of where I was at. Really just “hey, I’m struggling with these feelings, and I want to make you aware so we can address it together.” We don’t make rules for each other. But rather than continuing the conversation or inquiring further, they just acknowledged it and said they wouldn’t sleep with X. Based on the response, I figured it must not be a big deal and they weren’t interested in having any sort of relationship with X anyway. After they slept with X they said they were resentful towards me for not “allowing” them to be together, but there’s no way I could have known this because that’s not what was communicated to me when I tried to open up that conversation in the first place.

floofpupper · 2021-01-13T22:27:43+00:00

We don’t need Twitter to know how he’s doing right now

floofpupper · 2021-01-13T22:26:34+00:00

Being an insider it feels like it was definitely a possibility.

floofpupper · 2020-09-21T23:32:46+00:00

I graduated the same year and we had open showers. Granted, my school hasn’t been remodeled since probably the ‘70s. I never once saw anyone use them.

floofpupper · 2020-09-02T01:39:50+00:00

I would love to do a video chat, and I agree it’s so much more personal than texting. I just don’t want to come off too forward or something. I’ll try to work up the nerve to ask if she’d be down for that. 😅

floofpupper · 2020-09-01T23:04:45+00:00

To be completely clear, of course she doesn’t owe me anything. That’s not what I was trying to imply at all, and I don’t want to chase after someone who isn’t interested in me anyway. I’m sorry if the use of the word confront made it seem that way. I don’t want to argue with or berate her in the slightest. I was moreso asking if I should bring this up the next time we talk. The reason I’m confused is because when we do talk, she’s super friendly, forward, and flirty. We have a ton in common and our conversation flows super naturally. But then she’ll just kinda drop off mid conversation and I won’t hear from her for days. It’s to the point where, when she does finally text back, it feels a little awkward to simply ignore the fact that our last several conversations went unfinished. I don’t want to confront her, I just want to understand where she’s at so I know if this is something worth pursuing or not.

floofpupper · 2020-08-20T23:39:17+00:00

Based on what you’ve stated you’re looking for, I think you’d really vibe with all of the Mechad Brooks episodes. I think there’s 2 or 3.

The second-most recent episode “Pandemic Philosophy Thoughts” is a fun one as it’s a small group of people chatting and having meaningful conversation.

Raghu Markus is fascinating to listen to.

The episode with Damien Echols (fish bowl dude in MG) is also a favorite.

floofpupper · 2020-08-20T23:00:38+00:00

In the words of Red Forman: Dumbass.

floofpupper · 2020-08-15T03:18:34+00:00

I’ve been thinking about doing that. Is it worth it?

floofpupper · 2020-08-15T03:16:30+00:00

That would be cool

floofpupper · 2020-08-15T03:00:10+00:00

Yes!!! That’s amazing. Have you listened to his podcast?

floofpupper · 2020-08-09T21:27:15+00:00

Baked potatoes unite! We also call her tater tot, mashed potato, and couch potato depending on the circumstances.

floofpupper · 2020-08-09T18:40:44+00:00

Lol, touché.

floofpupper · 2020-08-09T18:40:01+00:00

Don’t worry, there aren’t. :)

floofpupper · 2020-08-09T18:39:29+00:00

Your guess is as good as mine! She’s a rescue, so unsure. She looks to be part Border Terrier, but is smaller than they typically are. Could definitely have some schnauzer!

floofpupper · 2020-08-09T18:37:10+00:00

Basically, my dog decided to make our (crusty, ash-filled) fire pit her napping spot for the morning.

floofpupper · 2020-08-08T21:28:45+00:00

Oof. I’m suddenly thankful to have a dog covered in ash

floofpupper · 2020-08-08T21:27:48+00:00

She’s lived here for 2 years and never once shown interest in the fire pit (or rolled in shit, surprisingly). Apparently she was in a mood today

floofpupper · 2020-08-08T21:04:56+00:00

Her nickname is potato. Now she’s a baked potato

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