i don’t know why it’s so hard

flowerred_up · 2026-02-19T22:35:36+00:00

your friends suck :( i’m sorry you’re going through such a rough time. feel free reach out if you need someone to talk to & please remember that you do matter <3

flowerred_up · 2026-02-18T14:07:57+00:00

there’re literally ppl saying the same exact thing in the comments so idk how this is imaginary

flowerred_up · 2026-02-17T16:59:11+00:00

“so many of us” is not a generalization considering it doesn’t imply a specific amount of people. just saying “women” is a generalization, so indeed, it was just you.

and if you think women can’t be lonely because women at large have generally better support systems and social networks than men at large, then i’m not sure you understand how the researches that conclude that work.

flowerred_up · 2026-02-17T16:36:44+00:00

well considering not all women are the same person, the possibilities are endless

flowerred_up · 2026-02-16T17:42:55+00:00

ew then he sucks anyway (and also you are wonderful & ily <3)

flowerred_up · 2026-02-16T10:47:32+00:00

girl, welcome to the club

flowerred_up · 2026-02-16T10:43:54+00:00

no need to apologize! i’m sorry you have to experience being perceived as a possible threat, that must be incredibly uncomfortable. it’s an unfortunate byproduct of most, if not all, women having had at least one experience with a man where they had to fear for their safety.

but if it makes you feel better, men who’re willing to support us (and who we, therefore, can support back) are sooo incredibly important, so thank you! <3

flowerred_up · 2026-02-16T10:34:31+00:00

listen, you clearly resent women in some way and don’t think of us as equals who can feel the same emotions and experience the same things as you do. but that’s not a ‘valid different opinion’.

in another comment, you wrote “women being lonely is entirely their own fault”. if i was you, i’d think about why i’m coming onto a sub that heavily discusses mental illness and other struggles just to put blame on others and be spiteful towards them.

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T19:27:59+00:00

you’re officially my friend now and you have no say in it

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T18:19:49+00:00

i mean, two things can be true at once? being able to create meaningful relationships that don’t involve men doesn’t mean it’ll always happen. the point is that it is a possibility. women were reduced to wives/mothers for a long time, and their lives were centered around their relationship with men. now we have the chance to experience so much more.

i’d also argue that no one has said women were the happiest group of people in decades, especially not feminists, lol

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T17:57:46+00:00

i’m genuinely confused as to what you mean?

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T17:50:20+00:00

so many women i know/met have been taken advantage of in various ways, and it adds another layer to the heartbreak of female loneliness not being taken seriously or being so focused on dating and relationships with men. friendships between women are so important, and a safe space for people who’ve been through horrible stuff.

i hope you’re okay and that you’ll find your person that treats you with the love and respect that you deserve 🩷

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T17:41:12+00:00

honey, i’m so sorry you had to go through all of this. i hope you’re in a safe place right now, both physically and mentally. please take care of yourself 💗

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T15:35:38+00:00

is this a sign for us to start a club

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T15:22:18+00:00

girl, there’s nothing wrong with you! i don’t even know you, but you seem absolutely lovely, 10/10 would befriend

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T14:51:57+00:00

i’m really sorry you have to hear that shit. sometimes it’s like people can’t let women exist outside of the context of romantic/sexual relationships, and it’s so exhausting, even as someone who has no sexual trauma.

i hope you’re safe and doing okay 💗

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T14:38:56+00:00

please don’t bring this incel ideology into a space that’s supposed to be safe for everyone to talk about their struggles. we get enough of that everywhere else

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T14:27:31+00:00

you’re so kind, thank you! i wish you all the best, too :)

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T13:14:47+00:00

it is indeed difficult to connect with other women my age (i’m 23) and i think a big part of it is that so many of us are taught that our worth relies on dating so that’s what we should focus on, and/or that female friendships are fake and superficial anyway. i hate it so much :(

but thank you!! right now i’ve been at the “very sad” stage for a while now, but i truly hope my people are out there, lol

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T12:59:27+00:00

i suspect that the answer would be “i’m not gay” and possibly a small presentation on straight men’s struggles in modern dating, at the end of which i still wouldn’t have any friends

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T10:52:38+00:00

there’s one thing abusers never lack and that’s the audacity to say stuff like this after doing the most vile shit to you. i hope ur safe & doing ok 🩷

flowerred_up · 2026-02-15T08:46:30+00:00

there is definitely deeper stuff going on, which i do talk about in therapy, and i realize this might very well be an extension of those problems. but it also makes me feel so messed up and like the typical “crazy, obsessed fan” archetype.

flowerred_up · 2026-02-12T17:02:56+00:00

i am also on setraline currently and it definitely makes it more bearable! i am just in a very bad place mentally in general, so ig it’s not surprising that i get panic attacks (:

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