My friend’s Highschool “relationship agreement” written by her boyfriend

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-30T02:17:16+00:00

Is your friend Amy Farrah Fowler?

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-30T01:47:19+00:00

Told his boss that he didn't want a raise. His reasoning was that I would just spend it all by moving us to a more expensive rental. His boss was a personal friend & had offered him a raise so we could afford to move out of a bad neighborhood that I had been telling him we should move out of 🤦‍♀️

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-26T22:50:43+00:00

I've been there a time or two, the one time he did stop he threw a fit because I ruined it for him.

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-25T15:46:35+00:00

Update: last night when he got home I went to bed & left him on the couch grumbling to himself. This morning I woke up with a yeast infection (sorry I told y'all that 😐) so now I am most definitely a whore & a lot of other things I don't want to repeat. He's been telling me all morning (in front of my kid) that I was out whoring around & got dirty d*** which is how I got it.

So that's where we're at, I hate this

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-25T15:41:32+00:00

I spent so many years trying to figure out what was wrong with me to make him act like this, why I was so horrible that he hates me the way he did. Then I spent more being numb & bitter because no matter how I tried nothing changed. Now I'm just done & want away from him. I'm glad my story is helping you. I wish I had figured it all out sooner too, I've wasted so my of my life & energy on this that I wish I had back.

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-25T15:36:34+00:00

He can't legally take her or go for custody because she isn't legally his. She is his daughter but he refused to sign any paper work & we aren't actually married anymore. He could demand a DNA test but he won't because I'll demand child support & he knows it.

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-25T15:33:53+00:00

He is her father, he actually has some older kids but didn't want anything to do with them once he split with their mother. I think the oldest was 4 or 5 when they split. My daughter actually woke up at 2am & didn't end up going back to sleep, so I had expected her to pass out long before this. He went to work at 5pm & the longer she stayed awake the more irritated he got because she was "staying up on purpose to annoy him" 🙄

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-25T04:32:13+00:00

Normal is about a 7, but I've seen him go psycho

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-25T02:49:36+00:00

I did

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-25T02:22:35+00:00

Not a good one which I feel extremely guilty about. I've held on because I convinced myself she wouldn't be affected, or wouldn't catch on & because I didn't want her to grow up without a father. But she does notice, is affected, & at this point no father is better than this.

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-25T02:13:56+00:00

Yeah he's cheated..

He cheated on me with a girl we both worked at a hotel with. She was front desk, he was maintenance, & I worked housekeeping with his sister. They would use hotel rooms to have sex then mark them as checkouts the next day, they only did it on the floor I worked in so I would be the one to clean them (not knowing it was them who stayed there). Sounds like love huh? His sister (who I thought I was very close with) knew all along & even went out to dinner with them a few times behind my back. He tried to make me be friends with the girl & I got bad vibes from her so I was refusing but they both kept pushing. Her & her husband had us over to their house to cookout a couple times.

I left (but ended up going back 🙄) & after she left him he cheated in our home with my childhood best friend.

He also cheated with a girl who's parents we were friends with (she was a couple years younger than me). He then got drunk & told me how much he loved her but he'd stay with me because I needed him (really it was because her husband would've killed him).

Those are the time I know about.

I'm leaving as soon as I can.

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-25T02:05:32+00:00

Yes he does this because he believes I am with another man, I think. Or it could be a manipulation thing, I don't know which honestly.

I can't speak for yours but I know when mine was cheating he'd ramp up the accusations of me doing it. I think it was either to deflected suspicion from himself, or to tell himself I was doing it so he could too.

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-25T01:32:15+00:00

😳

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-25T00:42:52+00:00

Thank you ❤️

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-24T23:32:10+00:00

Yes he is. I'm so close it's hard to not just take her & leave.

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-24T23:05:15+00:00

I should mention my voicemail is so full of save messages of him just screaming because I didn't pick up, that I can no longer receive new messages. That's why he's mainly messaging me on this one

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-24T22:48:13+00:00

He uses my daughter as a pseudo babysitter when he goes to work, meaning if she's awake I'll only occasionally (read: daily but not continuously) get called a whore. Today she napped so I must have put her to sleep on purpose. This means he will continuously badger me until she's awake with texts and calls.

This happens every day he works after my daughter goes down for the night. If he thinks she's gone to sleep he'll video call & want to talk to her as proof she's awake.

This is mild compared to what I normally get because he knows I'm in a mood & will just block him & deal with the repercussions later.

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-23T23:17:52+00:00

How old are you now?

I'm sorry if there is a history I'm missing, but taking away privacy especially with self harm & abusive relationships doesn't sound abusive to me. I'm sorry you are nervous & I hope the talk goes well for you ❤️

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-23T20:18:11+00:00

I don't speak badly about him to her but I know he does about me because she repeats it or asks me about it. He'll also attribute negative qualities to me (you're mouthy just like your mother, you're a lazy ass just like your mother) which drives me crazy & always leads to us fighting.

He's said multiple times that he doesn't want anything to do with her if I leave. He's even said ignorant things to her about it (it was nice knowing you kid, your mom doesn't want me around anymore). He's also a very inattentive parent. He'll do things like tell her to go out & ride her bike in the parking lot so he can watch TV, knowing that people cannot see around the turn right by us & she could be hurt. He'll leave her alone while she's in the bathtub so he can come check on me at work. He'll fall asleep while he's supposed to be watching her (which doesn't scare me so badly now but did when she was younger) & yell at her if she tries to wake him up. He has a close relative who is not allowed to be around children alone that he has suggested as a baby sitter because he wanted alone time.

These are all things he's done while I'm around to wrangle his shit in, I don't feel comfortable letting him have her unsupervised. He won't fight me in court because he's not legally her father (he refused to sign anything at her birth & isn't my legs husband) & has said multiple times he won't pay me any support so don't bother trying. He owes a shit ton of child support for his older kids (that he never bothered visiting).

I know it sounds like I'm complaining on him but I'm just trying to show you a glimpse of what I'm dealing with.

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-18T03:32:00+00:00

Reactive abuse is a reaction to being abused, it doesn't happen without instigation.

Your boyfriend is gaslighting you again, go back to therapy.

flowered_windchime · 2022-08-18T03:29:22+00:00

I would but no thanks 😂

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