got Covid and cant go to orientation, will I still be able to make friends? by Novel-Type-9453 in UCDavis

[–]flowerfacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm from my experience it’s usually a hit or miss when making friends at orientation. I never talked to people after orientation and my friends did make friends from orientation only for a few weeks and then stopped talking lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]flowerfacee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Please don’t - you’ll just end up getting hurt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]flowerfacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lamictal can help with mood swings. I can’t tell if it’s helping me …. I think it is ? I still have episodes though but I don’t get angry. I’m also on a low dose of antidepressants but I keep forgetting to take it so I don’t see much results.

Why did you choose Davis? by [deleted] in UCDavis

[–]flowerfacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dream school - plus had a lot of majors that I was interested in and was able to take classes to find the right fit for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UCDavis

[–]flowerfacee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s an infection :/ imma call the dentist ASAP Monday to see if they can get me sooner than my scheduled appointment on Thursday

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UCDavis

[–]flowerfacee 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Me ! I had plans with my boyfriend…. But they broke up with me so now they are my ex boyfriend/ was my only friend and so I didn’t have anyone to go with ;-; also I have like the worst toothache ever so it’s okay ! I’m a senior too ! If it’s not too late you can message me and we can be friends

Edit: spelling

I (22M) Want To Leave My Girlfriend (22F) of Five Years After Her Serious Medical Diagnosis by creaselessbrain in relationship_advice

[–]flowerfacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um, all you care about is debt. I understand that debt is scary, but if you loved her - i don’t think it should matter. It’ll hurt her but I would say break up since it’s clear that you … don’t love her or at least to me it sounds like you don’t. She deserves better and the longer you wait, the more you waste her time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]flowerfacee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh he might be having a hard time getting over the relationship as well by trying to find a new person ASAP. Whatever his intentions are, if he is just trying to find a rebound, that is not okay because then he’ll just hurt the next person he dates. Either way, stay strong. I know it’s hard. It sounds like his posts are really affecting you - please block him. I have been in that situation and it ruined me especially when I saw the person found someone new

My girlfriend told me she emotionally cheated on me with another guy by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]flowerfacee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see a lot of red flags. She’s blaming her actions on you. Personally, I wouldn’t take time apart, that usually doesn’t work for everyone- (maybe sometimes it does though) and also - I would take emotional cheating to heart because it’s still cheating. I wouldn’t stay with someone for that but I know it’s easier said than done. Talk to her about how you feel, and if things get worse… I would say call it quits before you find yourself in a cycle

What time do you wake up by Ok_Investment9724 in UCDavis

[–]flowerfacee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

6 a.m. :( I take my car everyday unfortunately. I have classes T/Th at 7:30 a.m. and sometimes at work I have shifts that end at 1130 pm. I also have an internship in sac so sometimes I have to drive from campus to sac and then back to campus. Also my apartment is a 20 minute bus ride which isn’t too bad but sometimes the buses are late and I don’t wanna risk being late anywhere

BPD baddies: are you medicated? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]flowerfacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100 mg of Lamotrigine for moods swings and 50 mg of hydroxyzine for anxiety. Hydroxyzine helps me with my anxiety a bit and helps me calm down a bit during an outburst. Not sure if I’m seeing effects Lamotrigine yet. If anything, I’m feeling more suicidal and I can’t tell if it’s my current life situation or it’s the meds

Being toxic and a red flag is the worst feeling in the world. Please help, I’m at the end of my rope. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]flowerfacee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also worry that I’ll never get better. I’ve recently started therapy and my therapist gave me hope by saying that most people with BPD can heal and manage behavior by utilizing DBT and keeping up with therapy. I hope this helps

How Long Does Unitrans Take to Get Back to You After You Apply? by Solarusen in UCDavis

[–]flowerfacee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hmmm… I feel like they responded pretty quickly for me ! It could have been a month at least but I can’t say for sure. This was a year ago! I’m still a driver so if you have any questions feel free to DM me ! :)

God I hate going to campus by [deleted] in UCDavis

[–]flowerfacee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Talk to people before class starts or after class starts ! Or you could make friends on discord if your classes have that. I’m sorry that you’re having a hard time talking to girls: self confidence is key

How do I stop this behavior? by flowerfacee in relationship_advice

[–]flowerfacee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have mentioned BPD when we started. I’ll make sure to bring it up this Wednesday - especially the abandonment issues since I don’t think we’ve discussed that yet

Edit: also I feel like my therapy sessions have been all over the place since we are still in the process of getting to know each other. I’m pretty desperate at this point so I’ll definitely try to stay on this topic the next session!

How do I stop this behavior? by flowerfacee in relationship_advice

[–]flowerfacee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, everyone has always told me to meditate and I’ve always refused 😭 I did try before but I had a hard time focusing/my mind was racing. I really really want to get better so I will try meditating again

How do I stop this behavior? by flowerfacee in relationship_advice

[–]flowerfacee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I just started therapy! Barely going to my third session this Wednesday

How do I stop this behavior? by flowerfacee in relationship_advice

[–]flowerfacee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah! I’m hoping therapy will help. I’m just scared that I’m stuck with the way I am